- 2 years ago
- Wedding: Chesapeake, VA
My sister did a rehearsal the morning of her wedding without the groom and it was great and quick.
I second doing the sponsored meal on friday.
The rehearsal dinner and the rehearsal don’t NEED to be on the same day. I would do the rehearsal with whoever can make it on a Wednesday and have a legit rehearsal dinner with everyone on Friday. Forget Wednesday dinner.
I understand the ‘per the venue’ but don’t understand ‘per our wedding planner’. It seems strange that you would have a get together days before the wedding. Can you do a rehearsal right before the dinner on Friday so that you can combine the wedding party dinner and Out of Town dinner in one?
If I were coming from out of town, I would assume you would be hosting and paying for the dinner.
Yes it’s tacky. I would still have dinner Wednesday to thank your wedding party that did make the out-of-town rehearsal and then do something low-key on Friday just to get the wedding party together before the wedding. It could be simple and a nice time for everyone to be together and unwind a little before the wedding. Could you host something at your house? I hosted a bbq/dinner at my parents house so it was a very lax atmosphere and everyone was comfortable and got to enjoy themselves before the hetic-ness of the big day.
I like the idea of doing the actual rehearsal dinner on Friday, regardless of when the rehearsal actually is. Note that you can probably get away with doing your rehearsal somewhere other than the actual venue unless there’s some sort of particularly unusual situation with the layout. (We’re probably not going a rehearsal but if we do, it’ll be a quick walk through in our hotel suite.)
do your rehearsal on friday night in your backyard with pizza and beer for everyone.
what actually do you have to rehearse? mine took 5 minutes. i just showed my wedding party the order they would be coming in, where they would stand, and order they were leaving and with who. m,y rehearsal could have been done in my kitchen if i needed it to be.
Do one dinner on Friday, skip the other. It’s superfluous. Plus, you don’t want to start out the wedding festivities by charging guests for food upon their arrival in town.
I have never heard of a rehearsal 3 days prior to the wedding. Is it possible to do an earlier rehearsal on Friday? That seems extremely ridiculous on the part of the venue unless it’s some non-traditional place. If not, just scrap Wednesday and do something Friday that you can pay for.
Another vote to rehearse elsewhere on Friday and host your dinner following. A Wednesday rehearsal is an annoyance to pretty much everyone.
i was in a wedding where they made us go to a rehersal ceremony a week before and then rehersal dinner the night before. after the ceremony we had pizza at their house, the dinner was more what you typically have.
That being said – yes you should pay if you’re doing 2 events.
Having been a bridesmaid several times, you shell out so much money, are expected to be so many places (picking out a dress, planning a shower, attending the shower, planning a bachelorette, going to the bachelorette, rehersal dinner and wedding day) the least the bride/groom can do is give you a dinner the night before.
I personally hated that the rehersal was split though. It ate up a saturday night and another friday night, when i had already given up plenty of dates/times to wedding activities.
Please be considerate of peoples time, yes its your special day, but most people don’t want to be stuck going to multiple dinners/rehersals. Try and do something Friday. Go just you and your husband wednesday if you have to and do a mock rehersal at the dinner venue friday. I am just asking as someone who’s been in the wedding parties shoes many times, spare them the extra hassle.