Post # 1
In the wee hours of the morning, I was scared to death by a rattling on my bedroom window. Fortunately, it was just a cat. (You can read that post here, http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/spay-and-neuter-your-pets-my-horror-story) But a really good point was brought up by friends.
In a little over three months, I won’t be living with my parents. I will be living with a submariner who deploys often. I won’t be able to scream and run and get anyone. If it isn’t a cat next time, what will I do?
So, fellow bees, I’m sure a lot of you are on your own or spent time thinking about a situation like this. What do you do to feel safe when you’re home alone?
I think my first instinct is to always dial 911, but living at home, I know all I have to do is make it to the other side of the house and I’m safe. Maybe I’ll buy a dog and a pistol.
Post # 3
@HawaiiBamaBride: If you’re concerned, maybe keep a bat by your bed within reach from a prone position. Or an air horn if you’re afraid people won’t hear you scream. If you’ve got a neighbor you REALLY trust, leave a key with them so that if they hear suspicious noises (or your air horn) they can come check it out. I’ve also heard that 911 is now text-able (is that a word?) so that if you’re hiding, you don’t need to use your voice to notify authorities.
I personally just keep a phone by my bed (well, my land line and my cell), keep my bedroom door locked as one extra barrier, and I also keep those little Christmas jingle bells around the outside door handles. Makes a bit of noise if someone’s opening/closing the doors, and they don’t know they’re there because they hang on the inside.
I’d be cautious with buying a pistol, only because tragic accidents can happen if a drunk friend tries to sneak in or a BF/FI tries to surprise you. That’s totally a personal choice though, and one that requires solid training if you go that route.
Post # 4
We have two rat terriors who can hear every little thing and let me know when something is too close, they have a way of telling me someone is in the yard. I just know how to read their actions now. I also have alot of weapons around the house: guns, pepper spray, bows, stun gun, and pellet guns, and I know how to use every one of them.
I also am signed up for kav maga classes that start in three weeks *STOKED*. To be honest, I think that I will feel the most secure with the kav maga classes as they are focused for “survive and live at any cost”. You should look into them, I have been looking at different types of martial arts for years and IMO it is the best martial art for women. It was developed with women and men in mind so it really works for both.
Post # 5
My plan is to become frozen with terror.
Well, no, but that’s probably what would happen to me anyway. I make sure my phone is right next to me, always triple check that doors/windows are locked, and I never open the door without using the peephole (in my apartment building). Apparently putting one of those chains on the door is actually the strongest lock for a door, plus you can open it slightly to see who’s out there.
I also have two attack cats. They might lick the intruder to death.
ETA: Seeing how everyone else is prepared with weapons and training is making me feel super vulnerable, lol.
Post # 6
I lived alone alone before Fiance moved in. I have two cats, so they kept me company and I’m on the second floor in a condo. Dead bolts are awesome, as well as well lit porches/parking. I kept a metal baseball bat at the top of my steps, but never had to use it.
It can be scary to be alone if you’re not used to it or naturally jumpy. I got used to it, so noises didn’t scare me at all. I’m a little “ballsy” too, so I guess I handle things differently. FI brought a pitbull AND a Glock with him, so when I am alone, no worries. He took a trip a few months ago for a week and I missed him dearly, but Bailey (pitbull) protects her mommy and mommy sleeps next to the gun 🙂
Get a doggie, a nice big one. People hear that bark and defiantly think twice! Plus having a deadly weapon has benefits as well 🙂
Post # 7
@tksjewelry:I know, for sure, I’ll be getting a dog as an alarm system. I really think you are very smart in being trained on every weapon in your home. I wouldn’t own a pistol without being trained. Also, think kav maga sounds awesome. I’m going to google it now.
@galloway111:That’s me! I would freeze up! Yeah I sleep with my phone right beside me. This morning though I chunked it across the room when I made the decision to make a run for it. lol. Not smart.
@NDBee:I’m not really concerned now since I haven’t moved yet so I don’t know the neighborhood I’ll live in. Right now I live in the country and its very quiet so every noise is scary. Once I have neighbors and get adjusted, I don’t think I’ll freak out as bad. And I wouldn’t have any gun in my home I wouldn’t know how to use!
Post # 8
I never have to sleep alone but when my SO worked night I kept a knife by my bed. Im also had big brothers growing up so I fight mean. Lets all pray it never happens to any of us!
Post # 9
Put a bar along the bottom of your window so that no one can slide it open (same for patio doors).
Put a deadbolt on your front door.
Keep your cell phone beside your bed at night and maybe something else like a bat or pepper spray.
Get a dog?
Post # 10
@nhanvey:I’m with you on praying it never happens to anyone!
@MademoiselleL:I never thought about a bar on the windows. Hmm. Great idea! Thanks.
Post # 11
I’m surprised no one has suggest an armed alarm system yet. It’s probably your best defense. Get one with monitoring that will notify to police and set it, even when you’re home.
Leaving the porch light on and making sure your doors and windows are locked are always good ideas, like PPs said.
Post # 12
One of the local MMA places offers a free self-defense workshop, I’m going to call them tomorrow and find out some details!
Post # 13
@HawaiiBamaBride: Those are GREAT to do! I’ve done two of them. Make sure to ask if they do simulated attacks. It’s one thing to learn all the moves and hits, but it’s totally another to find out how you’ll react when you’re in a dark room and are grabbed from behind/laying down/etc. It can be REALLY scary to practice, but don’t let that deter you, because it’s the best way to get past that freeze-up for when it matters most, Heaven forbid.
Post # 14
I keep a cricket stump by the bed. Sometimes if Mr. Roux is away it ends up IN the bed with me. But honestly, we have very little security wise. I try to remember to lock the screen door and front door at night, but thats really it. We live in a quiet little town with a non existant crime rate, and really done have many valuable things to have stolen, only my old laptop and the plasma tv really, so I doubt our house would be targeted. I just don’t think anyone would try to break into my house and kill me, so I don’t worry too much. I do feel much safer though when Mr. Roux is home, and we plan to get a dog next year sometime.
Post # 15
Here is the first show I watched on the subject of KM martial arts, the lady on here is bad ass, I am glad that Darling Husband made me watch it, this show made my mind up immediately.
Post # 16
Ever since I moved in with my Darling Husband I always wondered what I would do in an intruder situation. I live in a tiny 2nd story apartment so I have no options really. The doors and locks are flimsy so I would be pretty much screwed. Maybe I could reach one of my very dull filet knives though…I’m just happy we live in a safe town.