Post # 91
Yup. My SO was homeschooled (for religious reasons, which absolutely limited his education in some standard areas) and there were definite pros and cons in this regard. On one hand he got to focus on and cultivate his interests and strengths, but was also allowed to kind of gloss over weaknesses in a way that isn’t doing him any favors at a college level. There were private tutors but he recalls most days as just filling out a workbook for an hour and going outside to play–not saying that’s a horrible thing, just not an equivalent to ‘regular’ school. He graduated early at 16 and struggled at community college before dropping out for a while. Now that he’s resumed he regrets not being able to be farther along and wishes he had the normal highschool-to-university timeline that I took for granted. He has the maturity and direction he needed now but it’s a lot harder to be a student when you’re an independent adult with a full time 9-5.
Homeschooling, at least the kind that my SO lived, also comes with it’s own cliquey family social circles–less escapable than the ones at public/private schools because everyone knows everyone and everyone does everything together indefinitely. So unless you’re going to carefully isolate your kid from other homeschoolers, you’re not really escaping drama or potential mean kids as much as you might think.
My SO has observed that the majority of now-adults from this homeschooling circles are either highly successful or struggling with few in between, so it’s definitely a matter of whether it benefits the individual rather than a blanket “good or bad”.
Post # 92
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I probably won’t ever have kids, but if I do they’d go to public schools.
So this is all anecdotal…
There are 5 kids that live next door to my mom that are all “home schooled” because they have all been expelled repeatedly, and the family is notorious in the school system as being difficult to deal with. Today I was over there and the 13 year old was outside smoking a cigarette. Their mom doesn’t even have her GED. This family is doomed and it makes me super sad that my state doesn’t have laws or something to prevent this from happening.
I feel like home schoolers miss out on so many group activities. Group projects? Choir/band/orchestra? Ceramics class! I even took a computer robotics class in high school and learned about 3D printing. I highly doubt any home school cirriculum could expose kids to those types of things.
Not to mention, I learned how to perform well under pressure – how to take tests – how to debate – so many things that I can think of that would be lacking in a home school environment.
Post # 93
I know I already wrote a novel a few pages back on my homeschooling experience (I was only homeschooled for high school btw but our family has been part of the community for my entire life for various reasons).
I do want to add a few more things though because they’ve been brought up a bit.
First, my sibling “J” was also homeschooled for a couple years (that’s how we came to homeschool in the first place, back when it wasn’t very popular at the time). J was extremely sick and my family didn’t really have a choice because the local public wouldn’t make accomadations. “J” ended up being several grades ahead and entered college at age 15. My parents actually consider this a HORRIBLE mistake. If they had a do-over, they would still have J work the same materials, but they would insist that J stay along in the grades J was suppose to.
Secondly, a lot of homeschoolers might try to talk you into joining an organization called the HSLDA. They are very big with the fundamentalist Christians (like the Duggars) and have many members that aren’t even Christian. But they are routinely accused of cover-ups involving child abuse in homeschooling homes and are anti-homeschool-regulation no matter what. Despite purporting to be advocates of homeschooling and putting the child first, they really are just a parents advocacy group and put the parents first. I urge you not to join with this organization, don’t fall into the fear-mongering.
Post # 94
this pretty much sums up my opinion of homeschooled kids:
but seriously. ditto all the bees who cite socialization as the #1 reason why your kids need to attend school.
Post # 95
I can’t give you the parent’s perspective from homeschooling, but there are many options beyond straight homeschooling. I was homeschooled through out middle and high school. There was a local Christian school that did what was called an “extension program”. You pay tuition. They supply the course work, do all the testing and grading, as well as host the practice ACT/SAT exams. It was a great mid ground for both my parents and myself. I was provided with all of the materials directly, studied them, then went and took a test weekly in each subject. It was great to teach me to be accountable for my own education. I’d like to think I turned out relatively well rounded and without educational delays. (For example, being offered a full ride to Cornell.) 🙂
Post # 96
- Wedding: April 2007 - City, State
just because a child is homeschooled doesn’t mean they aren’t socialized. There’s co-ops, sports, girl and Boy Scouts, homeschool meet groups. Plenty of ways to socialize!
Post # 97
I never attended a public school. I was homeschool from pre-k until high school graduation. While I wouldn’t change it, there are some things I wish I wouldn’t have missed out on. As far as my education goes, my mom did a great job teaching me. When there was something she couldn’t teach me on, I either did it through an online program, through a tutor, or a class at my local homeschool community group. As far as socialization goes, I was involved in a lot of activities. I took dance, theater, chorus, piano lessons, was involved in many other activities. I went to football games at the public school up the road from me, and had plenty of public schooled friends. I do wish I had at least one years experience of actually attending a public school. I got my associates and did fine going to college, but feel having public school experience would have prepared me a little more. That being said, it didn’t hurt me not having the experience in my grades or socialization. I am now engaged to a man who went to public school and he likes to make fun of me for the fact I was homeschooled, I usually make fun of myself with him though. 🙂 Also, I would like to add I have several friends who were homeschooled that are some of the smartest people I know. I have several attending big universities such as NC State, UNCC, UNCG, UNCW, etc. I even have a couple studying abroad right now. If anyone has any questions about homeschooling, feel free to message me on here!
Also, another thing I would like to add… I do not plan on having kids for like, 5 years lol (I am 21) and as of now I have absolutely no desire to homeschool them. I don’t know if I will send them to a public school, christian school, private or charter school… but I do not want to homeschool. Just my personal preference, but I am so thankful my mom chose to homeschool me. 🙂 I just don’t have it in me to stay at home all day. Lol.
Post # 98
If the parents are doing it right, kids actually have MORE time for *meaningful* socialization, rather than a lot of the time-wasting, bully-prone, cliquish nonsense that happens at a public school in betweeen classes. My folks had us in summer camps, sporting activities (not school-sponsored, just like local softball leagues), group music lessons, museum tours with other kids, community college dual enrollment in high school, nursing home volunteering, etc.
At the time we were homeschooled, adults in the community would often remark to the parents of the kids in our group how articulate and able to hold actual conversation with grown-ups we all were, rather than the grunts, avoidance and inability to talk about interesting topics that most adults are used to getting from most grade-schoolers. Homeschooling personally did me huge favors socially; I’d have missed out on many opportunities and chances given me by adults who appreciated how my parents worked hard to broaden my world.
BUT I do know a few homeschooling families who chose to be insular, narrow and ignorant, so there’s a wide range of experiences…just like you’d find even in public school where kids are excluded by others or choose to exclude themselves from social experiences due to upbringing.