Honest opinions of my E-ring

posted 1 year ago in Rings
  • poll: Keep original setting or find a new one
    Keep : (109 votes)
    83 %
    Find replacement : (22 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 31
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    medicdoll :  While the style isn’t my cup of tea, I think it looks stunning on you. You should definitely keep it, especially if you like it!

    Post # 32
    407 posts
    Helper bee

    Whoever has time to be in a FB group hating on rings needs to get a frigging life. Keep the ring! 

    Post # 33
    24 posts
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I was almost ready to close my eyes and prepare for them to be burned. That is a very pretty ring and you carry it well. Ignore the haters. If you love the ring, you rock that ring. that is all that matters. By the way I have been told twice my ring was tacky, and once it was going to be “outdated”. Not sure how a symbol of our love will be outdated but the one that said that is divorcing so I guess her husband became outdated to her also.

    Post # 34
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    1) Congratulations!!!! 

    2) Holy fuck that’s a lot of diamonds. I am 100% jealous. 

    3) That ring, and that man who is willing to sacrifice his “dream proposal” to make you happy, are keepers. 

    Post # 35
    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    People comment on my ring all the time “omg I can’t believe he didn’t splash out for a diamond, he must be so cheap”  

    I picked my ring, I never wanted a diamond, I don’t like the assumption that I must be disappointed because I don’t have one, or that my fiancé is cheap because I didn’t get one, it’s a rock on my finger with a piece of metal, there’s so many other things wedding related our money can go on. 

    I love my ring I picked my ring due to reasons personal to us and you know what. Screw the haters.

    Post # 36
    762 posts
    Busy bee

    There’s literally nothing wrong with your ring. That’s a really nasty FB group… 

    Post # 40
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    medicdoll :  Love that idea! Here’s my blue topaz e-ring. I proposed to him, so there was no ring, but we found this cutie while on vaca to martha’s Vineyard! <3 

    Post # 41
    4910 posts
    Honey bee

    medicdoll :  I was expecting something awful but it’s quite nice! It’s a pretty ring, nice coverage. Sparkly. Question isn’t if I like it (and I do) but do YOU like it? Also f that group. I’ve had rude comments to my face about my ring but I tell people to f off unless it’s at work. Lol. 

    Post # 43
    3311 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    There is nothing wrong with your ring. There is something wrong with anyone following a FB page designed to be cruel. 

    Post # 44
    4498 posts
    Honey bee

    It isn’t my style.  I think there is a whole lot going one and some of it could be scaled back (I think the whole lot going on comes into play more in the top down view where there is no main pretty focal point and makes me go a little cross-eyed trying to figure it out).  But that’s my personal style – I always think of ring elements as accessories and that adage from Coco Chanel of before you leave the house remove one accessory (to prevent over-accessorizing).  So to me the halo, plus the large double prongs, plus milgrain, plus scroll work, plus a hidden gem, plus split shank or multiple (three) bands (I can’t quite tell what is going on there), plus pave bands all just seem like a case of over-accessorizing to me.  If one of those is your wedding band or you are only going with this one ring then I could maybe see it, but I probably would have simplified by one or two elements personally.

    That said, I wouldn’t shame you for it or make fun of it behind your back.  I’ve seen some truly hideous rings and that doesn’t even begin to qualify.  It just isn’t my taste and I wouldn’t be rushing out to get myself one. It only matters that you love it because you are the only one who has to wear it.

    ETA: I first responded to the initial post.  I see in follow ups the two infinity bands are separate.  I would like it a whole lot more without those bands – it detracts from the engagement ring to make it seem more unfocused and over-accessorized, imo.  I would personally wear the bands stacked on my right hand and when it comes time for a wedding band, choose a plain metal band, maybe with the matching milgrain to compliment the ring but not compete with it.  But again, that’s just my preference.  You do you.

    Post # 45
    5967 posts
    Bee Keeper

    medicdoll :  Just chiming in to agree with the other bees who have already posted. I think your ring is beautiful and sparkly. It looks beautiful on your hand. And, more importantly, it is a piece you and your sweet fiancé created together. As others have already said, no two people are going to have the same taste or style. One person may like only simple, extremely dainty solitaires. The next person might think simple, extremely dainty solitaires are terrible and, instead, want to go with a ring that is full-out bling. You have to do what you love and wear what you love. If the ring makes you happy (which it seems like it does), then keep it. And wear it in the best of health through a lifetime of love and happiness with your wonderful partner.

    To me, wedding jewelry is timeless. It is the type of jewelry that steps away from considerations regarding style and trends and what is pretty or not pretty. Because beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and I find wedding jewelry beautiful no matter the style. It symbolizes so much. That’s what makes it beautiful and precious.

    I’m sorry you had to experience this. It’s easy to say that the opinions of others don’t matter. But the truth is that words hurt. I accidentally stumbled across one of my rings, which had been posted to a similar site. It hurt to read the mean things others were saying about it, particularly when it is a piece of jewelry that is special and meaningful to me. It made me feel really shy about posting this particular piece, like maybe I was just giving them more ammunition to make fun of me. I’m an introvert, too, which probably made it worse. It took a long time before I was able to talk myself into ignoring the mean comments and celebrating in my heart how much I love that ring.

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