Post # 1
Hi all I am curious as to the true opinions of bees here. Do people think two dress brides are over the top? show offs? Ridiculous ?? Anything like that? I am considering having a ceremony and reception gown both nice quality gowns but I am a little nervous of what people will think and say behind my back. I really don’t have a ton of money.But I am not going over the top the only reason I was considering it is because my gown has a super long delicate train that I am afraid will rip during the reception even when bustled and I would like to re sell it. And the other gown I was planning on purchasing used and reselling again. Of course I can’t explain that to everyone so I want to know what the true opinions you girls have are. I am spending a good portion (1/3) of my wedding budget on my gowns but its the only part I’d think I can recoup some.
Honest opinions appreciated!
Post # 3
I honestly dont think i’d think much more than “oh she changed her dress!” I might compare the two dresses you had on, but I dont think I’d go as far as to think about the money you spent on them. I wouldnt care what you paid for 1 or even 2 dresses, its not my concern. And I dont think you should need to justify it to anyone. Some people spend 3k on one dress, some might spend 500 and get 2… once again, not my concern.
Post # 4
i have never seen a 2 dress bride – i guess my only thing would be i would be sad if i didnt get time enough to see/appreciate the first dress before it was whisked away never to be seen again
Post # 5
I am a 2 dress bride but both dresses are very affordable. One is an Alfred Angelo for about $400 or so, and another from shorter dress from Nordstrom for $150. I have to change my dress because my reception is a backyard BBQ and I don’t want to ruin my dress in the grass or with messy food or something.
Personally, when I see girls with like 4 dresses on tv I feel like they’re being over the top. But if I went to a wedding and the bride had one wedding dress and another more comfortable looking dress for dancing and mingling, I would just assume her first dress was too hot or poofy for the reception. I would def not think she was being a show off. It’s the girls with 3 wardrobe changes that confuse me… and I’ve only ever seen that on tv.
Post # 6
I’v never been to a wedding with one. I think I would be a little disapointed if I only saw dress #1 at the ceremony and then didn’t see it at the reception at all, because ceremonies are usually quite short, and not enough time to really appreciate the dress.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t be phased by it. I, too, would just think, “Oh, look! She changed!” and then I’d want to see what the 2nd dress was all about. 🙂 I know that in some cultures (my Fiance is part Chinese and he introduced me to this concept) it is a tradition to change into several dresses during the wedding as to bring good fortune and showcase the current good standing of the family/couple, so if I see a multi-dress bride, I try not to judge but consider that it might be a cultural choice. Even if it is a fashion or logistical choice (like not wanting to ruin the ceremony gown as you said) I think anyone willing to think it through a little would realize that you just wanted to be careful and put on more of a party dress for later. Anyone that doesn’t think it through and talks behind your back isn’t worth worrying about. All that said, do you what you feel is best for you and your situation.
Post # 8
It’s the norm in our culture. Bride has traditional dress, white dress, cake cutting dress, dancing dress, etc. Given most of them are rental, so they’re affordable. Some people were surprise that I only have one dress.
Post # 9
This isn’t exactly your question, but I just wanted to throw this out there: I was a 2 dress bride, and I REALLY regret changing into my second dress for the reception. I did it because my first dress had tons of layers and it was like 95 degrees on my wedding day (but both the ceremony and reception were inside), and I thought it would be easier to dance in my other dress. Now that I’m seeing pictures of the day, I looked much better in the first dress, and that was the dress everyone barely got to see. The second one didn’t photograph very well, but everyone takes ten times the amount of pictures at the reception, so I’m stuck with all of these photos of me in the dress I don’t like as much.
Just something to think about before you decide to wear 2 dresses.
Post # 10
The biggest lesson I learned through planning my wedding and the day of… was not to give a second thought to what anyone thinks of what I wear. I wasted so much energy worrying about so many things… all you need to be concerned about for your guests is that they are comfortable. You know the reasoning behind your two dresses, so trust your decision and enjoy your day. What other time will you be able to wear two beautiful gowns in one night?
Post # 11
I don’t necessarily think anything bad of a two dress bride, although it wasn’t for me personally. I only had one dress and for me, wearing it during both ceremony and reception still wasn’t enough time in it! I didn’t want to take it off afterwards!
The only time I would talk about a two-dress bride negatively would be if the guest’s comfort was disregarded so that the money could be spent on a second dress. If there weren’t enough chairs for people to sit or if the food ran out leaving only half the guests to have something to eat, I’d think less of the bride in her two wedding gowns.
Post # 12
I’m a two-look bride. I’ve got a dress with a long train and longer veil for the ceremony and meal (3-7pm) and a shorter 1950s style skirt and fabulous hat for the dancing in the evening (8pm-1am).
Post # 13
Thanks guys! The only thing is my second dress is nicer than the first one. Even though it is used and I didn’t pay more than the first one, it is a higher quality designer but it is a silk trumpet style so it is more sleek. Here are my possible dress(es) 1st two photos are La sposa Denia and second is kenneth pool, What do you think now?
Post # 14
The first one is BEAUTIFUL!!! People are going to want to see it up close at the reception for sure. Could you enter in it and do some mingling then change for the real dancing?
If you wore those 2 dresses I wouldn’t think you’re showy and I would know for sure that your first dress was too delicate for the reception. Very pretty.
Post # 15
I think that even if your second dress is fancier/better quality or whatever your first dress is much more original and beautiful. Like the pp I would most definitely be disappointed to see it whisk away but I would understand that it’s a very delicate dress.
Post # 16
I like your first dress better!
Honestly, I would think either
a) Why would you want to change out of your wedding dress if you didn’t have to?
or – if the second dress is also very wedding-y…
b) hmmm a little bit of a princess!