(Closed) Holy Mackrel – I can’t believe you just said that!!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m a bit confused. Has your wedding already taken place? The date seems to be in the past…

I do feel your pain, though. I’m not bothered about Fiance knowing about my dress (he was there when I picked it out), but I would be annoyed if I was trying to keep something a secret until the time was right and somebody just blurted it out!

Post # 5
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Oooooh, that’s super-annoying, I’m sorry!! Maybe you could throw him off by saying you can’t keep it a secret anymore and just want to show him your dress and then show a pic of another long dress so he thinks it’s something else?  And also, even if he does have an idea of what the dress looks like, nothing will prepare him for seeing YOU in the dress on your wedding day! That’s what makes it all special, not the dress itself!

On a separate note, that is the cutest invitation I have ever seen!! 

Post # 6
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah that totally sucks!

And, CUTEST INVITES EVER. I FREAKIN’ LOVE THEM. Totally enamored by them.

Post # 7
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

UH, what etsy shop is this because this is freaking cute!!!

OK, back to your story. I would just take a deep breath and know that now he knows it is short…but he doesn’t know what it really looks like. And on your wedding day, he is still going to think you are a beautiful stunning vision!


Post # 8
1692 posts
Bumble bee

Could be that’s why traditionally, NO-ONE saw the wedding dress before the actual day. I remember when mothers used to hold bridal teas, with all the wedding gifts set out on tables in the hall or drawing room for guests to ooh and ah over; and the wedding undergarments used to be put on display in the bedroom as a sop to the inevitable feminine curiosity about what the bride would be wearing. Which always led to reminiscences about previous weddings and previous wedding dresses, and tended to distract people from delving further into the mystery of the current wedding dress.

Post # 9
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow I can only imagine how bummed you must be, but at least he hasnt seen the actual dress so there is some mystery left. This myght have even heightened his anticipation 🙂

This is why NO ONE is going to know anything about my dress. Not even my mom. She will be there when I go buy it, but I’ll let her think (as well as my sisters) that I’m buying another dress. The decoy dress because no one will actually open the garment bag when I’m taking it home.So they can blab their little hearts out and be just as surprised on the wedding day.

The can’t get over how much I LOVE LOVE LOVE your invites!!!!

Post # 10
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would not be upset.  A cartoon-like picture does not do justice as to how beautiful you will look on your wedding day.  The detail of your dress and how you will be looking in it will not come anything close to your invitation image.  All he knows right now is that your outfit is short.  Other than that, no sweat…  its the same as telling him your dress is long. Every dress is different.  No worries.

Post # 12
10844 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ditto on how fabulously adorable your invites are! I LOVE IT!

That’s disappointing that he knows a bit of what it looks like by the invite thanks to your friend, but I agree with Loulee, there’s a huge difference between a cartoon and what it’s going to look like on you! Are you doing a veil or anything? There are going to be a million little details that’s going to make it different from how it looks in the drawing. Really, all he knows right now is the length. Shoes, accessories, hair, veil, all those things really shape and polish the look.You’re going to knock his socks off, don’t worry!!!

Post # 13
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

These are my invites too!  I LOVE Them!

I was wondering about the dress too.  I was wondering if I want my Fiance and the guests to have an idea about the dress before they see it.  Oh well.  I said the heck with it and let her do a dress that is similar to mine.  It’s not the same so I will still be a surprise on the Big Day!


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