Post # 1
So I am thinking about having only family members in my bridal party and no friends.
My MOH- my Aunt, and my BMs- my FSIL, and 3 cousins.
My question is, would you think it was weird if you went to a wedding like that? Where the bride had only family and no friends in her bridal party? But the groom had all friends.
I had a falling out with my best friend years ago and now I don’t have many close friends. I only have 3 friends I was thinking about including but for various reasons I am leaning towards family instead. I almost feel like I am not close enough to ask them to have such a big duty.
Any opinions on this? And please be honest if you think this would be weird to see or not!
Post # 3
Nope, not weird! Do your thing!
Post # 4
No way! It’s nice and simple…I’d majorly respect that.
Post # 5
Nope, not weird at all! It’s exactly what we did, actually.
I have 3 siblings (2 sisters, 1 brother), and DH is an only child. I had a number of friends that I could have asked, but I didn’t know how many of them would be able to travel to the wedding (far-flung geographically, various family obligations, etc.), and I didn’t want to end up with a really big wedding party, either. My sister & her husband had 7 or 8 on each side when they got married, and we felt that was too much.
So, we ended up having all three of my siblings stand up on my side, and 2 guys and 1 female friend stand up on DH’s side. Worked great.
Post # 6
@Jennybenny16: Not weird at all. I’ve seen it a few times. The one that especially springs to mind is the popular girl who had a lot of friends, but chose her two sisters and closest cousin. Perhaps to avoid hurting anyone, but mostly because she valued family so much.
Post # 7
I don’t see anything wrong with it as long as they are all people you’d like to be in the wedding party!
Post # 8
Not weird at all. Actually I think that it makes more sense to do it that way. That way the wedding party photos are family photos. Friends come and go, sometimes kind of unexpectedly, family is forever. I’m not having a wedding party at all though, so just my 2cents.
Post # 9
@Jennybenny16: nope, not weird at all. I’m not having a bridal party but if I was, it would probably be my mom and my fiancé’s family. He has four sisters. I don’t have many people n my side that I’m close to.
Post # 10
I am only having 2 bridesmaids (my sister and groom’s sister) and 1 flower girl (cousin’s daughter). I don’t think it’s weird at all! I think if anything it keeps things simpler! I was just worried about having wedding photos I look back on in 30 years wondering why I had had certain people in my wedding party…
And my mum did the same thing – she only had her sister and the groom’s sister as BMs!
I think you should do whatever you feel is right, whether that’s having no bridesmaids at all or having 15 of your friends and family!
Post # 11
That is what I am doing. I am having my two sisters and my FSIL. It’s exactly who I want and seriously cuts down on the drama of having to choose from friends.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Jennybenny16: Though it isn’t my thing personally, I would not think about it twice or think it weird if someone else did it.
Post # 13
I just want to point out that maybe this is a time to use to get closer to your friends. A friend of mine who had me in her bridal party had only family members other than me in her bridal party and she only spends her time now with family members and she has no friends (except me, we’re still close). I just think that if you come down to your wedding and you realize that you’re not that close with some friends, maybe it would be a good idea to take this time to get closer to your friends. I think having non-family friends are important in life, so I’m just pointing this out as advice for the long run.
Would I think it’s weird? No. I would just think that the bride doesn’t have many friends or isn’t close to the ones she has, since that’s what I’ve experienced before.
Post # 14
I’m a bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding at the end of this month. She has five bridesmaids total and we’re all family. Her bridal party includes her two sisters, two cousins and her aunt. It’s worked out nicely. 🙂
Post # 15
I agree with a PP that said while it’s not my thing, I don’t think it’s weird. FI and I don’t have any family in either of our bridal parties. But neither of us have family that we’re close to and both believe that you make your own family. So in my bridal party I have my closest girl friend I call my sister and a close guy friend I call my brother.
Post # 16
Your wedding party is whoever YOU want. One married woman as your MoH? Great. 17 people you met off the street? Great! As long as it is what YOU want, it isn’t strange!