- 4 years ago
So to condense this story I will just jump right in then expand the “why” at the bottom if you want the whole story:
The plan is to get married (aka sign the papers) on November 7th, then go on our honeymoon the same month and be back for /thanksgiving, then have our formal wedding December 20th
The Fiance and I explained this to my mom a couple months ago and she flipped out and told us not to do it (yes she does have some input because my parents are paying for the wedding, however they are not paying for the honeymoon and it in no way affects them and we will already be married therefore our honeymoon wouldn’t be “sinful”…even though we already live together)…then about 2 weeks ago or so she was asking us if we will still be on our honeymoon for Christmas…so either she blocked it out of her head that we are taking the honeymoon in November or she assumed we completely threw out our plans simply because she asked us not to.
She hates the idea of signing the papers beforehand and hates the idea of having the honeymoon before the “wedding”
I guess I will stick with the plan no matter what and I am really asking for advice on how to tell her again or how to explain to her why we are doing it this way. Normal explaining does not work on this woman.
If you just wanted the short story you can skip to your comments/advice, otherwise here’s the whole story/the “why”:
Nov 7th is a special date to us and we really wanted to have our wedding and marriage on this date, but the venue we absolutely love was already booked for this date and booked for this date in 2016 and I refused to push back the wedding to 2017 so it would perfectly fit our dreams. So in order to not compromise on the date and not compromise on the location we decided to sign the papers on Nov 7th and have our wedding on Dec 20 (the last availible date for 2015 that also had enough time for us to plan the wedding).
We decided to keep the date of Nov 7th also because I really don’t want a holiday anniversary (especially a triple holiday one) because we currently have a triple holiday one: my birthday, our anniversary, and Valentine’s day are all within a week and a half of each other and with Dec 20th our anniversary, Christmas, and New Years would all be within a week and a half of each other. This is also important because if we decide to have other vacations around the same time as our anniversary it will be a lot easier & cheaper to get time off in November instead of Christmas and piss off a lot less relatives that we would be going on vacation instead of spending the holidays with them.
We decided to take the honeymoon in November because it is a lot easier for my Fiance to take off work (he is currently at the bottom of the totem pole at his job since he just started recently), and there will be less people at the resort (everyone wants to go to the tropics for winter!), and flights/hotel will be less expensive since it is an off-peak vacation time…as briefly mentioned above if we had the anniversary of Dec 20th and wanted to go to on anniversary trips we would be running into these same problems year after year.