Post # 1
So I opened my gmail at work today and sitting in the inbox is an email from The Knot declaring One Month To Go!!!
I’ve got a bazillion things to do, and yet at this point just kinda want to throw my hands in the air and say, oh well I don’t need programs / menus / assigned seating / a first dance song / a tasting with our (obnoxiously lazy) caterer at our venue / favors / etc.
Anyone else overwhelmed by the details and losing perspective on why exactly we are doing this? I love my guy, and think now he wasn’t so crazy for suggesting we elope and not tell anyone…
Post # 3
I am SO with you! We have about 3 months and after I looked at how much we BLEW the budget I was about to cancel my florist and buy my own flowers at Giant. My list is ginormous too and just thinking about it makes me want to cry!
Post # 4
Awww…you’ll be fine! But that eloping idea does sound better and better as it gets closer, doesn’t it? Just organize your "to-do’s" and rank them. If you don’t get around to making Out-Of-Town bags, who gives a flying flip? Make sure the important things are taken care of, and everything else will fall into place. And keep your focus on the main thing – that guy that you love. 🙂
Post # 5
Yup, I feel you! Part of the problem is that I *still* don’t have all the RSVPs! There’s only so much I can do without them…
I’ve got DIY projects coming out of my ears:
-more ornament ball decorations
-guest book instructions
-I was going to try and redo the ring pillow (ha ha, not probably going to happen)
-add to the musical selection
Though eloping sounds particularly attractive, I am looking forward to this party!
Post # 6
When I had a month I broke down. I still had all the favors to make, programs, I hadn’t made it to the rsvp deadline yet and i felt like I couldn’t do anything and all this money is going out and where am I going to find more…
And I threw myself a wonderful pity party…This isn’t even my dream wedding, I wanted something small, this is just stupid, who sleeps at night charging these prices, I hope Audrey (this god awful woman trying to sleep wiht my father when he works wiht her husband…long story) chokes on a lindt truffle ball (our favors) Just crap in general.
And then it hit me that in one month I’m going to be married, to the man that asked me to spend the rest of my life with him, cuz I was that important to him. And that he’s that important to me and then the rest of everything kind of fell into place. I said F it, if I dont’ get the programs done its ok. No one will notice (we’re not having a complicated ceremony…just a wham bam thank you maam kinda thing) but I got them done quickly with my fi help. The favors…we had a tag team operation running with my fi and his parents and we banged them out in an (painful) afternoon.
Seating charts: I was told to be careful putting all the odd couples at one table…Well if they weren’t odd they would have a different table to sit at…and together we may be making new friends :o)
Bottom line: Don’t stress over the small stupid stuff cuz its just one day. And at the end of your one day you’ll be married. And that’s all anyone really cares about anyways. I say this with 15 days left…I’ll keep you informed of another meltdown on the horizon.
Post # 7
Heck, I have a little less than two months to go and I feel the same way. And I’m not even doing programs / menus / assigned seating / a first dance song / a tasting , etc. All that crap s fine if you want it but it’s really not necessary.
Post # 8
OH and one thing I did:
I’m the queen of to do lists but they were all random and scattered and unorganized.
I wrote down one list of everythign I needed to get done and by what date. Then I put it in order from now to the wedding of when it needed to be done. If someone was doing it for me I wrote that on there too.
It helped a ton. At first I’m like crap there’s something to do just about every day but it makes you calmer!!!
Post # 9
omg i know! we have a bunch of stuff now that we have to wait for final numbers…and still many outstanding rsvps. i’ve started some casual emails with people lately being like, are you coming. it drives me craaaaazy when i get back "yes of course!"–then why didn’t you send in the rsvp card or at least shoot me an email?!?!
so a bit stressful, but also so super exciting! i really feel like things are coming together and i can’t wait for it to be here!
Post # 10
Thanks for the input everyone! I’m making several lists and harrassing vendors who have been ignoring my emails and phone calls. I can make this event happen!!
Post # 11
WOOHOO!! 28 days to go July 11th!! I can’t believe this day is just around the corner! I am so stinking thankful for all my friends and family that are taking care of little details for us… and we finally got the honeymoon booked! Now we need to get our license, his ring (I have both of mine) and just a few other tiny details and we’re good! Doing a makup trial tomorrow and picking up my dress… very exciting day!
And somehow I’m not stressed out at all which means either I’m really good at deligation OR i’m totally niave and forgetting something HA but that would be normal and if I’m forgetting it I"ll never know the difference! And I keep reminding myself that at the end of the day… if anything goes wrong… I’m still getting married =D
P.S. we’re not doing programs, seating charts, favors, or a lot of little "traditional" things like that which makes my life a heck of a lot easier!
Post # 12
I feel like I’m going crazy as well. I still have so much to do, I’m going nuts. I’m still interviewing one more photographer, still need to find an affordable videographer, and finally found a good florist (though I’m not sure if I choose the right colors).
Post # 13
It’s the little things that get you especially because it’s coming up!! But seriously, eveyrthing works out at the end and the things you stress over, people don’t even notice. Make a list of what you need to get done… delegate to those that are willing to help (or hire a day of coordinator or ask a reliable person to do that for you)… and ENJOY yourself! YAY! You’re getting married in a month!!! (Btw, I thought eloping was a good idea as I was planning our wedding… but when you look at the pictures of your wedding afterwards and see your man’s face that day as well as all the faces of your family and friends… it’s totally worth it..) make sure you enjoy your wedding day. 🙂
Post # 14
2 weeks!!! EEEEEEEEKKK! Anyone have a check list of things that are often forgotten?