Post # 31
Love the colours and the material. I think you could definitely do something with this dress although the cost of alterations would be high. Just altering it to fit you in its present design is a bit old fashioned looking but it would certainly be worth looking at redesigning it so you could wear the dress they saved.
Post # 32
That’s an awesome back-story about the dress. I think you could put on a paper bag and you’d look amazing, so the only real question is whether or not you like it.
If you search the Bee you will find many many threads about ‘dress regret’ where a bride changes her mind about her dress selection. If you did find yourself, in the future, regretting having chosen this dress then it would be much more than a financial setback – there would be a very difficult situation to navigate with your Future Mother-In-Law.
If you think this is the dress for you then I would recommend, before you commit, going to some bridal salons and trying a few other styles of gown. If nothing compares or makes you second guess your choice then you should go for it. If you find something you prefer, you would be best of making that decision from the get go, rather than changing your mind later on.
Let us know what you decide!
Post # 33
I think it is a lovely dress, Probably not what I would pick for myself ( a tulle and lace girl from way back) but I think it is a very lovely dress and I really like the combination of the colours. I thinkit needs a good iron/steam to dewrinkle it so you can see its full potential.
Post # 34
I’m not a fan of this dress at all either to be honest. I think the backstory is nice but you only get married once and you should find something you really love and you feel amazing in. If you’re thinking of going with this dress that’s great but definately try on some other dresses first to make sure you’re making the right decision. goodluck.
Post # 35
I’d pass. If you have to ask, that’s not it.
Maybe your family and future Mother-In-Law like the idea of gifting you the dress and making that one less worry, but if so then let them sell what they’ve got stored and let you choose your own dress with the $$$.
I’m with the PP, your wedding dress should reflect your personal style and preference.
Post # 36
I think it’s old fashioned, sorry.
Post # 37
I truly do not know what pps who talk of ‘looking cheap’ mean , it does not look cheap . As for looking like a prom dress, I don’t understand that either unless USA girls used to wear wedding dresses to proms….
That said , is is so much too big for you it is a bit hard to tell what it woudl look like properly fitted , but I suspect it would look lovely . I dont like all those ribbons in the back , and maybe the neckline could be better – though I dont find a sweetheart neckline as de rigeur as many do..
If you love it that is great , but as pps have said, don’t wear something you don’t really like to please others . ( though it would give you great hand as George Costanza would have said )
Post # 38
I have to agree with the others who say it’s rather dated, and I don’t think the backstory is enough to justify wearing it. If it had been your mother’s wedding dress – which is possible because I remember such styles from the 1990s – then it would be a different story.
If you’re set on it, I’d think about making it tea length, or high-low, altering the neckline and making a kick-ass reception dress. But I think you can do better for your actual wedding dress.
Post # 39
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Honest? I really hate it. It looks absolutely cheap and dated. I’m sorry Bee, you’re lovely and could do much better.
Post # 40
Ι love it! The colours and the material have a vintage vibe and the overall style is very regal.
Post # 41
Yes, it is a little dated (like 2000s, not 80s/90s, seriously!), but I don’t think it’s bad. It obviously needs to be altered. The top is way too big. The laces shouldn’t be touching like that, so when it’s altered correctly they won’t be as long. Satin is a classic bridal fabric, even if it isn’t trendy right now (remember that people would have turned their nose up at lace and tulle just a few years ago).
I think once it’s altered, it will be very flattering. Your waist looks great, and the skirt shape is very classic.
Sure, you could get it altered to be a sweetheart neckline, but that would date the neckline to right now, even if the rest is dated to another time frame.
I think you should use it if you love it, but don’t feel pressured into it. Don’t feel pressured out of it either!
If this is how much we hate on something that’s just a few years old, I hate to see what people are going to say about all these sweetheart strapless lace mermaids in 10 years!
Post # 42
sorry OP – I’m not a fan either. It’s a pretty dress but is very outdated. I think you should see if your family will go with you to try on some more modern styles. If nothing strikes your fancy you can always go back to this one and make some modifications as suggested by others. But I agree, that figure of yours is amazing and there are so many gowns out there that you could ROCK!
Post # 43
No lie, I looked at this dress and thought “wow this looks so much like the dress I wore to junior prom except mine was black and white”. Then I read your comment and thought “no way was that 15 years ago”. I did the math 😳 and cried a little inside! … Things that make you feel old …
Post # 44
The embroidery and the colored panel in the back ruin the dress. It does have a medieval vibe. IMO, it looks very 1998…like 90210 and clogs. The backstory is nice but not nice enough for the dress. IMO it does look cheap, but I also think every AA dress I’ve seen looks cheap.
Post # 45
While I think it’s a lovely sentiment, the style seems very dated. Sorry bee!