(Closed) HONEST Opinions please!

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 76
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

personally it is not my favourite but it’s about how you feel in the dress. It’s nice that it has meaning to you but if you’re not feeling wonderful in it maybe you should consider trying on some different dresses? Perhaps with the alterations you might feel differently but it doesn’t hurt to try on some other dresses. Best wishes! 

Post # 77
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194 posts
Blushing bee

Personally, I don’t like it, but it really just isn’t my style. If you love the thought, but aren’t completely sold what about wearing two dresses? That way you can have the sentimental value and the dress you love as well and is totally you. I am assuming this dress would be a gift, so it wouldn’t even cost you extra.

Post # 78
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194 posts
Blushing bee

I’ll also add, I agree with arquelle. All dresses will look dated eventually. In 20 years lace mermaids, sweetheart necklines, and big flowers details will scream 2010’s, but that isn’t stopping anyone from picking those dresses now. If you truly do not like the dress that is one thing, but I would not base my opinion on trends.

Post # 79
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it looks costume-y and cheap (which is crazy because I tried on a lot of Alfred Angelos this weekend and they all looked stunning and well made). 

the fabric looks cheap and it looks like you just walked out of Medieval Times (sorry) but I love the back story and it is totally possible that the wrinkles in the fabric are swaying my opinion for the worse a little. 

Post # 80
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1451 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

themoonofhislife:  I agree with you (and others) who are saying it gives off a weird Ren Faire vibe. I think it’s the train and corseting? Very strange.

OP, I also don’t love the dress… but I think it has real potential. If you really want to use it, maybe it can be altered to be more flattering – made into a mermaid perhaps?

Post # 81
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think it’s beautiful and it will be even more gorgeous when it’s altered and fits perfectly. I also love the story of where it came from. Congratulations! 😊

Post # 82
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would pass on it. Tell your Mother-In-Law how much you appreciate it and maybe you can incorporate something else she has saved – earrings, garter, etc. This style is very outdated.

Post # 83
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

yay for thoughtful and generous FMILs! free dress!

1. all things are dated eventually, but once it reaches 20 years old, you can call it “retro” or “vintage”, no matter what era it is from.

2. base details of the dress are uber modern-classic: satin, corset, beading, chapel train, strapless.

3. would you rather have a free dress?  is it even in your budget to get a newer dress? (no disrespect either way, i just know some Bees want to come in under budget)

3. alterations can work magic.  not only does it need to be mroe fitted, I would lose the corseting.  put in a zipper, bring that button detail all the way to the top, and get you a sash in the champagne color (with no dangling tails).  try it bustled.  tuck the train under to see if you like it more as a traditional ballgown.

4. consider other wedding decisions you have made: location, time of year, style of wedding.  If you are having a rustic wedding anywhere from late december to early may, taht dress would be lovely.  toss a cashmere cardi over the top, wear your hair in long soft curls, and call it a day.  if you are planning a hotter location or warmer time of year, you may not be as comfy.  

5. APW has a great article about dress shopping as a program software, all about making a detailed plan of what you want and how to achieve it, dress-wise.  check it out, then make a plan with and without the dress.  you mgiht determine that you only really like 1 thing about the dress, or really hate 1 thing.  either way, if you go looking for a different dress, keep those details in mind.

6. make it the “dress to beat.”  you have it, it isn’t going to be sold out from under you, so look around.  try on other styles, similar styles, and then try on the dress again.  it might be that that small emotional connection you have with the dress is bigger than you imagined, or you realize that you would rather wear anything BUT that dress.

7.  ask Future Mother-In-Law to shop with you!  she knows that dress, she knows dresses (i assume, having run a salon), and she loves you!  bring her and your mom, try on dresses, and see if anything sparks with you.  if she sees you fall in love with a different dress, i don’t think she will be upset with you.  

you have options!  i think you look lovely, but you def. need alterations, but most gowns do anyway.   in theory, you have time to make this decision.  <3

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