(Closed) honeymoon over:(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He is probably just cranky about something. I really wouldn’t worry about it. Don’t push him too hard but try to get him to talk about it.

It always helps me if I say to my husband ‘Now that we are married we need to make sure we feel comfortable talking to each other about what’s going on. I can’t help you if you don’t talk to me.’ and he usually opens up. It just takes reminding him that we have to communicate better for our relationship to work.

Post # 5
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

how long have you been together?  We have been together 2 years and married for a month and our honeymoon period ended long before our wedding haha

Post # 6
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@mrskane:  I don’t think it’s normal that your husband is not meeting your needs for intimacy and affection. I’d understand for a day or two if something is going on with work or his personal life, but if it is ongoing and you have tried talking to him but he brushes you off, you should look into counseling to see what the real issue might be.

For the record, I have been married 3 years, been with my Darling Husband for 11, and we still hug, kiss and cuddle every single day with the same passion as we did when we were 20.

Post # 7
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@mrskane:  I don’t know, if it’s anything wrong or bad…I understand being upset, especially if you just got married.  I think sometimes men can compartmentalize things to the point that they get a little robotic in their lives.

So while you guys were getting ready to get married, he was in Romance Mode:

Cue: Hugging, kissing….extravagent displays of affection.

Now you’re married people, time to go into Married Mode:

Cue: Belching, leaving a wet towel on the bed and eating your left overs that you saved for lunch in a midnight snack binge.

Mr. 99 kind of used to do this right after we got married, but he was honestly convinced that sooner or later, I was going to figure out he’s an asshole and throw him to the curb…joke’s on him…I figured out he’s an asshole, decided I loved him anyway and he calmed the hell down…now he’s stuck with me for life!

It will be ok!  Get some hobbies going, find someone to take walks with in the afternoon, join a bowling league and learn to knit…it’s just life and you’ve got a lot of time together!

Post # 10
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7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you think it is your weight why not start improving it? Perhaps it will help your confidence level go up and ultimately he will then be more attracted? Unless, of course, there is something deeper going on.

Post # 14
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1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mrskane:  So for the 9 years before the marriage, has he ever been like this?  If she’s been huggy and cuddly the whole 9 years and this is all brand new than something is up for sure, but if it’s an on again off again thing he might be just dealing woth some inner stress.  

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