(Closed) Honeyfund, anyone use it? anyone have better?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We did not have a honeyfund per say, but we were encouraged by friends and family to use the honeymoon registry from the resort we went to.  They knew that after 20 years together we had plenty of towels, and did not need crockpots.  We were warned if we DID NOT come up with a registry, we’d spend a lot of time returning stuff we did not need, but after we set it up, every seemed totally find with it, despite all the negative responses I got on the Bee from doing what my friends suggested.  We actually eloped at the resort, so this helped us bring home a DVD to share with friends and family, and some even sent flowers to our room and wine.  

You know best your friends and family, and how they will respond to a honeymoon registry.  Frankly, if it’s what the couples wants, I’m fine with it.  People can gift to it or not, and they are still free to give you a crock pot if they so desire. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Recommend doing a search and look at past discussions about it. It a hot topic. 

I recommend not doing this. All it does is charge your guests and you a fee and take a cut of the money. Just don’t register and if anyone asks answer with “oh we don’t need anything for our house so we are saving up for a down payment/student loans/honeymoon/etc”. Most people know cash is a good gift. This way you can use he cash for whatever you want and take out the middle man who will charge you extra.

We had only a small registry and ended up getting a lot of cash. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We used Honeyfund, but it was in addition to a traditional Target registry. I didn’t intend on doing a real registry, because like you we had lived together and not only did we not need anything, our kitchen/garage/closets can’t hold too much else in terms of household items. But, we had some family members asking for it, so we made one and just got creative on the items we put.

I had about 7 families use honeyfund and earned close to $700. For those that did use it, it worked out pretty well. The money goes directly into your checking account, not towards the honeymoon itself, but some guests felt more comfortable knowing they were donating to a cause and not just cash to spend as we chose. I say go for it! Not everyone will use it, and you will still get traditional gifts and cash, but some people may like the website so it doesn’t hurt to make one!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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Morgan Daguison :  Its a hot button issue around here and every honeyfund post I’ve viewed turns into a clusterf*ck. Personally, I don’t care for the idea at all and would choose to give cash instead but I’m not petty enough to give nothing if a honeyfund is set up like some. ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Morgan Daguison :  it’s just a hot topic and people feel strongly on either side so these questions start long debates. I suggest you do a search for old threads related to honeymoon funds. 

(And then because I’m anti-honeymoon fund I also suggest you don’t do one ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Some people are against it because Honeyfund charges a small fee (like 3%, so you would get $97 if they donated $100). But, I also believe some guests feel more comfortable giving you money knowing it is going to a good cause and not to your bar tab or to pay for your wedding, etc. I say don’t listen to the girls on here who say don’t do it, and do what you feel is best for you and your guests. Some/most people on your guest list may not use it, but some will so who cares?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Morgan Daguison :  if the bride and groom want cash, they just shouldn’t register. I am fully aware that cash is a good gift and that’s what I normally give. I very rarely purchase gifts from the registry. Two main reasons why I don’t like them:

1. I don’t like being told straight out they want cash. That’s all a honeymoon fund is. I’m not naive enough to think that I’m actually paying for an “experience”. No, im giving them cash through a third party that *may* go towards an experience. Or they may just cash it out and use it for whatever. It’s rude to be told to give cash unless someone specifically asks.

2. Honeymoon funds charge a fee for the guests and for you. If I want to give you $100, I don’t want some middle man taking a cut and you actually only getting $96. I don’t see the point. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

we got around $2100. We put up all the details of everything we were planning on doing each day. We also uploaded a photo. We had a lot of guests comment to us that they really liked that we had our plans up there and that they got to pick what they wanted to fund and see everything we were doing. I think it worked out great, but would caution if you do it, not to just make it a general fund. Do it that way and you might as well just ask for the cash. I’ll pm you my last name in case you want to peek at ours. we also had a target registry, but nearly all our guests decided to honeyfund instead. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

honeyfund takes a % of your money! I wouldn’t do it. Is there a polite way to tell everyone you want cash/check only!?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We did Blueprint registry. For me, the website was just prettier and people felt more like they were giving us something. We did have two additional traditional registries as well. We received less than $1k from our cash registry, but we also didn’t receive many gifts overall.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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tessadub :  no, there’s no polite way to tell people you just want cash. Have no registry. Most people will get the hint. If someone specifically asks, then you can mention that you are saving up for something and don’t need anymore things. 

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