(Closed) "Homophobic" Florist

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 32
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

im straight, but i made sure all of my vendors would work with gay weddings before we booked them. our caterer actually just married her wife haha. im so sorry that happened to you–good luck!!!!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@starrynight:  Probably referencing the notion that it would be nice if business owners kept their personal intolerance of others’ lifestyles truly personal, rather than insert them into their business practices. I think that seems fair, the same way that every sane person stopped tolerating racist business practices. 

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sorry people suck, OP!  You will find someone even better to do your flowers.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@KelannaDC:  I kind of feel that by you asking her if she had any moral/religious reasons against a lesbian wedding that you gave her the opportunity to opt out…but then you got upset (which I understand).  There have got to be plenty of other florist you can work with who will gladly accept your business.  Regardless of what my religious beliefs are, I try not to let them cloud my judgement when it comes to social situations. 

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper

I am so sorry this is happening for your most important event of your lives! But with a name like FIFI Flowers, I would have imagined otherwise! It’s her loss and I wouldn’t recommend her to anyone. It’s bad business practice to be prejudiced!

I hope both of you find someone who will do your flowers as a couple!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

How rude and completely unprofessional of her. I would tell her that she just lost her self a high earing job and will spread the word of this. This is 2012 not 1902. She needs to get a grip on reality!. Find yourself another florist one who will happily do your flowers for you.

Congratulations hun, your wedding will be beautiful!

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KelannaDC:  Well.  I did cry.  I hate that anyone would not only feel this way but have the lack of social graces and professionalism to share these thoughts with you.  To take it a step further and put guidelines out makes me sick to my stomach.

But, I wish you so much love on your wedding day that I hope you will not Have space in your heart for any of this sadness.

 

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@starrynight:  I’m not sure why you’re having difficulty imagining that the OP has the right to ensure that she supports businesses who support her.  As a business owner myself, when someone asks my advice or my opinion on something that I don’t agree with I have the good sense to answer with grace and to preserve the dignity of the client asking.  My role as a business owner does not give me the right to hurt people’s feelings or make them feel badly about their life or choices even if I’m asked.

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@KelannaDC:  Visit Yelp, Angie’s List, or any other place with negative reviews! The florist deserves it.

Post # 41
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

It makes me so sad that you had this experience and I imagine that conversation was really disheartening. I truly hope that in the end you have a team of supportive vendors who are thrilled to be a part of your wedding day.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m sorry you had to deal with her.  I wish the world were a happier, safer, completely gay-friendly place for you.  I really do.

 

I wish you the best in finding awesome vendors who aren’t closed-minded like her.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t use them and I would make it a point to share how bigoted they were with anyone and everyone I know.  I’m in an interracial relationship, and if I found out that a vendor was against my relationship, I would NEVER use them.  Don’t let them get you down.  The prejudices and bigotry that other people have for your relationship is a problem with THEM, not you.  Best wishes to you and your SO and I hope you two find a florist that isn’t so narrow-minded and rude.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Pathetic. 

I’m straight – marrying a dude – and I still asked every single person I’m paying for any aspect of our wedding if they supported gay marriage – from our venue coordinator, to caterer, to bartender, to officiant.  And would not have hired them if they had a problem with it. Fortunately, being in Massachusetts, I had no problems… in fact several of them said something along the lines of “are you kidding? legal gay marriage doubled my business!! I couldn’t be MORE supportive!!”

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can’t believe you have to actually ask! I’m sorry! I hope you find someone else! Goodluck with the rest of ur planning 🙂

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