Post # 62
@HeartsandSparkles: oh do get off. A wedding is a ceremony where vows are exchanged and a marriage is a legal contract.
Often these two happen at the same time, but not always and there are not, to my knowledge, any legal requirements that stop you from having a wedding ceremony where a contract is not being signed. Also, I’m sorry to burst your petty dictator bubble but you do not get to decide when someone elses wedding ceremony happens or whether they need to call it vow renewal or even worse, your very derogatory title of princess party.
The OP recognises that although she’s legally married she doesn’t feel that way as none of her loved ones were there, which is a perfectly valid point and her and her husband are perfectly entitled to have their wedding ceremony whenever they see it fit.
Post # 63
Um please tell me how what I did was cyber bullying anyone? The posted made a post, I posted a response, she replied to me, I replied to her.
She doesnt’ have to agree with me, it doesn’t make my opinion bullying.
Also from Meriam Webster
: to frighten, hurt, or threaten (a smaller or weaker person) : to act like a bully toward (someone)
: to cause (someone) to do something by making threats or insults or by using force
I didn’t frighten or hurt or threaten (and are you calling the OP a weak person? Cause she seems plenty strong to me.)
I didn’t threaten or insult or use force. So yeah, not bullying. Oh and again words have meanings. Please learn them and use them appropriately.
Get a life.
Post # 64
@graste: mine hasn’t happened yet!, but we’ll also be delaying the honeymoon for a few months, mainly tbh as neither can be bothered to plan both at the same time haha, maybe we are just very lazy people. 😉
Post # 65
This term, cyber bullying — I do not think it means what you think it means.
Post # 66
@cmbr: “the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.”
… sounds pretty spot on. They are sending messages to the OP that are intimidating, rude, nasty, uncalled for. It’s abusive.
Whatever name you give it… I think it’s pretty disgusting when people come on here looking for advice and get set upon and attacked by other posters.
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Post # 68
@andielovesj: The original meaning of honeymoon was a time for a couple to bond and they often drank a honey mead or wine and the length of time was calculated by the moon. Things change. Plenty of people don’t scoot out for vacation straight after the wedding.
Also, with regard to expectations about payment. I said in a prior post that my family is paying for my wedding. It was an expectation of mine. Just like most guests EXPECT to get food at the reception and guests EXPECT to get thank you cards for attending. Just because YOU don’t do it and that is not how your family operates does NOT mean that other people are rude for having these assumptions.
Post # 69
@goingtotherooftopoflove: Go back and reread the thread and tell me where anyone was sending messages with an “intimidating or threatening nature.” Asking for advice and having people disagree with you does not equal bullying. Being direct does not equal bullying. Even being rude and/or snarky does not, by itself, equal bullying. The ‘b word’ gets bandied about so easily these days. I’ve seen forums that are much harsher than this one, and I don’t even consider that behavior “bullying.” When people start sending the OP threatening PMs or linking her profile to real-life information and stalking her, or threatening bodily harm or something, then we can start talking about the definition of the word “bullies.” You ask for advice on an open, public internet forum? You open yourself up to many different opinions, and you’re not guaranteed to like them all.
Post # 70
We toom ours in the summer so 3 months after our wedding because I am a teacher and we wanted 2 weeks for honeymoon. It gave us something exciting to look forward it after all the wedding craziness settled down so I was happy with our decision.
Post # 71
@andielovesj: 1+ i hate when people call it a honeymoon months and month afterwards. its just a vacation with your husband at that point
Post # 72
Thank you all for sharing!