(Closed) Holy crap this is going to be AWKWARD—HALP!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

She needs to get ahold of him NOW and tell him she’s with someone else and has no interest in him.  That way, he can cancel his flight.  You stated he’s at a friend’s house near the airport, so that means his flight hasn’t left.  If he manages to come to town, then she needs to give him directions to the nearest hotel and avoid seeing him.

Post # 4
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, how about you tell the guy he can’t stay here?

Your roommate is asking for trouble, letting this guy come, stay over, and sleep over. Her hands are NOT tied–all she has to do is say no. By letting him stay over, she’s begging for trouble.

Post # 5
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MissHoneyBun: I dunno but I will be logging on tomorrow to see how this unfolds!

Post # 6
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


She needs to call him now (no, seriously, RIGHT NOW) and tell him not to get on a plane tomorrow. Barring that, she should make up a list of motels in the area for you to give to him when he shows up on your step tomorrow. If she lets him stay on the couch, that’s just sending mixed signals and setting herself up for disaster.

Post # 7
5653 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think she should text him back and say he can’t come.

Post # 8
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Uh….don’t open the door when he comes!  I don’t care how far he traveled, under no circumstances would I see him, speak with him and certainly not let him in my house, if I were either of you.

Post # 9
10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

He sounds like a class act. Like the PP’s have said, she needs to get ahold of him and tell him that he needs to make other arrangements. She is in a great relationship now, she doesn’t need to have anything to do with “P”. I imagine her boyfriend would not be too thrilled knowing that “P” was staying with you guys. 

Post # 10
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I wouldn’t let him in. Why doesn’t she call him and tell him not to come? I don’t get it.

Post # 11
58 posts
Worker bee

WHAT!!!! No no no. He cannot come and stay over unless your friend wants to be single again. If her new bf finds out it will be disastarous… couch or not. She needs to stand up and put a stop to this guy using her. Does he have a key? Who is going to let him in? If it were me he’d be standing outside knocking on the door all day especially since he invited himself. I would have serious problems if my bf’s ex came and stayed with him regauardless of the reason. Her hands are not tied she does not run a hotel he can’t just pop up whenever he desires. Tell her to put her big girl panties on and DO NOT let him in the house under any circumstances!!!

Post # 12
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

does the roommate’s bf know what’s going on?  i agree with the others, i think this is a recipe for a disaster.  besides, why is she obligated to be courteous to P when he’s not been courteous to her?  she needs to tell him before he shows up her door and everything blows up.

Post # 14
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

She needs to tell him now and if he is already on the plane, then as soon as he lands!  NOthing good ever comes frm having an ex around and just spells disaster.  He should not stay in the house and she should feel she has no obligations to him. The best you can do is be there to suport her, but with what you have described, it sounds like P. is going to manipulate the situation and cause major problems.  Good luck and I hope she does the right thing!

Post # 15
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with the PP’s….she needs to tell him now. And she def should not let him sleep over. How would her boyfriend feel about her ex, who has no idea he exists, sleeping over? Is it worth the risk to her current relationship?

Post # 16
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If he shows up, she needs to send him to a hotel.  He can not stay there. 

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