Honeymoon before ceremony ("pre-moon")?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Go on a romantic vacation before if you want. I do think there is something nice about going after the wedding but my honeymoon was ruined with illness so I’m not too sentimental about the whole thing lol.

You’ve made sure he can leave the country while his Visa stuff is being settled, yeah?  Wouldn’t want your pre-moon to void his application..

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Is there another month after July that is cheaper? We waited 5 months after the wedding to take our honeymoon, that’s what I would recommend in your situation. Otherwise it’s more of just a pre wedding trip, not a honeymoon. Especially if the visa timelines are uncertain I would wait a few extra months to take your honeymoon. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

do it! if you want to go to the court before and do a quick elopment go for it! i like any idea of vacation and saving money.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I mean, they are called vacations.  A honeymoon is a vacation going by another name.  You’re an adult – You can go on vacation any time you want.  Do whatever works for you. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Up to you. Some honeymoon perks aren’t available without proof of marriage.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Go on whatever vacation you want, but it’s not a honeymoon if it’s before your wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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bluestaples :  You can go on vacation whenever you want. But what you can’t do is coin some new phrase to fit your needs. It’s not a honeymoon and pre-moons don’t exist. You don’t need to do a honeymoon immediately following the wedding save up more money and take your honeymoon later… or go on vacation before… whatever. You guys are adults. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I say call it whatever you want. If you can get it for less, go for it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Yea you would be on vacation. Your honeymoon would have perks to it. Just hold off until you guys can afford it. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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nikkiv1313 :  … why be such a downer? Why try to impose your unnecessary thoughts on how you believe things should be that don’t affect you whatsoever?

 

I took my honeymoon two weeks before the wedding due to work obligations. It most certainly was a honeymoon, and felt just like I thought it would! Not all people have the luxury of taking vacations whenever they please. Your honeymoon is whenever you choose for it to be. Don’t even worry about changing the wedding, you just do you!!

Don’t let trolls tell you that your honeymoon wouldn’t be a “real honeymoon” because of timing, that’s just absurd. Tell anyone who makes these comments to you to get a life and mind their own business. 

You guys will have a fabulous time no matter when you choose to go, so just don’t stress, and enjoy it!

Congrats xo

Post # 14
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Helper bee

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macpartyoftwo :  “Why try to impose your unnecessary thoughts on how you believe things should be that don’t affect you whatsoever?”

A troubling trend I see in social media is that someone’s thoughts and opinions are deemed “unnecessary” if they don’t align with someone’s opinion. Nearly every post on this website has to do with something that doesn’t affect the commenter. OP asked for our thoughts, so we are giving them.

I hate to be a “downer” and don’t often take issue with what other people do, but I’m going to agree with PP that this isn’t really a honeymoon. The point of the honeymoon is to be the first vacation the couple takes as a married couple – originally, most likely the first solo vacation they’d take at all. I get that things are different and most people (including myself!)don’t do every step in order, but the distinguishing feature of a honeymoon is that it’s taken (immediately or relatively soon) after a wedding. Words have meanings, and when you take away the fundamental feature and raison d’etre of a honeymoon, it becomes…a vacation.

Now if OP or anyone else wants to say “Well I want to do it MY way!!” and to hell with everyone else, then you do you, obv. But you can’t and shouldn’t expect everyone to get on board or support that viewpoint (including the places that offer honeymoon discounts). I wouldn’t say anything to the bride and groom, but I would side-eye the hell out of a pre-wedding honeymoon if it happened in my circle. And that’s my opinion – because OP asked for it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I don’t know what amazing perks people are talking about that they got on their honeymoon. I think we got a free dessert one day, big deal.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Enjoy your vacation.  It’s not a pre-honeymoon.  It’s a romantic get away with you and your soon to be husband.

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