Post # 1
So..the condensed story here is that I sorta helped pick out my ring. My Boyfriend tried and tried to find something but he only had his mother / grandmother to rely on for advice but he soon realized that their taste was outdated, and their choices wouldn’t be anything close to what I would choose for myself. Shortly after a close friend got engaged she approached me tearfully about how much she disliked her ring, but loved her SO. She didn’t know how to approach the situation so she made peace with wearing a ring she didn’t care for. After telling my boyfriend about this he decided to tell me his plan for asking for my hand and wanted me to choose some styles so he would make a decision that I would always love. He asked me not to tell anyone that I knew and has asked me to act surprised. I can tell that he is sad that I know. I love my boyfriend and am thankful that he valued my opinion so much that he chose that over the element of surprise. I do not know when he is asking, he has managed to keep that from me lol! But fast forward to today where a friend showed me a Facebook group that she follows, a terrible group that shames people’s rings. MY RING WAS ON THERE. My ring isn’t from a box store, it came from a local jeweler. I contacted him, and needless to say he was furious. He has apparently hired some college kids for the summer to help with his online store front and his marketing, he claims it to be one of them. I believe him as he’s been our families jeweler and is a wonderful man. But imagine my horror as im seeing my ring on this site with someone who has no clue it’s mine. I could just die. I’m asking for honest opinions. I have very thick skin. I don’t wear any jewelry daily and the few pieces I do own rarely see the light of day. So I know I’m not the leading authority on e-rings. I’m asking because it’s not too late to have my stone set into another setting. He hasn’t asked, and he has made it clear that if I find a setting I like better before he pops the question he will gladly swap them out for me. So please be honest with me ladies. Tell me what you do / don’t like. I don’t want to find myself on shaming sites or hear whispers about how my setting looks like a “fraken-ring” monstrosity…. as someone so kindly phrased it online. 😭
*note- I did join said group to msg the admin. I explained the situation and she was pleasant and removed the post. So thank god for that. Pics coming ASAP
Post # 4
It’s definitely large, too large for my taste, but its no where near a “franken ring”! Do you have larger fingers? It just looks large to give extra finger coverage.
Post # 5
It looks nice to me, I’m not sure why anyone would make fun of this ring??
Post # 6
medicdoll : fuck the haters!
Sorry, I had to get that out of the way.
Do you love it? THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS GIRL!
Post # 7
I don’t see anything to make fun of! No ring is gonna be everyone’s cup of tea or preference. I’m more of a solitaire girl myself. But what fun would this world be if everyone liked the same exact thing? And your ring is a nice standard halo, nothing crazy to shame at all! If you love it, then keep it and wear it with pride!
Post # 8
People can be assholes and opinions are the same as assholes, everyone has one and everyone does not need to see it. I’m sorry people trashed your ring and it’s made you second guess your choice, think it’s a unique and pretty ring but at the end of the day it is only you who have to love it People talk shit about my ring and it bothered me at first but now I could care less, I love my ring and my FH designed it for me himself, that’s what matters, not someone else’s opinion.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2020 - North Carolina
Groups/sites like that are so cruel. Why was your friend even following it? But that’s beside the point. If you love it, it doesn’t matter what others think. Everyone has such different tastes and styles that no one is ever going to pick out something that is universally adored by others, and it’s a fool’s game trying to do as much. I’m sure if you’ve looked at any ring threads here you’ve seen several you liked, and others that you wouldn’t dream of wearing yourself. Does that make them bad rings? Does that mean that other Bees have bad taste? No!
Do YOU like your ring? Does it make you happy to see, to think about wearing, and make you think of your SO? That’s all that matters.
Post # 10
Poor. I can’t imagine being involved in that terrible group! People on the internet can be mean. I once had some random person on IG comment on a picture of my ring, tagging her friend and saying, “This ring looks like a class ring! So ugly”
It made me feel bad at first until I realized that it didn’t matter that she thought my ring was ugly. I love it. I know that dainty bands and delicate details are really in right now for rings, but I love the chunkier, art-deco style.
Don’t replace it just because it’s not someone else’s cup of tea. Personally, I love your ring.
Post # 11
Girl, I really expected the Shrek of engagement rings. Yours does not fit the bill.
If you love it, keep it, and wear it with pride!
Post # 12
I’m really sorry that this has happened to you. That facebook group sounds awful! I think your ring looks lovely to be honest, the main thing is that you love it though. That’s all that really matters here. I really dont see what is so ‘awful’ about this ring at all. An engagement ring is one of the most expensive things a woman will own and I get the feeling that certain women criticise and bring down other women’s rings to make them feel better about theirs. It’s vile. Who cares what a few nasty women with nothing better to do then bring other women down thinks about your beautiful engagement ring that means so much to you and your SO.
Post # 13
jellybellynelly : thank you! I have a wonderful nail tech. I do have very large hands / fingers. I wear a size 9 😓 I call them my “working man hands” lol 😂
Post # 14
It is YOUR ring. Who cares what other people think? I know I would be livid if my ring got posted to a site like that however, who cares? You find it beautiful, your SO finds it beautiful. I personally find it gorgeous. It’s all about taste. I’m sure people out there think my ring is gaudy or awful but I don’t care because I like it and that’s all that matter.
If for some reason you can’t move past the posts about it and want to swap a setting do so. But don’t do it because you are trying to please someone other than yourself. These people aren’t wearing it, you are. Like i said I think it is lovely but again it’s about you.
Post # 15
I think your ring suits your hand and fingers perfectly. While they may be larger, they are definitely feminine. I would never look at your hands and think “man hands”.