(Closed) Home Improvement Frustration

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I do think the money thing was a big stress.  He also might feel weird about selling something that is his and buying something that is yours.  Some people don’t like doing home renovations either so that might be part of it.

Post # 5
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do you have the money to fix the place up though?  It’s hard to do anything if you don’t have money. 🙁

Post # 7
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, paint really spruces up a place.

Post # 8
Member
138 posts
Blushing bee

I soooo feel your pain, I was there before!!! Hopefully he helped you with the planning for the wedding. If so cook a nice dinner and have a planning night. Create a schedule for the first project together, for example if project 1 is the bedroom develop a schedule that you both own a task until the room is completed. He strips the paneling and sands two walls and you sand two walls and the window frames. After the first project is complete move on to the next. Oh yeah and let him feel as though you would like him to teach you about renovations, stroke his ego a bit….GOOD LUCK (smiles)

Post # 9
Member
14185 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No money=no work on the house, I hear ya!!!

I’ve lived here for 2 years and until 6 months ago, the most I’d done was paint. That’s all I could afford. It takes time to be able to save up to do the ‘big stuff’. but when you do, you feel the transformation iun the home becoming yours.

Post # 10
Member
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m relaxing in bed and just had to get-up to get my keyboard (in the other room) after reading your comment about the bears! My laptop keys are broken.

I totally feel you! I moved-in with my Fi (to another continent) and have been so anxious to redecorate his bachelor pad. Now that we’ve bought our first home, I’ve been trying to lay-down the law (lol)! He also has random taxidermy animals hanging around, and his idea of an ideal place to put an old grade school globe was in the living room! He also had the habit of taking things his siblings were about to throw away, so we literally have some junk to sort out.

At first I felt bad about doing it, but then I realized … why should I feel bad? It’s my home, he claims I can decorate it any way I want, and I DON’T spend any money at all (no clothes shopping, no shoes shopping, nothing but just groceries).

How I’m dealing with it: I’ve been browsing through classifieds and we’ve been casually going to 2nd hand stores! That way, I feel like I’m accomplishing something towards acheiving the new look of our place, yet saving some massive money.

So far I’ve found the following deals:

  • chunky, antique, solid wooden table (very heavy) 150 SEK ($19)!!!
  • large, heavy wooden mirror: 225 SEK ($28)
  • large antique wooden basket that looks like it came straight out of Snow White’s cabin: 30 SEK ($4)

I’ve been really pleased with the quality of stuff I’ve found on the cheap. I know buying used stuff isn’t for everyone, but I love antiques and want to dive-into DIYs. I think you’d be surprised to see what stuff is available in your area once you find out where to look.

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Post # 11
Member
5766 posts
Bee Keeper

You can always shame him into helping by starting it yourself. My husband used to come home from work and see piles of ‘stuff’ at the curb and walk in saying’What did you do NOW’? lol

Our last house was situated up on a hill,which was also covered in ivy. One of my neighbors had old pictures of the rock garden that used to be exposed,now under the ivy. All my neighbor GF’s went home and got their loppers and we hacked away at it until we could see rocks. Made a HUGE mess,but it got him feeling guilty and he helped from that point on.

We had no flower beds so I dug and planted them myself. We had no trees,so I shopped for and planted them myself. He wouldn’t paint,so I painted and wallpapered myself. I had no experience with any of it,but once I did some research and asked people tons of questions I had no problem just jumping into it all.

Go pick up some paint and let him see it along with rollers,trays,etc. Bet he gets moving!

 

Post # 13
Member
293 posts
Helper bee

Is there a reason why you can’t paint the bathroom?  I am going to assume it’s not a huge room, and it really would probably only take a day start to finish . . . Why wait for him?

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