(Closed) Home health care aide at wedding for grandparent?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would seat her next to Nana.  That way Nana won’t have to try to find her if she needs her.

I’m not sure why you’re concerned about the “etiquette” part?  You don’t have to explain why she’s there.

Is Nana familiar with this woman?  I can’t tell from your post if she’s ever been her care giver in the past?  If not, please try to make sure they meet before the wedding.  Strangers can be very frightening to people in Nana’s condition.

Post # 4
3943 posts
Honey bee

My nana will have an aid there as well, and I am seating them together. She’ll be there to get her food, help her to the bathroom, and take her home when she’s ready.

Post # 5
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Seat her next to Nana, and plan that she will be at the ceremony as well. None of your guests will be concerned that she’s a stranger.

Post # 6
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

She is your Nana’s personal assistant, so she should be right next to her at all times.  She will be viewing this as a work event, so for her, I think sitting away from her would be uncomfortable and could potentially add undue stress for both of them.  Just consider them a pair. 

Post # 7
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Agreed, the aide will be dresses like any guest, or if the agency policy is a set uniform like scrubs, a color that blends in, and I would put them close to your grandmother. The point is to help if needed which to me would require them to be next to her should your grandma need anything. 

Post # 8
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012
Post # 9
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Next to Nana and treat her like a regular guest (except she can’t drink alcohol or dance.)

Post # 12
1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@juliette.eliza:  Exactly.  And the aide won’t be in formal pictures.

I’m happy to hear your nana will be able to attend.  I’ve worked in home health before so I understand the situation.

Post # 13
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sure that she is a professional and can be trusted to do exactly what she needs to and is supposed to for your Nana. How lovely that she will be there so that your Nana can be at your wedding when, without her, she would have a hard time being able to attend, or would keep your parents’ hands full! Her presence (the aide’s, I mean) will be a nice respite for your parents, too.

Post # 14
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Ofcourse she should be there! If you’d like maybe thank her in the program?

“We would also like to thank Nurse soandso for being able to attened our wedding and being such a wonderful helpmate to our dearest Nana, we appreciate all that you do for us”

Post # 15
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


Seat her next to your Nana; her whole purpose in being there is to help her that evening.

As far as making the aide comfortable, she’s there to do a job. Of course she’ll have a meal and everything, but the whole reason she’s there is to take care of Nana so your parents can have a break. I think the best thing you could do is have a chat with her, and let her know how much you appreciate her being there so your parents can have a break, and ask specifically what things will make her job easier. She’s probably done this kind of thing before and can tell you what will make her job go more smoothly.  

Post # 16
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with everyone who said that the carer should be with your nana. 

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