Post # 1
So, we were just talking to a friend who recently came back from her honeymoon and she had mentioned how she wished she would have just waited for a little while before they left. They went on their honeymoon the day after the wedding. She said that she still didn’t feel decompressed from all of the crazy events of the wedding and planning and everything else (she had a REALLY small informal wedding).
She mentioned that we should consider taking a week to just go back to normal after the wedding and THEN go on the honeymoon….She said she would have been able to enjoy more of the honeymoon if she wasn’t so worried about the gifts getting to the right place, the Thank Yous that still needed to be sent, the cleanup of everything (including their house) and a lot of other things. She still had a blast, but I think she has some regrets for not getting things settled before leaving.
What are you bees doing? Are you jumping headfirst into the honeymoon or are you waiting?
If you’ve already been on your fantabulous honeymoon, do you have any tips on WHEN after the wedding to go? A day? Two days? A week? Whenever?
Thanks for the advice as usual!
Post # 3
We left 4 days after our wedding and I’m SO glad we did. It meant that pre-wedding I didn’t have the stress in the last week of also having to pack bags for the honeymoon and it then post-wedding we were able to have a couple really good comfort meals and just come down to earth a little bit before we went off on our trip. We also flew for 36 hours (to Australia) so having the break between the madness of the wedding and then the madness that was just getting to our honeymoon was really nice – especially because DH isn’t as experienced a flier as I am. I’d definitely recommend it.
Post # 4
We are leaving a few hours after the wedding (plane leaves at 5:30 am). We kinda have no choice because it will cost more if we waited, FH can’t get too much more time off from work, and the semester will be starting for me again. Our parents are going to help us out with getting the gifts back to the correct location after the wedding so that helps me ease my mind.
Post # 5
We couldn’t go on a honeymoon because we didn’t have enough vacation time… the DH had to get back to work, so hopefully we can go on one next year sometime.
Post # 6
I am giving us a one-day buffer to see some Out of Town friends, open our gifts, snuggle our cats…and last minute packing, but then we are off for 8 days in paradise!
Post # 7
We’re waiting to even plan, we got married last weekend and now we’re going to start thinking about it and planning it in the next month or so. We’re doing a mini-moon in the states, but the big “honeymoon” is for later at an unknown spot at this point!
Post # 8
we’ll probably be going on our actual honeymoon 6-8 months after the wedding, for a couple reasons. one, we both would like to take off most of the week before the wedding to relax and get everything done without being super crazy, but that would be difficult with work if we then took the next 2 weeks off for our honeymoon. our jobs are pretty flexible but 3 weeks is pushing it, especially since it’s FI’s busy season at work. we could go 2-4 weeks after the honeymoon, but by then the weather at our hopeful honeymoon destination will not be as warm as i’d like. as of now the plan is to do a 3-4 day minimoon somewhere withinin a 3 hour radius of our wedding location or our home, and then do the big honeymoon abroad the next spring/early summer. my good friend did this and they were very happy with that decision, it gave them something to look forward to during the post-wedding blues.
Post # 9
I was glad we left immediately because I wanted to get away from worrying about the cleanup, the gifts, the thank-you notes, etc. No trouble decompressing for us, it was just what we needed after the wedding – just the two of us, nobody else at all.
Post # 10
I was lucky enough to have a 2-part honeymoon.
We went to Whistler & Vancouver on the Monday following our Saturday wedding. We had a big open house/bbq at our place on Sunday. We partied late into the evening so I didn’t get around to packing until EARLY Monday morning. But we got it done.
I will say this…crazy as it was to get packed and make it on a honeymoon almost immediately after the wedding it was sooooooo worth it. There’s no substitute for that *JUST* married feeling. We spent the whole week all schmoopy and calling each other "husband" and "wifey." It was really fun to talk about the wedding. We were giddy and smiley and drunk on the effects of the wedding emotions.
We just went on part 2 of the honeymoon…6 months later. To Maui. And while it was amazingly beauitful, we don’t feel *just married* anymore. So it was very different.
I highly recommend going right after if you can swing it. Prolong that high before getting back to reality…
Post # 11
we’re going on a cruise and while we could have left the next day, we waited a week to make sure that we had plenty of time to travel to florida and get to the port because the ships won’t wait for anybody (unless you book a flight through them, which we didn’t do). so a week we’ll wait! that way we can open gifts, cash checks, work a few days, relax, pack with ease and maybe shop for new honeymoon clothes! i also think it will help to draw out the wedding.
Post # 12
We’re leaving almost 11 months after our wedding. lol We really didn’t have a choice. A) My DH had to report back to duty less than a week after the wedding and B) We had no funds available for the honeymoon. I’m obviously glad we waited (even if we could have gone) because now I get to enjoy my wedding knowing that my DH gets to come home with me (and not go back to the Army) and we can afford a pretty sweet honeymoon down in the Bahamas for 8 days!!!!
We were pretty lucky to take a mini-moon in the city we were married in. My awesome co-workers got us 2 nights at the Ritz, so we definitely felt pampered!
Post # 13
We got married Sat, left Monday around 9 AM. I loved that because gave me a day to do laundry and pack and rest vs. having to worry about packing AND the wedding a few days before. That way, you’re not stressing about being ready for both. Also, a lot of flights are early morning and you won’t want to wake up early after the wedding night.
Post # 14
i voted asap, but it wasn’t quite that–we got married Saturday and left Monday morning. it was pretty perfect, though I guess we could have waited another day. we were exhausted the day after–we also had a day-after brunch, so we spent that afternoon/evening napping and taking care of errands. it was plenty of time to take care of what we needed to do post-wedding and spend more time relaxing with our families. but, we had a long day traveling to our honeymoon and i ended up getting sick the first night, partially because i hadn’t eaten well the day we travelled, and maybe also because i just had had so much adrenaline that my body was crashing…but i was totally normal and LOVING every minute of our honeymoon the next day 🙂
Post # 15
we waited a week before we went on the honeymoon. we were exhausted after the saturday night reception and im way too OCD to leave gifts/cash/ty card list waiting for me to come back to after the honeymoon. i also had class that i couldnt miss, so it worked out. we went back to work/school for five days and then got to relax without a thing on our minds but to enjoy the honeymoon for 8 days straight! 🙂 LOVED every minute and i would do it like that over again for sure. good luck with hm planning!
Post # 16
We’re talking about doing a delayed honeymoon by a couple of months. The plans started that way because of work conflicts, but now we’re realizing it will be nice not to have to worry about planning and having everything ready for a big trip right before the wedding.