Post # 1
FI and I are planning to sign up for a honeymoon fund registry instead of gift registry. How should we put that in our wedding invite without sounding tacky? I’ve looked into a few honeymoon registry websites and we don’t like the fees and charges. Any recommendations?
Post # 2
don’t put it in the invitation, put it on a wedding website. registry information should never go on an invitation.
also, honeyfund is the most popular. i find honeymoon registries to be in poor taste, but i know people have found success with honeyfund.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t suggest putting any registry info in your wedding invitation. Those kinds of things are ok for shower invites, but seem very rude and out of place for the actual wedding invitation. I would just let it spread by word of mouth, and if you have a wedding website you could put it there.
Post # 4
We are opting for the honeymoon fund also! We are both in our 30’s and have already consolidated 2 houses into 1. I feel traditional registries are best for younger brides setting up a household.
It’s going to be on our website.
Post # 5
I think a separate registry card would be okay. A lot of people do that, right? I’m not adding any registry info for the wedding because I prefer cash. No one has brought gifts to the weddings that I”ve been to within the last few years, so I just assumed that cash in a congrats card is the new wedding gift.
Now that being said, I am registered for my bridal shower on honeyfund.com which will close my wedding day. Also target.com and etsy.com, both of which will close the day of my bridal shower.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain
We got cheap little business cards and stuck them in with the wedding invites. We aren’t having a shower, but no one has said anything about being upset with our cards. In fact, lots of people have commented on them being cute & have bought us quite a few things on our honeymoon registry. We used vistaprint and a 50% off coupon 🙂
Post # 7
Where I’m from, it’s more than normal to put registry information (briefly) on the additional info in the invite. But we also don’t have any sort of wedding showers, so I guess that might be why!
If you’re putting it on the invite, I would say something along the lines of ‘although your presence at our wedding is more than enough, if you would like to help us make more amazing memories to start our married life, we would gratefully receive a donation towards our honeymoon’.
People will then most likely bring cheques on the day if they would like to give a gift, but there’s no pressure if not 🙂
Post # 8
Don’t put in on the invite. Any reference to gifts on an invitation is crass. Put it on a website or get the info out by word of mouth by all means but be aware a lot of people will give the side eye to you asking them to pay for your honeymoon.
Post # 9
My FI and I are doing the same thing. He’s lived on his own for a good many years, as have I. We don’t need the typical stuff that you would find on a registry (and most people where I am from don’t pay attention to what’s on a registry anyway).<br /><br />I have also read the suggestions everywhere that the wedding website is the place to put the registry information, expect guests to inquire, or designate someone to contact everyone under the sun that was invited on where you are registered. In reality, that doesn’t quite work the way it’s worded on paper. The website will only work if most of the ones being invited are tech-savvy and have a computer. Most of the ones who will be coming to my wedding are older family members who don’t even know how to turn on a computer. When I have asked various friends and family members, I have been told point-blank that they always prefer finding the registry information included with the invite (and not a note that says “for more details visit our wedding website or contact us”).<br /><br />Also, the suggestion for my FI and I to do a honeymoon registry came from a friend of my mother’s (read: classy woman in her mid- to late-50s). She said a friend of hers just got married for the second time and they already had their stuff from 2 households, but they really wanted to take a honeymoon to Ireland and get away from their children for a week. They included that with their invites, and all of their invited guests thought it was awesome and all together paid for 100% of their honeymoon.
The people you invite should know you and your FI well enough to understand your personalities and not be offended by asking for contributions to your honey fund if they would like to contribute.
Post # 10
I agree with a lot of the bee’s. Put your website on the invitation. The word will get out. I am in the process of deciding on honeymoon registries as well. There are a lot of options out there.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
We put ours on the website. We had a traditional registry and a honeymoon registry. I really only did the honeymoon registry since a lot of DH’s family wanted to contribute to that and kept asking us about doing something. So I had a very discrete link on our honeymoon page of our wedding website. Mostly DH’s immediate family used it since that’s what they wanted to give us and they told some extended family who also contributed. We used Wanderable.
Post # 12
We used a wedding website with tabs for all the info (events/directions/hotels/honeymoon/registry/etc.) and listed the website on the invitation with no mention of gifts or registries on the actual invitation. I have to admit..I was a little hesitatnt to do this since I wasn’t sure how my older family members would take it, but they loved it! I did heed the advice of couples who had sdone it before and gotten backlash by not listing anything for flights or hotels on the honeyfund – only activities and events and drinks/dinner/etc. I’m actually shocked by how much people have given us so far and a lot of it has been from the bridal shower since we had a decent number of BBB items, but nothing crazy (I made it a point to do only low ticket items on both BBB and Honeyfund in multiples and some higher ticket items on Honeyfund.) I should add that most of our family and friends and traditionally cash-givers at weddings so our registries were not extensive.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens
Does everyone really use a website? I’m in Australia, and I have never seen a wedding website. How do people who are not computer literate get the info? That would be about 1/2 my guests (granparents, elderly relatives). I have friends who still have no computer, but just use their phones if desperate to look something up….lol. None of our parents/ granparents even have facebook.<br />Depending where you are, there is nothing wrong with slipping a card in with the invitation to say that you have a fund. How else is anyone to know your preference?
Post # 14
LonnyLee: I guess here in the US, a website is consider to the the “posh” thing to do. Where I am in Arkansas, pretty much everyone includes the info in on an invitation insert for the exact reasons you state. There are soooo many older friends/family who are being invited and don’t know how to turn a computer on, let alone use one. Also, this is my second wedding and the first time around, we didn’t include the info and my mom and I got extremely fed up with having to answer the same question 50 times a day. Just make it easier on everyone and include the info. It’s one less bit of stress, IMO.
Post # 15
We put all registry info on our website, there was no mention of a registry on the invite. We added an extra card that said something like, “visit our website for wedding information, directions & accommodation information”.