(Closed) "Homophobic" Florist

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow… that’s terrible.  If you’re still looking for a florist, I just booked with Growing Wild based out of Alexandria, and she was fantastic in all of our meetings!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@starrynight:  i get where you are coming from with that question. I honestly think that OP had the realization that she may come into this opposition more than once and its going to hurt.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@KelannaDC:  That is REALLY pathetic on her part and I would let every bride I know hear about that. BUT, why did you ask her in the first place??? I had a secular ceremony in the Bible belt where a vendor may have felt that way about me not including Jesus in my wedding… but I certaily wouldn’t have offered the information unless she asked! It has nothing to do with floral service! The only person I would ask that to is your officiant and *maybe* the DJ. I just can’t believe she told you no like that…. crazy….

Post # 20
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Helper bee

Part of being a professional is putting your personal feelings aside and giving your client the best experience possible irrespective of the way you feel about their wedding. 

I’m sorry you had to deal with someone so unprofessional. 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

That is super terrible. Find someone else who is going to treat you and your future wife with respect and appreciate your business. So disgusting how ignorant some people are!!

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@starrynight:  I think if I was in the OP’s shoes, I would have wanted to know still, but I don’t think disclosure was the probematic part. I just find it really surprising and disheartening any time I encounter someone who’s homophobic. Especially considering that this vendor is in the wedding business but opposes equal marriage rights. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Spread the word.

There are lots of brides who don’t want to do business with bigots.  If I were looking for a florist in the DC area, I would absolutely want to know that this happened to you so I know not to touch her business with a 40 foot pole.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

that is sad, at first i thought, i wonder why KelannaDC asked “Do you have any moral or religious obligation to a lesbian wedding?”  but i suppose this is not the first time you have been a victim of homophobia, and i suppose it was much easier on yourself having this conversation over the phone. 

i really do not understand people acting in this way . i personally would not allow this woman to do your flowers, how could she possibly do her best work if she feels so negative towards the wedding, and afterall you say you are a perfectionist. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is maddening.  It’s so sad you feel like you have to ask the question to begin with….nevermind what would have happened had you not asked and signed a contract, etc? 

I’m in a opposite-sex relationship but have great friends that are in same-sex relationships and marriages and I’ve made sure every vendor we’re using is “rainbow friendly”.  There are many great vendors out there…chin up, you’ll find a great florist that isn’t such an asshole. 🙂

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@KelannaDC:  yeah….like, if someone complimented you on the flowers, what would you do… say “oh, thanks….but no, I can’t tell you. The woman who designed them things that she’ll go to hell if you find out”?

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh Jesus, seriously?? I’m not gay, but if I found at one of my vendors was homophobic or had an issue with gay people/marriage I would drop them.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@starrynight:  Um, I don’t think the problem was the disclosure…it’s that the florist holds those opinions in the first place. Of course the OP has to ask these questions!! What if she booked a vendor only to find out on the day of the wedding that s/he refused to fulfill the contract due to bigotry, or worse, fulfuilled the contract but said nasty things to the brides and their families and guests? 

OP, I’m so, so, so sorry that you encountered this. 🙁 I just want to put my arms around you and give you a big hug. You don’t deserve it. But it’s better to know, so that you can find a florist who will be proud and honored to provide the flowers for your big day.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I say spread the word, I’d drop a vendor in a hot second if I found out they were like this florist. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

I’m sorry that the florist reacted in such a bigoted manner. I would tell as many people as possible about her reaction (if I was in DC myself , I’d would also tell people not to use this florist.) Love is love and you don’t need someone like that casting a shadow over your wedding day. (BTW I’m a straight MOB with a straight daughter – we both support same sex marriages ourselves and would not use a vendor with those views). As DC has same sex marriages, I’m sure you’ll find a gay/lesbian positive vendor. Best wishes to you and your wife. 🙂

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone, this is the part that confused me:

If I may be spending a couple thousand dollars, I’m going to need you to either support gay marriage, or keep your opposition to yourself.”

How can the vendor keep her opposition to herself if she is ASKED if she has any objections?  I’d rather not know and I think it’s pretty cruddy to ask someone and then bash them for not keeping their opposition to themselves.  It seems like she’d have been ok with it had the florist lied, and that bothers me.  Make sense?

 

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