Post # 1
Soo honestesty time. Is setting up a jar for the “honeymoon fund” near/on the present table an okay thing to do? I have seen pictures on pintrest of this and wonder about it. I’m not going to lie…it would much be appriciated as funds are really tight for us…but…is it really an ok idea?
Post # 3
You’re gonna find that most bees will say no – http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/honeymoon-jar this is siimilar thread from a few days ago 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks! I really want do do the right thing on this!
Post # 5
It’s ok if you don’t expect other presents 🙂
Post # 6
Post # 7
Thanks for all the opinions! My fiance and I were both really on the fence about this. Although I highly doubt everyone will show up with a gift, I think we will suck it up and not do the jar thing. Shelling out money, stress with rsvp cards, and giftless invites are probably part of the package. It’s okay, I’m just thrilled to be married soon.
Post # 8
Honestly I would prefer this than other presents (I declutter like a maniac, I want to telepathically send out the message: please don’t give me more things I would just find a burden…however, we love to travel) but I can’t think of a way to ask for this or nothing, rather than “stuff” as gifts without it seeming like I’m expecting gifts.
A lot of people also think money is tacky. It’s unfortunate, because like I said, “stuff” we didn’t choose to bring into our home is not a blessing, it’s actually a burden.
Post # 9
I don’t see how this is any more “tacky” than a money dance. I’m not doing either at my wedding but I don’t turn up my nose at others who choose to. If guests don’t like it, they won’t participate but if they do, they will! =)
Post # 10
I honestly find this idea really tacky (wasn’t going to use the ‘t word’, but it’s in your poll) and it would put me off completely. I don’t see how it’s ANY different from asking for money on an invitation. If anything it’s worse IMO. Why not just spread by word of mouth that you’d like a monetary gift for your honeymoon?
Post # 11
I think it’s a smart idea!! Regardless, hun, people are going to judge you either way! Good or Bad! So do what your heart tells you! Or really what your budget tells you LOL! But really, I absolutely <3 the idea!
Post # 12
No, no, no, no, no. Please do not to do this. It is so incredibly offensive, rude, and gift-grabby. It’s cute to keep in your house for your spare change, but putting this at a wedding is not okay. I would be really offended if I saw this at a wedding, especially if I already gave you a gift. Most people will bring a gift or card with money, and it’s basically like saying, “oh, cool, now give me more.”
Post # 13
It’s too much. Your guests are already taking time from their lives, buying you a gift, getting all jazzed up, buying a new outfit, and then you are still hitting them up for pocket change. I don’t think so.
Honestly, if any of my friend did something like this (which they wouldn’t) I would consider distancing myself from them.
Post # 14
if people want to give you cash gifts, they will whether there is a jar or not. I find the whole jar thing in poor taste personally.
Post # 15
The jar thing rubs me the wrong way; you’re hosting a wedding and a reception, and you shouldn’t be hitting your guests up for their pocket change.
Post # 16
I say why not if you do it in a cute way….I would suggest putting some cash in it to get the ball rolling and so it doesnt sit empty.
I used to think this was tacky too untill I saw it done at a friends wedding. She did it just like you see on pinterest…in a cute but not super over done jar on the gift table. Cute but understated might be the key. It used to be considered tacky to even have a gift table: and even after that became a social norm, it was considered tacky to have a card box because it still shows that you are expecting people to bring money you. I say be a trendsetter!
At my SIL’s wedding, she did not want a dollar dance because she thought it might be tacky. Towards the end of the night, one of the older gentlemen at the wedding took off his hat and started one. He was probably in his 90’s and was the sweetest man ever. He got it started all by himself and saved the last dance for himself before passing her back to the groom. He was such a hoot! He looked like a man who needed help getting up from his chair but then he twirled her around the dance floor like Fred Astaire! It ended up being one of her favorite parts of the night and they made a few hundred bucks for their honeymoon! Everyone loved it! It was especially sweet because it wasnt the bride and groom asking for money it was someone doing it on their behalf. Just a thought. Your wedding should be what you want. If you are confident in your wedding, nothing will be tacky or akward. Just be you and have fun!
Congrats on your engagemnet and happy planning!