(Closed) Holy Crap-What do I do?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I looked through your posts and saw you had a miscarriage a year ago? How did he react to that pregnancy and that loss?

Post # 48
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Busy bee

@bookworm88 (sorry, iPod won’t let me reply properly)-personally, I’d rather have people on the Internet scare me into seeing my doctor asap than wait and risk having a Fallopian tube rupture. I would also want to have the option to terminate early so I wouldn’t have to deal with whatever complications might be associated with being pregnant while still having an IUD inside me.

But maybe that’s just me.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I went on the IUD website & it says this:

What happens if I get pregnant while using Mirena?

In the uncommon event you get pregnant while using Mirena, seek emergency care because pregnancy with Mirena can be life threatening and may result in loss of pregnancy or fertility. Learn more about pregnancy and Mirena.

One risk of getting pregnant while using Mirena is called ectopic pregnancy, when the pregnancy is not in the uterus. It may occur in the fallopian tubes. Signs of ectopic pregnancy may include unusual bleeding or abdominal pain. Ectopic pregnancy is an emergency that requires immediate medical attention and often surgery. Ectopic pregnancy can cause internal bleeding, infertility and even death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you think that you’re pregnant.

There are also risks if you get pregnant while using Mirena and the pregnancy is in the uterus. Severe infection, miscarriage, premature delivery and even death can occur with pregnancies that continue with an intrauterine device (IUD).

 

OP: Try calling your doctor, or maybe another doctor to get another opinion. You can try Planned Parenthood or an OBGYN…  Really not trying to worry you, but get a 2nd opinion.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

@canthugallcats:  Yup, exactly!

 

No one is trying to be a fear mongerer, but there are very serious risks to her health and life. The OP is not positive the IUD “fell out” and so she does need to get care as soon as possible to ensure there is not a risk of ectopic pregnancy or anything going on.

 

 

 

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not to hijack this thread, but please notice how the OP’s regular doctor can’t see her, so she’s able to get checked for a potentially serious condition at her local Planned Parenthood. Please keep this in mind as your elected officials jerk around with the Planned Parenthood funding. This is a very useful organization, and they deserve to be applauded for the good work they do, not picketed and de-funded. It’s an election year; please remember this when you vote, and tell your friends!

OP please update everyone tomorrow– I’m sure I’m not the only one who is crossing their fingers and hoping the IUD is just freaking out your hormones and causing false positive tests!

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Luckygal5571:  So glad you’re being seen tomorrow :). Please keep us updated!

Post # 56
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

@Luckygal5571:  I am so glad to hear you are going into Planned Parenthood tomorrow!

I’ll be thinking of you.

Post # 57
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Helper bee

@fishbone:  +1 for Planned Parenthood!

Good luck, OP.. I hope things turn out ok.

PS. please disregard my previous iud post..i typed that out too briefly/mispoke and it isn’t complete enough to make sense.. now i can’t edit! 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@fishbone:  Word up.

Also, OP, glad you’re getting seen. Also: the fact that you guys were NTNT last year seems to suggest a shift in his attitude from when you were first together. (Either that, or his willingness to be casual about BC when he didn’t want to be a parent is troubling.) ANYWAY — I know he’s a planner, but if he was able to envision it before, hopefully he’ll be on board if you decide you want to proceed with the pregnancy (if it is a pregnancy and a viable one!) I’ll be thinking of you.

Post # 59
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Luckygal5571:  God bless planned parenthood. I’m so glad that they’re able to see you right away. Sending good thoughts your way!

Post # 60
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m so sorry you have to go through this.  I’ve been working in abortion care for 6 years and the many women I see in your situation are always the hardest to counsel.  It’s so hard to be in a loving relationship with someone and to get pregnant when you’re not ready.  Unfortunatly, once you’re pregnant, you can’t become “unpregnant”.  Having an unplanned pregnancy is so difficult to begin with and this being your second time, I can’t imagine how tough it is.  

I agree with the other posters that you need to see a health care provider right away because you do have some risks.  If you have been feeling your IUD strings for 4 years now, I can tell you that your IUD is NOT “floating around”.  Either it fell out or the strings migrated up into your uterus, this happens and it’s not dangerous.  Also, if the pregnancy is in your uterus with the IUD still in there, the recommendation would be to pull the IUD.  This may cause a miscarriage, but you may still continue on to have a healthy pregnancy.  Rest assured, the risk for an ectopic pregnancy (usually in the tubes) is still extremely low, but you should definitely be seen.

I worked at Planned Parenthood for a couple years and they have some really great, compassionate providers.  Good luck tomorrow. 

http://connectandbreathe.org/ is a great post-abortion resource.  I think that regardless of how you manage this pregnancy, you still need to heal after your previous abortion.  The more ok you are with your decision to have an abortion, the better you’ll do after.  Women who say they felt like they were not the one’s choosing typically do worse emotionally after an abortion.  I worry that this may be the case with you and I do not want you to feel that way again.  Feel free to PM if you need to.  It may only be your second time dealing with this, but I do this everyday 🙂  You are not alone in this.

Sorry, had to edit.  Because you have a Paragard and there are no hormones in it, some providers may elect to keep the IUD in place during the pregnancy if you decide to continue.  I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve actually had a few patients carry to term with their IUD in place!  

 

 

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@ThingsThatShine:  I agree that the OP should seek accurate medical attention but the barrage of “you could die!!” posts are not going to help her during a difficult time.  This sort of thing happens and if anyone has personal experience with it, or information from the IUD websites (that was a good call @serabell) then I’m all for sharing, but I think the OP seems stressed enough!

OP, so glad PP can see you tomorrow.  Are you going to tell your partner?

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