(Closed) Homeowner?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Homeowner?
    One or both of us already owned homes before we met. : (20 votes)
    25 %
    I/We bought a home while we were dating. : (23 votes)
    28 %
    I/We bought a home while we were engaged. : (12 votes)
    15 %
    We have to wait until after we are married to buy a home. : (12 votes)
    15 %
    We've been trying to find a home, but still haven't found the one for us. : (8 votes)
    10 %
    Other & I'll explain below. : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I owned a house before we met.  He bought his house while dating, before proposing.  Now we live in his house.

    Post # 4
    497 posts
    Helper bee

    yup!  They say the 1st year of marriage is the hardest and I think they mean that the 1st year of living with someone is the hardest.  Because our first year in our house was while we were engaged, we didn’t have any adjustment issues after the wedding.

    Post # 5
    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    I bought a house before we met, then he bought his house after we started dating. I sold my house last year & now we live in the house he bought which he has always referred to as "our house".

    Post # 6
    631 posts
    Busy bee

    We are happy renters.  We’ve seen some of our friends lose TONS of money on their homes in the past two years and we’re happy we didn’t buy!  We’re going to wait out the whole economic collapse and then figure out home ownership….

    Post # 7
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I plan on going back to school (he does as well), so there’s no reason for us to buy a home in the next 5-7 years. PhD salaries are not good enough for mortgage payments.

    We also live in a HCOL area, so it’s definitely a lot cheaper to rent than buy.

    Post # 8
    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We live with his dad. We came so close to getting a house last year but glad we didn’t.  We’ve had to use our down payment to help pay for the wedding since my dad took a big pay cut so he wouldn’t lose his job, and Fiance might lose his so we’d really be screwed.  We plan on buying the end of next year, which gives us time to figure out where we’re going to live.  Also, Fiance may go in the Coast Guard, so we shall see where that takes us

    Post # 9
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    The mister bought a house with Future Brother-In-Law while we were dating (pre-engagment).  I moved in shortly before we officially got engaged… and we will all continue to live there after the wedding.  One day when the economy is looking better, we will sell that house and buy our own. 

    Post # 10
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I owned my home prior to meeting him and he had put an offer on a house the week before we met. His didn’t go through due to a bidding war and we’re glad it didn’t because the house we’ll get together in a few months will be closer to 1/2 way between the cities we live in now. We are still 80mins apart presently.

    My BFF owned hers and shame on her she always told her DH to leave during an argument…

    Post # 11
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019 - Dreams Cancun Resort & Spa

    We house hunted while planning the wedding and closed on the house after we got back from our honeymoon.  We were both property virgins before that.


    Post # 12
    38 posts
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We just got married in October, and immediately moved onto the next project, which was buying a house.  We moved last weekend!

    Post # 13
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    He owned a house when we met, we sold that and bought one together — and it’s already appreciating in value (in under 6 months).

    Post # 14
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Yep! We’ve been in our house for almost 2 years. Before that, we lived together in a 2-bedroom apartment for 1 year. We’ve been living in sin for a while now…haha.

    Post # 15
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    No owning for us for quite a while, due to a long-distance marriage.  It just makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to own in two separate places with his massive medical school debt.  I’ll be in DC until I finish my Ph.D. (another 2-3 years) and we’ve spent the first year of marriage living together during his intern year, but he moves away for the rest of residency, and i don’t know if I’ll be able to secure a post-doc where he is doing his residency.  It would be foolish to purchase a house for him in his city and me not be able to move there, and then he would need to sell to move where I am… etc.

    So, we will continue to rent for quite some time until we are actually able to settle down in one location.

    Post # 16
    44 posts

    I bought a home while we were dating. He lives there part-time, but it is not considered his home base yet. Everything is in my name, but when he is there, he contributes too.


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