(Closed) Honestly, why are/did YOU get married?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Honestly, Why are/did YOU get married?

    I am totally head over heels in love with my best friend, soulmate, etc etc

    We have great sex

    I got pregnant, seemed like the right thing to do

    I'm marrying for money

    I didn't have the heart to say no

    All my friends are doing it

    I am afraid to grow old alone

    I am being forced into marriage

    I just like planning a wedding

  • Post # 47
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Dude, I sometimes WISH I were marrying for money. (I wouldn’t want it to be anyone but Fiance but him having a ton of money would still be awesome…)

    Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I imagine most people would have voted for the last option if that had originally been included!

    Post # 49
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Everyday I learn something new… not through what he says per say, but because of who he is: kind, thoughtful, ornery, funny, sweet, picky, stubborn, silly, humble, gentle, and supportive. We were friends for 3 years before we started dating and the friendship we have is so special that it is the foundation for our relationship. Love can be rocky, but when a deep friendship is at the core, you discover patience and understanding comes much more easily.

    The reasons for why I would consider getting married are much different today in my late 30’s than in my 20’s. I’m so glad I never followed through with going down the isle until now.

    Post # 50
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I voted for the last option. 

    As a Christian, I strongly desired to adhere to God’s design and purpose for marriage, and I did not want to compromise that for any reason. 

    Prior to meeting my DH when I was in my mid 40s, I had had numerous other boyfriends and several long-term relationships, some for two-two-three years each. I was even engaged once to a most amazing and wonderful young man. However, over time, and as I grew in my walk with God, I came to realize that, for various reasons, none of those men was the one whom God had chosen for me.  Although I cried many tears at the end of a couple of those relationships, including the one with my former Fiance, I knew I had to wait for God’s choice for my life.  Waiting as long as I did was not easy; however, I am so thankful that I did wait.

    About 26 years ago, I heard Christian psychologist Dr. Richard Dobbins speak at a church that I attended, and he gave this definition.  It stuck with me ever since:

    Christian married love is the persistent effort on the part of two people to create for each other the circumstances in which each can become the person God intended him or her to be — a better person than he or she could become alone.”

    That is the type of marriage partnership that I desired to have. I also knew that God’s Word clearly states that sex was designed and intended to be enjoyed within the bonds of a marriage relationship only, so I knew that if I wanted to have that type of relationship, I would need to be married.

    Finally, I wanted to marry a man whom I could trust, respect, and love and with whom I could have fun and share my life. He had to be a very strong Christian, and he had to love God more than he loved me.  I desired many other virtues and traits to be present in my future husband as well.  When I finally met my DH, despite the fact that he had been married before, has multiple children, does not make a lot of money, and lived in a different state, resulting in my need to uproot my entire life and resign my corporate position to relocate to be with him, I was willing to do that.

    Post # 51
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    Bumble bee

    I thought about this a lot, because there isn’t a really good reason to get married…you can live together and have kids and be happy without being married.

    The security is nice, though. If marriage didn’t exist, I would still be with him forever and be his daughter’s mom. In the society we live in, it’s a really nice way to say that we’re together premanently. That we chose each other above everyone else. 

    The tax benefits are nice too. 

    Probably the best everyday thing is that we wear our rings all the time and so everyone knows we’re taken. I feel like it’s a nice physical representation of being with each other all the time. : )

    Post # 52
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    why not is my answer

     

    Post # 53
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I love him and can say and do anything in front of him and he doesn’t judge me.. He’s my best friend.

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