(Closed) Honeymoon conflict with cousin's wedding date!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

could you postpone your honey moon three weeks..

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Who set their date first? How close is he to his cousin? If they set their date already knowing that yours would be two weeks before, I don’t think they could really be surprised or upset that you’ll be on your honeymoon and can’t make it. But if they set their date and then you guys decided to do yours two weeks before…then I think maybe you should at least think about changing your honeymoon dates.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m assuming you haven’t actually booked the honeymoon yet. How long have you known about the cousin’s wedding? 

I wouldn’t worry about it TOO much, as you already ‘had plans’, BUT if you’ve known about the wedding long enough to plan accordingly, the cousin might be disappointed. What does your Fiance say? Does he know his cousin well enough to gauge her reaction?

I’m very close with my oldest cousin, and would move mountains to be at his wedding, BUT if for whatever reason I couldn’t, he would totally be chill about it and not be upset…just the type of person he is…

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

How are we supposed to answer this? It’s completely up to you guys and your relationship with your cousin. We are missing two weddings while we are on our honeymoon. The bride and groom understand completely. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

since postponing is not an option just declined

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t worry about it, I think everyone will understand.  It doesn’t sound like they’re so close that it is going to cause an issue.  Also in general I think guys (not sure if your FIs cousin is a man/woman) have less of a tendancy to stir up drama about these types of things.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@RoseGoldBride:  In that case, I wouldn’t worry about it. Send your regrets that you can’t change your honeymoon dates and send a nice gift.

Post # 12
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Newbee

We can’t postpone the honeymoon because of our conflicting work schedules. :(

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Send your regrets and go on your honeymoon.  It is just a wedding.  Yep, I said that.  So far 3 time MOB here.  A wedding is the most important thing on earth to the couple, not their guest list and that is as it should be.

Of course we want to attend weddings of family and friends, but you also have a life.  Your love and support has NO bearing on whether or not you attend someone’s wedding.  It is a one day party.  It really is.  It is the day the couple commits themselves to each other, but for everyone else, it is a social date on their calendar.

Go on your honeymoon and have a wonderful time.  I would never expect one of my nieces or nephews to rearrange their lives or honeymoon plans for one of my girls’ weddings.  We will see them at Christmas and show them pics if they like!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think going on your honeymoon and missing a cousin’s wedding would cause family drama. A sibling? Yes. A cousin? No. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If it were me, I’d probably just do a slightly shortened honeymoon – 11 or 12 days instead of 14.  And to be honest, I’d probably understand but still side-eye my cousin if s/he didn’t cut their honeymoon short a couple days to come to my wedding.  But I am pretty tight with my cousins despite seeing them only once or twice a year.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@RoseGoldBride:  I had exactly this situation, although she got her ring first. We had picked our date and venue before she got engaged and booked long before she did (3 months before). We’d long since agreed to go on a long honeymoon (nearly 4 weeks) so we couldn’t be at her wedding and sent a video message from our tropical island the day before her wedding.

She didn’t come to our wedding either because she ended up being too busy and too broke. When it comes down to it, it’s sad but I don’t feel like I missed out (although I vainly think that she did because our wedding was AWESOME).

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