- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So over the holidays I ran into an older (in her sixties) relative who is getting married about 4 months after me. Apparently she didn’t know I was getting married, even though we sent her a std. I’ll post the convo here…
crazy”I’m getting married!”
“Why so early??”
“why so early, honey??”
“what do you mean?”
“Its just so soon!”
“We’ve been dating for 2.5 years, he’ll be 28. We’re ready. How long have you dated such and so?” (thinking, what the hell am I validating this for? She has never met groom and only sees me once a year…walk away.)
“Well we haven’t dated quite that long but our engagement is going to be a little over a year.”
“We’ll be engaged just under a year.”
conversation goes casual and light again. She brings up her wedding again, it is in a hotel. My reception is in a hotel.
crazy-“We’re having a buffet, so people can get whatever they want.”
me”We’re going to do a sit down dinner.”
THIS IS WHERE IT GETS UGLY.
crazy”its considered sitdown when people actually serve you, honey. Its not sitdown just because you’ll have food and table and chairs.”
my older sister steps in and says “No great aunt crazy, she really is having a sit down dinner. She is having it at such and such hotel in the ballroom and they are doing a dinner where these guys in white jackets and gloves will serve them! We’re really excited!”
crazy”Well buffets are actually more expensive! We didn’t want to do sit down because buffets are more expensive.”
me “oh okay.” *finds random baby to hold and walks away*
am I wrong to be annoyed by this? Was she really trying to out do me? I know its really not a big deal but it hurt my feelings and pissed me off. She lives in an entirely different state and has no idea what my wedding will be like, I just felt like she was judging me like crazy.
Who cares how much what costs or whether we are sitting down or standing up or microwaving pizza?
and I think if you are sitting down and eating it is a sitdown dinner. but what do i know. I’m not in my sixties getting married for the fourth or fifth time, so I’m no expert…..
okay I’m done, sorry!