(Closed) Holy drama! Need advice

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 3
6895 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Do you still have a copy of the email from yesterday (or can you get your friend to get it to you?) And can you get any sort of proof of what she’s said to the other employees today?

I would call your NEW employer and let them know about her as a heads up, that way if they get a call from her they will know that you’re aware of what is going on and you won’t look like you’re just covering it up or lying if they ask you about it. I would even show them copies of the emails so they know the crazy is coming from HER, not from you. (Take my advice with a grain of salt, I’ve never been in this situation.) I would honestly think about getting a lawyer and having THEM send her something about defamation of character and slander laws.

Other than that, I’m at a loss. She sounds extremely immature and spiteful; certainly not anyone that should be in a management position anywhere.

Post # 4
7930 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you really want to get serious about it, I would contact a lawyer and have them draft an official letter to send to her, and then send it registered mail. I would also contact her superior if there is one.


Post # 7
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with amelia’s plan–your email copies are your armor.  She can’t do this.  Did you work for a big company that you can go to for additional guidance?  Some corporate level HR or an owner if it’s a smaller company? 

Whatever you do, put it in writing and document, document, document.  Write a To Whom it May Concern letter today, detailing how you left everything in tip top shape, etc. and have it on hand when you find out who you can report her to.  I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 8
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

that’s insane !!! She’s crazy and your definately in the right. You should find your rights for your job. I know she can’t put down that you got fired because that would be unlawful dismissal and could take her to court for it. I would leave it alone though you don’t want to stoop anywhere near her level. Just remain professional and only worry about your next employment opportunities as they come. And if they confront you about it , tell them the truth.

Post # 9
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

oh and save any evidence of craziness so that if you do have to take her to court for it , you’ll win 🙂

Post # 11
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@orchidaloha:  Okay, gotcha.  I would then write a kind letter thanking the CEO for the opportunity, explaining how you left things in good order, etc. 

How long has she been with the company?  There’s GOT to be someone above her but below the CEO.

Post # 13
9693 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@orchidaloha:  Get a labour lawyer ASAP. Many will do free consultations. Do not let this woman tarnish your professional reputation. She sounds crazy enough to do it. Your work friends are the least of my concerns (sorry) because if they are your actual friends and not just situational work people then they will keep talking to you. Otherwise, they are not worth it. I am concerned that she will call your new boss and present herself in a non-crazy manner to make you look bad. You still need to pass probation at your new job and this won’t help.

Post # 14
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@orchidaloha:  I have a solid rule:  Don’t engage the crazy.


Do NOT send this loon an email.  However, I DO recommond you speak to HER boss or whomever is over her at the company who isn’t a complete mental case.  What she’s doing is not only wildly inappropriate, but can also get the company sued. 

Take the high road and be professional.  Write her bosses that while you enjoyed your job there and the company and appreciate the opportunity they gave you, it was this type of behavior that forced you to leave.  Tell them that if she persists in her threats of retaliation against you, you will have no choice but to seek legal remedy.  If you still have copies of her e-mails, send them along.  Advise your friends at the office to report her behavior to upper management as well.


This woman has no business managing anything let alone human beings.

Good grief!

Post # 15
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

This lady sounds batshit crazy.

I would email the company CEO thanking him for the opportunity and saying you left everything as complete as you could. Then I would tell him the HR manager is slandering you and threatening current employees and that if she doesn’t stop you will take legal action against her and the company, then I would attach the emails she has sent everyone and to you to him and say that you expect him to take care of it ASAP or they will be hearing from your lawyer.

Post # 16
4529 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Westwood:  +1

@MrsPanda99:  +1

@orchidaloha:  I do not think you did anything unprofessional. On the contrary, I commend you for walking. Her behavior was clearly bullying and retaliatory in nature, and you shouldn’t have had to sit and endure that another day. The email she is very hostile.

I agree with the others about having a lawyer draft a letter, and having a copy of it sent to this CEO. Make sure they have to sign for it to acknowledge getting it.

Regarding this:

“My ex-boss has apparently told everyone that I’m friends with that if they remain friends with me and she finds out they will all be fired, she said she’s the HR manager and she can make that happen.”

This is creating a hostile work environment for the others, and I cannot believe she is so stupid to say these things out loud, much less put them into writing. Rest assured that, if she did this, it would bite her in the ass in a colossal way.

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