(Closed) honeyfund vs gift registery (rude to put in the invite) need opinions please

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it rude to include our honeyfund website on a card in the wedding invite
    Rude...have it only word of mouth : (69 votes)
    63 %
    Yes include it...how would they know what to give you? : (30 votes)
    27 %
    other: please explain : (11 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    3292 posts
    Sugar bee

    It is always rude to ask for gifts or money on a wedding invite. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    pglt09:  Hey! I think putting it on the website is enough. The people who dont visit the website will probably reach out to either of you and ask? In terms of honeyfund vs physical gift registry, I think it’s the same thing. We are also not doing a traditional registry because we have everything we want, and sure there are 5-10 items we COULD put on there, but we seriously just dont need anything. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    958 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I don’t think it needs to be on the invitation, just put it on the website. I personally don’t have a problem with a honeymoon fund or house fund or whatever. People are going to buy you stuff whether you are registered or not, so you may as well give them an option to avoid getting a bunch of crap you don’t want.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee

    You never mention gifts on a wedding invite.  In doing so it makes it seem like you expect gifts and since gifts should never be expected, listing the registry information would be a big no no.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee

    pglt09:  You may not be the only one who doesn’t care, but just because you don’t care doesn’t mean that it is right.  I have a problem with people who include this information because it just seems super gift grabby to me.  I am not a dumb person.  I know that gifts are appreciated but when you start shoving your registries in my face for an event that does not require gifts, that is when I have an issue.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1746 posts
    Bumble bee

     

    pglt09:  ageist much?  lol?  Those old people may have a different view of etiquette than you.  Yes, times are changing, but traditional etiquette – that likely known more to the old people who don’t know how to get on the internet – is that registries are not a part of invitation suites.  Registries are something that is word of mouth, or in more modern times, on a wedding website.  Younger generations don’t seem to adhere so closely to this distinction. 

    ETA:  I know plenty of old people who are adept at the internet.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    pglt09:  Ettiquette is a guideline for the standard of polite behavior. It is considered good manners to not talk with your mouth full of food, but some people do it anyway. Maybe everyone you know talks while chewing and no one would blink an eye, but that still doesn’t make it correct behavior. 

    If you really don’t care, do what you want. No one is going to arrest you, but you may offend or upset some of your wedding guests.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    3867 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I’ve been to a lot of weddings and I’ve only ever seen the wedding website on the STD and registry info on the wedding website or occasionally a shower invite. I think it’s best to put registry info on your website, and pass the information on by word of mouth if people ask you.

    Post # 14
    Member
    3292 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have never been given a gift registry card in a wedding invite. Just put the website on the invite. People can find the info that way as well as what they will need to know about the area, hotels, travel, etc. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee

    pglt09:  You can make a note of your website in your invite suite.  A small business card size insert with something like…

    Additional details can be found on our website

    http://www.nameofwebsite.com

    This way your guests will be aware of your website.  But just a FYI.  I am 31 years old and rarely, if ever, look at a wedding website.  If there is any important information that I need to know it should already be included in your invite suite.

     

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