Post # 1
My FI have just started talking about our honeymoon. While we’re both really excited, we completely differ in what we want. I’ve always envisioned going somewhere tropical – massages, swim-up bars, mimosas, and relaxation. Throw in snorkeling, hiking, zip lining and other activities during the day and I’m perfectly happy.
My FI thinks that’s “typical” and wants to go somewhere more interesting and exciting. He thinks that a tropical relaxing honeymoon would be boring and “what everyone does.” When I suggest that he wouldn’t be bored doing things like zip lining, hiking, and snorkeling he (rightly) points out that we can do that at home since we live in SoCal (not that we ever actually have done those things…).
His ideal honeymoon would be to travel by train through Europe to multiple countries, staying for a couple of days in each place. We took a trip like this last year, and it was wonderful – he wants to recreate it with different locations. While last year’s trip was great, it’s not what I envision for a honeymoon. It was fun but it was busy and hectic and we were completely exhausted at the end of it – not how I want to spend the week or two following our wedding.
I need suggestions for compromise. I did get him to say that he would be open to somewhere relaxing if I could find a place with these three things:
1. If we stayed somewhere all-inclusive (drinks, food, etc.)
2. If I could show him that there were a sufficient number of things to do so that he wouldn’t be bored
3. If it was “off the beaten path” (no Hawaii)
Lastly, we live on the west coast but our wedding is on the east coast, so location isn’t too much of an issue. We’ll either fly from the east coast right after our wedding, or come home for a few days and fly from the west coast.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 2
how long is your honeymoon? mine was 2 weeks and while i love the beach and DH doesn’t, i couldn’t sit on a beach for 2 weeks. a beach vacation with zipline, swim up bar, etc to me would be a 4 day extended weekend vacation kind of thing.
i did take an 8 day group trip to costa rica which was gorgeous. we stayed in 3 different places in 3 different areas. so it was part adventure, part sit at the beach or pool at the end of the day to relax.
for our honeymoon, we toured italy for 2 weeks.
Post # 4
mcasey4: FI and I have found cruises are our happy median. I get a few days a sea bumming around the pool and soaking up the rays but while in port we get to explore a new place. Our favorite was one we did that went to Belize We took a tour of Mayan ruins and got to climb to the top of one of the temples it was about 10+ story’s high and in 100+ degrees it took a while but it was so worth it the view from the top was incredible!
Post # 5
ajillity81: We haven’t decided on the length of the honeymoon, but probably a week since we’re taking the entire wedding week off of work as well. I love the idea of Costa Rica! Where in Costa Rica did you guys visit and stay?
wanabeabee: Belize is another great idea – love it! He couldn’t possibly be bored climbing Mayan ruins. Do you have a specific city or port that you visited and was your favorite(s)?
Post # 6
We are going to the Domincan Republic for a week in February. Besides the normal AI stuff and a beach, there are other excursions that you can go on. I think some are parasailing, swimming with sting rays and sharks, and some other stuff too.
I originally wanted to go to St. Lucia, as the place looks gorgeous and also has some history stuff to it as well, and great ladscape. But, the DR was more afforable and convenient. Maybe another time!
Post # 7
mcasey4: Weve cruised Norwegian quite a few times theres prices are reasonable they have great alcohol packages. The belize one leaves out of new orleans and also stops in Cozamel, Belize, Roatan and costa Maya. The last one we did was last december we went to Miami port then St maarten, St Thomas and Nassau. Nassau was blah but we went to a beach called Maho Beach in St maarten its unreal the airport is right there and plans land over you! And then we went shopping and bar hopping in St Thomas
Post # 8
The Galapagos Islands was one of my favorite vacations, I totally recommend it
Post # 9
How about Panama? It’s got all the nature appeal of Costa Rica but its still slightly more off the beaten path and it offers the variety of bustling Panama City.
We flew into Panama City and spent the first night in Casco Viejo… then we took an Air Panama flight up to Bocas del Toro (Carribean coast) for a couple nights in an overwater cabin – took boat trips around the archipelago etc… then we transferred down to Isla Palenque (Pacific Coast) for the luxury private island experience. Isla Palenque was AMAZING – its like 400 acres and 14 guests at max capacity. TONS to do.
Post # 10
mcasey4: I would recommend river cruises. They are much smaller than ocean cruises with only about 100 people on a boat and you don’t have those “days at sea.” I did a Rhine River cruise, where we started in Switzerland and went through France and Germany, ending in Amsterdam. It’s similar to the train across Europe, but you can actually relax while you are in transit. It’s a bit pricey, but all of your meals are included (with sit down 5 course dinners, not buffet) and there are optional excursions that you can add on in each city you visit.
Post # 11
mcasey4: We’re doing a cruise. It was our compromise. Comfy bed, good food, lots of relxation, but also exploration during the day. We’re (most likely) going out of Peutro Rico to hit as many countries as we can.
You can also cruise out of Europe, relaxing, but you can also visit multiple countries. That’s my fave part.
If we could afford it I would go to Costa Rica, not too sure about the ‘all inclusiveness’ about it, but beach+jungle+volcanos= amazing!
Post # 12
mcasey4: when would your honeymoon take place? Depending on the season, you could travel to Europe, but instead of doing a traintour, go to one place that has good beaches or perhaps pool, and lots of things to do. Italy would be a great destination for this, although no AI there. Otherwise, consider Greece, there are a lot of AI hotels there, especially on the islands. If you choose one of the larger islands, like Crete, there is more than enough to see and do to last you for a week! Perhaps not ziplining but mediaval towns to explore, ancient sites to visit, sailing, and jeep safaris. But if you happen to go honeymooning in december or march, there probably will not be really beachy weather.
Post # 13
mcasey4: we stayed at a hotel in san jose (can’t remember name), a resort in the guanacaste region (can’t remember name), and tabacon (the most amazing hotel with hot springs) at arenal volcano. we surfed, zip lined, canyoned, hiked, took tours, etc. i went on this trip about 6 years ago with a few girl friends on a trip of about 30 people, so we had a tour guide. the trip could easily be done on your own.
Post # 14
Wow these are all AWESOME suggestions – thank you! All of these cruise ideas have made me start looking into cruises, which I never would have considered before.
SithLady: Who did you go through for your River cruise? I did some googling, and Viking Cruises looked good, and similar to what you’re describing. I suggested that to my fiance, and he thought it sounded to “structured” – like we wouldn’t have enough freedom to set our own schedule. Did you find that at all?
travelonthebrain: Panama City and the DR are both things we’ve considered – I was worried they would be too “busy” for me and not relaxing enough. Did you find that?
Kacie209: Panama City and the DR are both things we’ve considered – I was worried they would be too “busy” for me and not relaxing enough. Did you find that?
Lanne: Our honeymoon will be the first week of October, next year. I hadn’t thought of Crete! I did a quick search, and it seems to have some AI places – thanks for the great suggestion!
Post # 15
mcasey4: I used Avalon, which I think is owned by Viking. It isn’t really super structured, other than which city you are at on which day. You can choose to go on their excursions or just explore that city on your own. For instance, when we were stopped in Strasbourg, France, we had time to explore the city and there was an included tour of the city (optional), later in the day, you could choose to stay in Strasbourg and explore on your own or there were excursions to the Black Forest or to the Alsace Wine Region. Dinner is at a specific time, but you can obviously choose to skip it and get your own food in the city. I believe that lunch and breakfast are served buffet-style during a range of times. The only real hard and fast rules were that you had to be on the boat before it left a city. I believe there may have also been a rule that you couldn’t leave the boat after a certain time of night (like 2 am), but you could return to the ship later than that if you were already out.