yay for thoughtful and generous FMILs! free dress!
1. all things are dated eventually, but once it reaches 20 years old, you can call it “retro” or “vintage”, no matter what era it is from.
2. base details of the dress are uber modern-classic: satin, corset, beading, chapel train, strapless.
3. would you rather have a free dress? is it even in your budget to get a newer dress? (no disrespect either way, i just know some Bees want to come in under budget)
3. alterations can work magic. not only does it need to be mroe fitted, I would lose the corseting. put in a zipper, bring that button detail all the way to the top, and get you a sash in the champagne color (with no dangling tails). try it bustled. tuck the train under to see if you like it more as a traditional ballgown.
4. consider other wedding decisions you have made: location, time of year, style of wedding. If you are having a rustic wedding anywhere from late december to early may, taht dress would be lovely. toss a cashmere cardi over the top, wear your hair in long soft curls, and call it a day. if you are planning a hotter location or warmer time of year, you may not be as comfy.
5. APW has a great article about dress shopping as a program software, all about making a detailed plan of what you want and how to achieve it, dress-wise. check it out, then make a plan with and without the dress. you mgiht determine that you only really like 1 thing about the dress, or really hate 1 thing. either way, if you go looking for a different dress, keep those details in mind.
6. make it the “dress to beat.” you have it, it isn’t going to be sold out from under you, so look around. try on other styles, similar styles, and then try on the dress again. it might be that that small emotional connection you have with the dress is bigger than you imagined, or you realize that you would rather wear anything BUT that dress.
7. ask Future Mother-In-Law to shop with you! she knows that dress, she knows dresses (i assume, having run a salon), and she loves you! bring her and your mom, try on dresses, and see if anything sparks with you. if she sees you fall in love with a different dress, i don’t think she will be upset with you.
you have options! i think you look lovely, but you def. need alterations, but most gowns do anyway. in theory, you have time to make this decision. <3