(Closed) Honeymoon before wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
31 posts
  • Wedding: January 2018

I’ve had friends who have done a nice honeymoon before, and then just did a small trip or something after. I have had others that have had the wedding and then waited 6 months or until the time was optimal to do it after. I don’t think there’s any wrong way to do it! 

Post # 3
7884 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Well, you and your Fiance can do whatever is right for you. But I am just unclear about how taking a trip before the wedding is any more cost-effective than taking one afterward. Either way, the money is spent. If you do not take the trip beforehand, you could contribute whatever payments you would make to a savings account and have the money afterwards if that’s what you want. 

Post # 4
739 posts
Busy bee

There are no rules, you can call a trip before your wedding a honeymoon if you want, but I can’t understand how the reasons are financial. 

Post # 5
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

IMO its not a honeymoon by definition but nothing wrong with a pre-wedding trip. I really dont see why it would be a good idea to take a big vacation with a bunch of credit card debt though… especially if youre trying to pay it off by the wedding. Why not just do a small weekend thing, then go for a one year anniversary trip when things are better financially.

Post # 6
6237 posts
Bee Keeper

How does it help to go before?

Im sure it’ll be a lovely holiday, but having had a honeymoon last year, there is something special about heading off in your post wedding ‘bubble’ as mr&mrs. And a holiday after wedding planning is a total tonic! 

Post # 7
4871 posts
Honey bee

Honeymoons are not a requirement of getting married. You’re still allowed to get married without a honeymoon, so if you can’t afford it and putting it on credit, then just don’t have one and avoid putting yourself in a financially precarious place when you know you have other financial commitments coming up.

Also, a honeymoon is just a vacation. This is all semantics.  It isn’t like the days of arranged marriages where the honeymoon is where you got to know your spouse.  So if all you can afford is a drive to a b&b for a night and want to call that your honeymoon than have at it.  Or save up for a vacation a year from now and call it a honeymoon then ok.  Don’t just take a vacation you can’t properly afford because of your wedding.  You can always take a vacation whenever time and finances allow. 

Post # 8
4263 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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pinkfriday :  I know of a few couples who took their honeymoon first. One I know of had a destination wedding and honeymooned in the week or so leading up to the wedding, but they travel a lot anyways. 

We are leaving out for our belated honeymoon/first anniversary trip tomorrow! We had a destination wedding and made a minimoon out of it before returning home, and we’ve really been looking forward to finally going on a full-blown honeymoon. It’s been nice having something big to look forward to and it gave us time to save up. 

Post # 9
877 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It’s not a honeymoon then.. it’s a pre-wedding trip.

Also how would this be cost effective… just don’t go on a trip at all and call it a day. A honeymoon is not a most it’s something people do if they can afford it. If you don’t have funds after wedding then just plan for a later honeymoon. Lot’s of people do that


Post # 10
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

You can take a trip whenever you want but it’s technically not a honeymoon. Honeymoons aren’t mandatory if you can’t afford it. You can have a minimoon with a honeymoon later if you want too. A honeymoon is the first trip you take as a married couple, so enjoy all the trips you want, but by definition it’s not a honeymoon.

Post # 11
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Maybe it’s cheaper to go wherever they want to go before their wedding date. I hope you have a great time!

Post # 12
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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pinkfriday :  I don’t think there’s a wrong way, but I would really evaluate why you want to do it that way and make sure it’s for the right reasons (or just that you genuinely don’t care) and that it won’t lead to trying to organize the last pieces of the wedding while you’re away. I honestly don’t really understand how having the same overall costs but changing the order would help?

A friend of mine did his honeymoon first, but it was because he was finishing law school awhile before the wedding, but starting articling just after it.

Post # 13
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The part about this that makes me go hmmm is, “At least we could get our credit cards paid off in time for the wedding to pay off the caterer.” That line leads me to believe that a honeymoon isn’t a great financial option for you right now. Why don’t you spend two or three nights in a close-by location right after the wedding to get away and relax. Then go on your honeymoon next year when your financial situation isn’t as tied to a big event such as your wedding?

Post # 14
638 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Personally, I would not be able to relax and enjoy a honeymoon before my wedding. I think one of the nice things about a honeymoon, as another PP indicated, is the ability to go off in your own newly married bubble and just relax for a while after all the time and effort you put into your wedding.

That being said, you and your Fiance can do whatever you wish. Pre-wedding trip, honeymoon, no honeymoon, small getaway weekend, etc.

Post # 15
568 posts
Busy bee

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pinkfriday :  I guess it’d depend how much time in between that was?

We got engaged July 2016, had a European vacay planned October 2016, with the wedding September 2017. Fiance tried to get that to be the honeymoon. Uh, no way dude! That vacay was in the plans before I even met him LOL (saved for 2 years!) and wedding isnt until a year later. sorry! no double dipping!

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