Post # 1
I’ve tried to avoid a gift registry. We live overseas and we are having a destination wedding in a country where none of our guests live either. Due to a wide range of gift giving customs from our invited guests and that people who do come to the wedding are travelling so far, I thought that I could avoid it.
Now our wedding is next month and I have had a number of people ask where we are registered – and many have specifically asked if we are registered on those honeymoon fund website (even though we aren’t planning to do a honeymoon until next summer so we don’t have anything thought out). Personally, I don’t like that they take a cut of the money but I think we are needing to give people an option to give us something besides money. If you have done research on those honeymoon fund websites, can you please let me know which ones are best (ie, take the smallest cut and are easy to facilitate)?
I know that it’s my wedding, I can do what I want and that I don’t have to do this. However, today just looking for advice on *how* to do it please. 🙂
Post # 2
If you don’t like that the honey fund websites take a cut of the money then why not tell your guests you don’t have one or a registry and their company is better than any gift you could ask for. I suppose if they really want to contribute they could just put it in your bank account?
Post # 3
I also live abroad and doing our wedding in Europe, our guests are from the States and we did Zola. The convenience of having people be able to do it online and not worry about checks or cash is a huge timesaver and even though there’s a fee for the credit card processing, it’s totally worth it for me. I would rather not have to worry about guests needing to get Euros or ending up with a lot of American dollars.
If you PM I can send you a link to Zola and we’ll both get a $50 credit.
Post # 4
I don’t get the thinking of using one of those sites if you recognise they are dishonest and a rip off. If people ask you directly why can you not just say “we are not having any registries, your presence is gift enough but if you really feel like gifting then we are saving for our honeymoon/house downpayment/renovations”. The guests will then just give you cash.
Post # 5
Thanks! I think I found a solution in my country but if I change my mind, I’ll definitely pm you for the $50 credit for both of us. 🙂
Post # 6
Thankful Registry allows you to register for items or cash gifts. They don’t take any of the money from you. You pay a small fee to register, but then you keep every penny that is gifted to you. We really liked it.