(Closed) Home renovations hurting the relationship?

posted 9 years ago in Home
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes.  Hubs is working his ass off.  On one hand I don’t want him to work on the house all the time so we can spend more time together, but on the other hand I want him to hurry up and get it all done!  Sometimes I feel guilty that I’m not really a handy or even strong person, so I am pretty useless.  I’ve been doing all the cooking, cleaning and laundry and trying to stay out of the way!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I really don’t think that it has to be that way. I think that compromise and co-operation go a long way! Me and DH bought a brand new house 2 years ago, and have been working through finishing the lower level, and landscaping. We obviously don’t agree on everything, but we have yet to have a renovation related fight, because we take things slow, listen to each other, and work towards compromise. I hope you guys can find a way to renovate peacefully!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s normal. We bought a fixer upper almost two years ago and we are only half way through our second room of renovations. I agree with PP that you have to pick your battles though, and know when to let things go. Luckily for Fiance, my parents helped a lot at first since we didn’t really have a clue, and they kept my freak outs in check (Like the time Fiance put a screw right threw my new counter top). Even though it’s stressful, I think it’s brought us closer together, and helped us with communication and compromise.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We renovated our kitchen (gutted and completely re-did it) starting two weeks after we got back from our honeymoon.  We thought it might take 4-5 weeks and we’d be done by Xmas (haha!) and three months later (February) we finished. 

Every couple is different, for us, I felt like the biggest strain was that we did it all ourselves so it was just constant until around 10pm every night.  Make sure you also take time to do fun things together, even if you just get cleaned up and go out to dinner some Friday night.  Doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive, but my best advice is to be sure to spend some non-renovating time together!

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