Honest opinion of very very long dress trains / veils (royal/cathedral/monarch)

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
217 posts
Helper bee

squirrelyone :  Giving your post a thumbs up isn’t enough- I want to give it a high five and a kitten. 

Post # 17
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I love them! I think they should be appropriate to the venue though. If you’re wearing a cathedral length train and veil to a beach wedding…yeah, it looks off. But in a grand venue or an ornate church, yes! 

I can’t stand the idea that I (figuratively speaking…general “I”) would need to forego wearing a gorgeous gown and veil, simply so people didn’t think I was a ‘wannabe royal’ or was trying to emulate Kim Kardashian. First of all the royal family isn’t the only group of people to ever wear a long train, and second, if I wanted to dress like a Kardashian I’d get a super tight dress and butt implants, not a long regal train and veil.

As far as practicality, I’d probably do what I did with my actual dress–which was a ball gown but no train–and that is to bustle it for the first dances, and take my veil off, then after we cut the  cake just change into a reception dress for dancing and party time.

But to answer your question, no I don’t think it’s trashy or cocky or weird. There are wayyyyy more things that are common that I’d categorize as such, but not a gorgeous gown.

Post # 18
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t think that they are trashy, but some can be dramatic. However, dramatic could be a good thing. I got married in a huge church, so dramatic is what I was looking for. I also forgot I was even wearing a long veil, so they are not hard to wear around. 

On another note, it’s your wedding day. If you want to wear something dramatic, do it. It’s your day, wear what makes you happy and forget what anybody else says. 

Post # 19
579 posts
Busy bee

I agree with EFred611  , Im a sucker for long dramatic trains, is your wedding you are wearing the drss once, so wear whatever makes you happy 🙂

Post # 20
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Athol Hall, Mosman

Shinytoy :  it’s all to do with *your* personal style. I’m a tomboy normally in the real world but when it comes to parties and special occasions, I show up and out. Your wedding style will most likely be a reflection of your partner and yourself so if you wanna show up in a gown made of 24k gold with a train that stretches for an entire mile, then do you. Don’t worry about other’s opinions, you need to be happy in what you’re in. 


I do agree that your attire should “match” the venue but that’s just for practical reasons. I wore a (literal) princess ballgown with a long train and a huge veil for my outdoor ceremony (historical house’s front lawn) and it worked out great. I loved every moment that I was in my dress and mourn the fact that I won’t get another chance to wear it again. I didn’t really have any difficulties walking about with my train but my veil was a bit of a pain during the photos (pier and beach locations) because that’s when it got caught a lot on the terrain. I will say that my train was also a bit difficult to bustle but once I got over that, the rest of the night was a party that was over way too quickly.


Post # 21
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Absolutely nothing about these sorts of dresses could be called trashy and I don’t even know where you would get that notion.  

Post # 22
945 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s pretty. There’s no other day where you can wear a super long anything without people thinking you’re crazy. If you have the venue and the money, why not?

The only weird thing is when the wedding venue is really small or really casual, and the dress doesn’t fit at all or takes up the whole room. I would then feel it’s inappropriate and the whole theme doesn’t flow. But at some locations a longer train is needed. 

Here’s an example (it’s my dress but I’m not the bride in the pics). The cathedral is so big that a dress with a massive train and oomph pulls it off beautifully and makes for stunning photos:


Post # 23
1452 posts
Bumble bee

I personally love big trains but the weight would get to me after awhile.  Just as an FYI, it’s pretty common in Asia for brides/grooms to go to a studio to get their wedding portraits done by a professional photographer (not their wedding day).  Once there, the people at the studio will do your hair/makeup for you and bride & groom will wear one of their rental bridal gowns/tuxes for the photoshoot.  And typically for these shoots, almost all of the dresses have very long dramatic trains on them.  The bridal pic in the OP looks like one of those photoshoots.  All of my friends who have gone to Asia to have their wedding portraits done have all worn some of these super big princess-like gowns with huge trains on them and have amazing pics.  But for their actual wedding, all of them had much more modest dresses without such a huge train.   

Post # 24
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Shina :  Yes! I’ve seen a video on Youtube from a vlogger named Bubz that did this. I would loooove to do that! The photos turned out so great. 


To answer the post specifically though, I LOVE it. My original dress was a lace sheath and it had a very minimal train which didn’t seem dramatic enough for me for my venue. My new dress has a pretty dramatic train but we’re getting married in a theater that was built in in the early 1900s and the reception will be held in a grand ballroom. 


Here is the train on my dress: 



Here is where our ceremony will be held:

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Post # 25
2658 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’m not a fan, both on myself and on other people. They just seem so big and impractical; I just don’t really like the look of them. I didn’t really want a train at all, but had resigned myself to the fact that I was going to have a small one. My veil was also elbow length, and I wouldn’t have gone any longer.

Post # 26
9684 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think they are stunning on the right person. I’m very short and feel they would look ridiculous on me. 

Post # 27
2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

They are royal.Sometimes they are stunning but it depends on who is wearing it and where it is. 

Post # 28
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017


I love it!!! Mine is cathedral, and I love it!!!!


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