(Closed) Honeyfund Registry

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you have a honeymoon registry?
    Yes : (23 votes)
    28 %
    No : (53 votes)
    65 %
    Possibly : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had a few friends try to talk me into doing it, but I’m afraid my family would think it was really tacky.

    Post # 4
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nah. I know plenty of people that have done it but I think it’s the same as asking for money. If I want to give money to a couple, I’d just give them cash.

    Post # 5
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    On the fence. My cousins from the NorthEast had one and my southern family, whom I’m closest to, almost had a heart attack over it. I think since many people equate it with asking for money and a gift is not a requirement- people might be offended. I wouldn’t care- I’d love to know I was helping a new couple take a trip. However, I think it really is divisive based on generational/regional lines.

     

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Many of our guests would probably be offended so, no, we have a traditional registry to stock up on sheets/towels/linens and to upgrade a few things. 

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We have a honeyfund, with a small traditional registry for a few house items. I’ve gotten compliments from our guests so far who thought it was neat.  Others have given us cash or check.  

    No big deal, I’m not concerned if others aren’t on board.  It’s my wedding, I’m registered for things I want.  If people think it’s tacky and don’t want to contribute, they don’t have to.  If they are offended and don’t want to attend, so be it. Why should I register for a carload of items I already have or don’t need?  If they don’t want to use it, they won’t.  Gifts are not the object of getting married for me, material or honeymoon-related.

     

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We both come from cultures that typically give money. However, the majority of our guests were not from our cultures. We did a full registry with upgrade items in various price points and almost all of our guests knew we had been living together for many years. In the end, we received about 1/4 registry gifts and 3/4 gifts of cash (based on dollar value, not quantity of gifts). We never told anyone we wanted cash and actually when people asked if and where we registered, we typically said “A gift is not necessary!” and left it up to them to dig up our registry on our website. We did consider a honeymoon registry as we really would like cash, but it made us uncomfortable so we didn’t set one up.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We have a honeymoon registry and a small regular registry. We have lived together for 3.5 years so we don’t need most of the typical registry items. Our guests aren’t offended and more people have “purchased” from our honeymoon registry than our regular registry so far. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    It’s basically a round-about way to ask for money. A lot of people think it’s kinda rude. I wish we’d had the guts to do it, but I was too worried about offending someone.

    Post # 12
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    3266 posts
    Sugar bee

    Registering for cash will never be acceptable in my circle, so no.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Our website says:

    Gifts are not a necessity and are not expected of any of our family or friends. It is your presence, not your presents, that matter the most to us, and we are thrilled that so many of you will be joining us in Chicago.

    However, in the spirit of convention, we have created registries at XX and XX for those who have inquired about offering a gift.  If you wish to gift something other than a material item, we’ll be spending a week in Mexico to celebrate our big day as we reflect on many more to come. Consider celebrating our marriage with the gift of relaxation and contribute whatever you like to our Honeyfund.

    It is all dictated by how traditional your family and friends are, regional expectations, if your guests are traveling, etc.  Being a little older has helped me shed some of the fears I might have previously had about other’s opinions and expectations.  Everyone has been supportive of the registry choice so far and we’ve received positive feedback from several who know about it.  Do whatever you want and enjoy!

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Times, they are a changing.  HM registries are so in right now.  All of my engaged friends have them and are much more excited about Honeymoon gifts than dishes!

     

    Good Luck

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I love how people are all high and mighty about this. As if it’s in bad taste and they are above this sort of low brow nonsense. Haha

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    No, my family wouldn’t like that. They would just give cash with no cut taken out of it.

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