(Closed) Holy crap i'm pregnant…but what about my wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Brimuz1992:  Congratulations!!

If this is still fairly new news, just give yourself a moment to let it all set in, don’t make any decisions just yet. Once you have a bit of clarity, look at all your options, the pros and cons and decide what is really important. Even if your ‘dream’ wedding has to change a little, I have no doubt it will still be just as special!

I can totally understand that logistically, you have a lot on your mind right now but oh my gosh.. you have so many exciting things to look forward to as well! Enjoy it! πŸ™‚

Post # 3
560 posts
Busy bee

I think your January 2016 wedding is still doable for sure- yes, you will have a one year old. No, you won’t be able to do tons of irresponsible drinking/gambling/etc…but if you already have stuff booked/money down, it is doable.

I guess that your dress fitting would partially be mother nature, but from what I have heard (I am due in 6 weeks) if you work at it you can usually be back to pretty close to your prebaby weight within 8mo-1 year no problem. Your waist/hip measurements might be a little different, but probably not by enough to trash the whole dress idea.

As far as getting married super fast for insurance- have you looked at a domestic partnership? We are waiting to get married until our son is old enough to be a ring bearer, but since my insurance acknowledges domestic partnerships we are doing that now so that FH can be on my insurance. In our state it is $50 to get one. We (and by we I mean I haha) wasn’t willing to get married super fast just because of our baby…I want the wedding I want when I am the size I want to be so I am not rushing anything πŸ™‚

Post # 4
314 posts
Helper bee

Why don’t you Just do do the city hall thing and then do a big to do after tyour settled with the baby? Congrats!

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Post # 5
36 posts


I echo an earlier response to not make any decisions right in this moment, but I bet you’d like some cool options to think about.  What about nixing the dress and the 2016 wedding because they’re both further out than is ideal for you and using whatever funds you have left and resources you already have in your possession to throw a kickin’ reception in a few months?  You could get married at city hall right away, and still have a party within a timeframe where it still seems like a celebration to you. 

Best of luck to you!

Post # 6
87 posts
Worker bee

Domestic partnership may have a higher tax liability on the pay (meaning like an extra 80 paid off in taxes per paycheck). I think that you need to think about it but a marriage at city hall is not a poor choice. A real big wedding on January 2016 is completely doable, it is better to have gotten the dress now really if you take the time to drop the baby weight the 9 months following. Congrats!!

Post # 8
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Brimuz1992:  I’m sorry that this has become a big shock in your system. I do believe though that you could still make your 2016 january wedding work! that is still more than 18 months away and the baby would arrive by then with all things going smoothly.

May I ask what kind of symptoms you had apart from not getting your period? I use BC and sometimes I worry as well πŸ™ 

Post # 9
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

things happen for a reason. Try not to stress about whats out of your control (fitting in your dress) somethings will be different than you originally intended, but different doesnt mean less/worse/bad. Its just different. Best advice is to plan what you can. Shop  for a back up dress, find one and wait untill the last possible minute to order it (incase you cant use your first choice).

Theres a lot of time between now and January 2016. More than 1 year and a half. So you have some time to adjust to the changes and such. 

Congrats πŸ™‚ 


Post # 10
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you can absolutely still make your 2016 wedding work!

I became pregnant a little earlier than planned (8 months before our scheduled wedding). I already had things booked and my dress arrived 3 weeks after I found out I was pregnant.

We ended up moving the wedding date to 8 months after I gave birth. I had NO issues with fitting back into my size 2 dress. From breastfeeding, I actually lost more weight, and had to have the dress taken in a bit (plus, I had awesome breastfeeding boobs which allowed me to “fill out” the dress better up top! lol!)

You have lots of time to make some minor adjustments to your wedding plans if need be. If you are able to breastfeed, or even consider cloth diapering, the cost of a new baby is minimal after you buy a carseat and a crib! That first year really was not a huge change for us financially.

Good luck and congrats on your expected bundle πŸ™‚

Post # 11
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have no idea about babies in regards to costs and baby weight but I think you could get marry secretly and just don’t tell anyone or change your name yet. Or wear your bands. if you’re anything like me you’ll forget and still be excited for the wedding lol

and I also wanted to say congratulations!! πŸ™‚ x

Post # 12
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am confused about why you think you can’t have your wedding dress after you have your baby.  You’ll have a full year to get yourself back into great shape.  Like another poster, I weigh less now than before I became pregnant.<br /><br />Let it sink in and try to enjoy!!  Congratulations!!

Post # 13
3507 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Brimuz1992:  First things first, Congrats! Secondly, your 2016 wedding is 100% do-able!

I got pregnant in September 2013 and my wedding is November 2014. We did the quick city hall and are sitll going to have our big wedding and our son will only be 6 months! If we can do you, you can do it!! You have time to loose the weight and make it happen.

Your Mother-In-Law is right! It may be unplanned but not unwanted. When I found out I was pregnant I was “selfish” and was upset to be a mom before a bride, but after I got over it (took like a week) I was on cloud 9! I have a beautiful baby boy growing inside of me (due in just 10 days) and I’m so blessed, and now so are YOU!

Embrace it! Lots of luck to you and yours. May you have a wonderful pregnancy, healthy child, and beautiful wedding.

Post # 14
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I wanted to congratulate you on quitting smoking as well as on your pregnancy! I know it’s hard but I have a lot of respect for you doing everything you can for your baby!

Also, I would do a city hall wedding with maybe just your nearest and dearest (like parents) and then throw an awesome reception party in Oregon once the baby’s here and you can wear your dress. 

Post # 15
963 posts
Busy bee

Get married before the baby, and do a vow renewal with the wedding of your dreams in 2016. That’s what I would do. I’m sure you’ll be able to fit into your dress!

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