(Closed) Honeymoon Complications – What would you do??

posted 7 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 17
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

I went back to work three days after our wedding in October, and we’re leaving for our two week honeymoon this Sunday. We’re actually significantly more excited about it now than we were back around wedding time — we were really exhausted from the wedding and just wanted to get back to our normal routine for awhile before leaving on an ambitious vacation.

So it’s not bad waiting!

Post # 18
7584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

My sister and her husband did a mini-moon right after the wedding, just a 4-night trip to a city they’d been to before and loved. They did their honeymoon 4 months later, a long trip to Asia. Her husband doesn’t get paid if he doesn’t work so they wanted to split up the time off and not have him missing 3 paychecks in a row. She said it was the best thing ever! They pretty much slept their whole first day of mini-moon and she said she was so tired from the wedding and all the commotion that she’d have been miserable flying to Japan right then (and they went first class) plus it helped with the post-wedding blues because they had another thing to look forward to.

Post # 19
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow, I can see what that is disappointing !!

Here is what I’d do…

Keep your Wedding Date as planned.

Try to carve out a niche of one week after… so he’s back to work on Monday ~ October 13th, and go somewhere “near” vs far

The first part of October typically still has very nice weather for the majority of Continental North America (not so much the Caribbean / Mexico etc… cause that is still Prime Hurricane Season)

Doing something “near” vs far will keep costs lower (and except for areas where the Autumn Leaf Change happens) it will also be the Off Season.

And if that doesn’t work… cause he can only spare a few days vs a whole week…

Then take a nice Mini-Moon.

Heck even a few nights local in a POSH Hotel can make for a FABULOUS Honeymoon !!

In reality…

Spring is the best time to visit Europe anyhow (better than October or November).  Consider May, the weather is nice, and it is BEFORE the annual crowds.

What an AWESOME thing to look forward to.

Hope this helps,


Post # 20
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Could you leave right after the event and stay in Europe for the last two weeks of October? Where are you going to go?

Post # 21
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We did a two-night mini-moon, then did our honeymoon four months later. Personally, I LOVED that I had something to look forward to after the wedding excitement died down. And it was one less thing to have planned out by the wedding deadline.

I’ve yet to read about a bride on the Bee who had a later honeymoon and regretted not going right away.

Post # 22
1834 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

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@TroubadourTango:  Where are you traveling in Europe? IMO, the weather in most of Europe is best in spring and early fall (like September) – even by October it can be chilly and rainy. Depending on where you’re planning on going, I would just push it back to the spring, and going on a short mini-moon right after your wedding. Don’t feel so bad; any research you’ve done already you can still put towards a trip to Europe! There are a lot of bees who have delayed their honeymoons for months, even a year or two, after the wedding and they’ve been really happy with that decision.

Post # 23
3716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

@TroubadourTango:  It is totally crushing– I get it. But going on a 2 or 3 week adventure right after your wedding know you will be coming back to crunch time is not relaxing or enjoyable either (trust me– that was what I did). You don’t want to spend all of this time and money to go to Europe to have him check his email every hour to make sure things are fine at home. Plus, traveling (even to awesome and exciting places) can be stressful. I was emotionally exhausted after my wedding and the stress of traveling didn’t help. I loved my honeymoon, but it was not what I expected to feel like going on my dream vacation!

What I wish we would have done, and encourage you to do, is to do a one week cruise or all inclusive. Low stress, enjoyable, veg out and relax time. Then go back, kick butt at work, and the do your big adventure at a later point when you are prepared emotionally and work wise to do it. We are planning a big adventure trip this April, 9 months after our wedding, and it will be so much more fun because we won’t have just dealt with wedding stress.

Post # 25
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@TroubadourTango:  Oooh, I love skiing in the Alps, so that plan would be fantastic! And yes, I also love Alsatian wines, and the whole region.


Post # 26
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@TroubadourTango: From your description of your fiance’s responsibilities with regard to this event, it sounds like it is a similar event to one that my company puts on each year. I have a coworker who does a great deal of the planning and setup beforehand but then does not attend the event itself for personal reasons, and although most of the attendees at large don’t notice her absence, it puts a major strain on the rest of the organizing team to not have her available to execute her plans or provide clarity on them for us. We are constantly trying to reach her via phone or email to clarify her instructions or provide information that was left out of her documentation.

My point is, if you choose to go on your honeymoon during the event, he will probably be expected to be available on phone and email in case any issues arise, and his not being there may cause friction among his team. I wouldn’t do it. It doesn’t sound like much of a honeymoon to me and I don’t think it would be worth the potential impact on his personal brand.

What about two nights in a B&B right after the wedding, then the honeymoon in early December? I know you said you love the region in October, but by the first week of December all the holiday decorations and the Christmas markets are set up and it really is a magical time of year despite the cold. Not to mention the fact that it is cold would just give you all the more reason to indulge in that rich Eastern European and French food! And you’d still be able to get all your time off in in 2014.

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