Post # 1
not something I ever worried about (not that I thought it was impossible/wouldn’t happen, just that it was never really top of mind).
and then we were out to lunch with my future in-laws and they talked about it for like 20 minutes. FH is a server at church and he was telling stories of homeless people often walking into church during a regular mass and causing some sort of disruption. FFIL told a story about a wedding he went to when a man walked in and walked right up to the front in the middle of the ceremony and an usher started CHASING HIM to get him out (probably not the best idea.) and it caused a big hubub.
And now something that I never worried about has come to the front of my mind. we decided to tell the ushers that someone might try to come in at some point and they should just tell them politely that this is a private event and they should come back later.
So, problem (hopefuly) solved. I’m not really freaking out about it (I have other things to worry about!) but now I’m curious- did this happen to any of you married bees out there? or is this a problem that is not REALLY a problem?
Post # 3
@delovely13: I’ve never heard of that happening!! Thank goodness it didn’t happen to me lol
Post # 4
I’m more worried about my *mother* causing a commotion than a random homeless walk-in.
In fact, I think I might welcome the distraction from her antics.
Post # 5
I think it would make for a funny and memorable story. I wouldn’t stress about it :-).
Post # 6
@delovely13: I wouldn’t sweat it. If it happened all the time we would all be well-versed in fending them off. On the plus side, they aren’t zombies so that’s good.
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of this!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t stress about it, but if you’re worried, have the ushers keep the doors closed at the back of the church and ‘stand guard’ this will also prevent late stragglers from interrupting an imoprtant part of the ceremony.
Post # 9
My guess is you are fine–even if a homeless person enters the church he or she probably does not want to disrupt your wedding in any way (most homeless people are not crazy or rude or looking to cause a scene)
Post # 10
I’ve never heard of that happening!
Can you actually do that, though? Aren’t churches always open to the public?
Post # 11
I’ve never heard or seen that happen before, but photographing a ton of weddings with immediate mass afterwards, a lot of church members DO show up early during ceremonies and sit in the back of the church and watch. I never seen it be a big deal with anyone.
Post # 12
@badabing88: same thing here but my FMIL…OMG
Post # 13
@delovely13: That sounds awesome. Just my opinion. No one would EVER forget it!
I think if they’re busting in on the ceremony part politely asking them to come back later is smart. If it’s the reception, ask the caterers to spare them a little food and start your marriage off with some good merit.
Post # 14
Just FYI, but I think you can’t prevent someone from entering the church. Check with the officiant.
Post # 15
@delovely13: Two random people (I don’t know that they were homeless) tried to walk in during my brother’s ceremony in June, and 99% of the guests in attendance didn’t even notice. My fiancé and the wedding planner politely kicked them out through the back door. The bride and groom were none the wiser and it didn’t cause any issues. So long as you have ushers and/of staff to take are of such things, you’ll be fine. It’s not worth having anxiety over.
Post # 16
The chance of this happening I would say would be more dependent on WHERE the Church is located.
Ya if it is a Downtown Church in a good sized City, then there could be a possibility (I am envisioning Churches & Locations I personally know in Montreal – Ottawa – Toronto etc)
But out in the burbs, or a Town or smaller City… probably not and issue at all.
(Altho I do know that in some areas of the country, that local Parishoners / Neighbours of the Church have been known to come out to Weddings just to watch… be that on Church Steps outside, or they sneak into the back pews / balcony once the Bride has made her way down the aisle)
Totally harmless… as they also leave immediately before the Recesssional as well… so usually the Happy Couple is no the wiser that they were ever there !!
Technically as someone said, a lot of Churches are an OPEN Public Place (more so in City Centres) and OPEN TO ALL who come for spiritual solice
So closing them down is neither Welcoming to “the Flock”, nor is the practice “welcome” by some Church Administrations / Pastors etc. (You might want to check in beforehand to see what the Church you wish to use thinks on this subject)
Having someone outside the doorway tho to make an announcement to any “casual visitors” that the Church is in use for a Wedding is not unheard of.
It certainly is what I’ve seen at other Weddings I’ve been too (mostly tho for local semi-celebs when they marry)
Hope this helps,