(Closed) Holy Moly Honeymoon Baby!? When he is ready for kids…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance is sooooo ready.  Ready enough that he wants to start trying now! and we are 6 weeks from the wedding.  He’s adorable about it but I don’t want to be pregnant at the wedding.  We are definitely going for a honeymoon baby…we’re not getting any younger either (34) so why wait? 

There will never be a “perfect” time to do ANYTHING in life so if you feel ready, go for it.  It’s scary as hell, but totally worth it.  Good luck! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My Fiance is always 3-4 steps ahead of me. He was ready to be married first and he wants us to “pull the goalie” sooner than I do. Funny thing is he’s almost 3yrs younger than me too!

My parents don’t really have an opinion since they already have 5 grandkids but his mom is so cute. She told me “I promsise not to be one of those mother-in-laws but I there’s only 1 thing – you have to get pregnant right away” HAH! She’s just excited to be a Nana.

I’d like to at least have a 1yr anniv before we start trying.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@christalynn – I hear ya about getting your body ready.  I wanted to lose a few pounds for the wedding too but couldn’t really motivate, but the second we decided to start ttc in (gulp!) six weeks, I went out and got some new running shoes and got to work!  I also has a pre-conception appt with my obgyn and started taking prenatal vitamins.  The second the decision was made it was time to get ready.

I’m the baby too and have grandparents breathing down my neck – but they all live far away! It’s just me and Fiance in our city, which makes it scary, but we’ll figure it out! It really is the most exciting and terrifying decision we’ve ever made! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yeah; we’ve had these discussions as well. Lately Fiance keeps saying how he “can’t wait till we have kids” or “It’s gonna be soo much fun when we have kids”…. I’m like uh….. We aren’t even getting married for another year…… So I have a feeling he’s gonna be ready Right Away… Pretty Freakin’ Scary… lol But exciting too!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My Fiance is more ready than I am. And as someone with the Mirena, I can tell you that I’ve heard “When are we going to yank that thing out?” more times than I can count. To be fair, I am 26 but he is turning 33 in a month. He feels like he is running out of time!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance wanted me to go off the pill right after we got engaged.  I was like “um, hold up there tiger!  We have a wedding to plan and a dress to fit into!” So, a few months out, we decided I should go off the pill.

He’s definitely way ready.  I”m ready but also terrified of pregnancy and birth.  He’s so fun loving and fly by the seat of his pants, I’m not really sure he’s really considered what it means to have a baby. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re going to try on our honeymoon or right after and I’m 29 too.  We’ve been talking about it for awhile and having some time to prepare myself for it has been really helpful.  I’ve gone past the totally freaked out stage to the really excited stage (mixed with fear : ).  I haven’t met with an OBGYN yet, but it’s on my list of to-dos.  Like you, we’ve been together awhile and don’t need to be married without kids…we’ve basically done that the past 3-4 years.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I’m 32 and Fiance turns 39 a month after our wedding.  We’re waiting at leat six months after the wedding, but that’s probably about it.  We’re a little older and it might take a while. 

That being said, we’re telling everyone we aren’t in a rush and we aren’t sure when we’re going to have kids.  If it takes a while, I don’t want to have to talk about it all the time. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@texasmeredith – ha!  we’re doing the same thing, telling everyone, especially our parents, that we are going to wait awhile.  I really don’t need Future Mother-In-Law asking if I’m pregnant every week – which she totally would if she knew that we were trying!

@christalynn – the book that has been recommended most is “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”.  I haven’t read it, I want to give us a few months – should it take that long – of just enjoying the process ๐Ÿ™‚  That said, the appointment with my doctor was invaluable and she gave me some good information and we both (FI came too) asked a lot of questions about getting my body ready.  Beyond a few tests she did, it’s really about being at a healthy weight, talking about any meds you might be on and how they can affect your pregnancy, and starting to get in tune with your cycle so you know when your fertile days are.  Basically though, she said that if you are healthy and ready just be patient and have lots of sex and have fun with it! 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We were talking about when we wanted to have children and I said I wanted to start trying in 5-6 years (we’re only 22) and he flipped out! He wants to have kids as soon as possible, but we can hardly support ourselves financially and we have some debt that needs to be payed off! Also, I’m still in school and I want to be able to finish my schooling and have a good career before we start trying. We seriously argue about it at least once a month ๐Ÿ™ It’s so frustrating! He doesn’t want to be “too old” when he has kids, but I think late 20s and early 30s is a great time to have kids… uggghhhh

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