- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I totally hardcore freaked out tonight in a major overreaction about our first dance song at the wedding. I was watching “The Wedding Planner” because it was on TV while my Fiance was playing video games on his laptop and then there’s the scene where the couple getting married are trying to pick a first dance song and my Fiance says, “We should really do that soon. What about the song that goes, “I think I love you, so what was I so afraid of…” you know that song? It could be fun.”
I burst into hysterical tears. Seriously. Big, wet, hysterical, panicky tears. He was so confused and I couldn’t really explain it. I think that I’d always built up the first dance in my head and then when he suggested something so wholely unromantic I just overreacted as my romanticized bubble of self-delusion popped.
To clarify: My Fiance is very involved in wedding planning and we’re both making a lot of compromises on pretty much everything to get a wedding that’s very us. It’s a good thing. But in this case, I’d been dreading talking to him about dancing. I’d had to lobby long and hard to get him to agree to dancing at all. That was last summer. We haven’t discussed it at all since then but I’ve been thinking about it a lot but always in a really romantic, sappy way—not something fun or tongue-in-cheek, which is more his style.
We’re going to pick something great together and I know I’ll love it in the end. I was just the popping of the romanticized bubble that got to me, I think. Has this sort of thing happened to any of you over any aspect of your planning that you’d built up too much in your head? Please tell me I’m not alone in this!