Honeymoon Phase Ending

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When do you think the honeymoon phase is over in most relationships?
    6 Months - 1 Year : (26 votes)
    41 %
    1 - 2 Years : (20 votes)
    32 %
    2 - 3 Years : (12 votes)
    19 %
    3+ Years : (5 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I think it depends on the couple and the circumstances. My husband and I didn’t have a real honeymoon phase at all. After previous relationship, I took great care to look at the character flaws of potential future partners and heavily stressed in conversation which flaws I see in myself. I’m still annoyed at the same things I was annoyed at 4 years ago but my admiration for his intelligence, kindness and communication skills hadn’t changed either. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    6160 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2017

    When we moved in together the honeymoon period definitively ended lol. But years later we have both matured and compromised on so many issues and i feel our marriage is stronger. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    217 posts
    Helper bee

    Chemical that average is about 2 to 3 years, or atleast that’s the infoI got when I looked it up a few years back.

    Personally, 4 years later, I still worship the ground FH walks on and he still thinks I’m the best person ever so I really don’t think it is going away for us. We have been though some pretty hard time together too so it isn’t like the world around us has been all sunshine and puppies.

    Generally, I gauge it by our ability to tire of each other if we spend constant amounts of time together combined with the level of super inconvenient stuff we do for each other. I am waiting for the day where I just look at him like he’s insane for wanting 120 minute massages multiple times a week or when he stops buying me all the things. Though I have been forcing him to spot that anyway, for obvious reasons. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    475 posts
    Helper bee

    I honestly think it depends on the couple. My SO and I will shortly celebrate two years together, living together for most of that time, and I would still consider us to be in the honeymoon phase. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    My husband and I have been together for 8 years and we have been married for a little over 1 year. I feel that we are still in the honeymoon stage

    Post # 9
    Member
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    Boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and we still look at eachother like this.. weve lived together since 1 month in and we have 2 kids (mine from previous marriage). 

    I honestly cant see it changing anytime soon either. We are planning to be engaged within the next 6 months or so

     

    Edit:  We DO fight and have our moments — we are not freaks LOL 

    but i oggle him and he oggles me despite whatever issues have arised in the past

    Post # 10
    Member
    2332 posts
    Buzzing bee

    DH and I both came into our relationship determined to see ALL the problems. We addressed all isues head on early on. Because of this, we never did the “love goggles” thing. We saw each other pretty clearly from the beginning, and made sure that we loved the REAL person before making big commitments. We’ve been together 3 years and still worship each other. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    We did not have a honeymoon phase after marriage.  We probably had one when I relocated across the country to be with him for a couple months, but we were just a year into dating so it is hard to tell if it was truly a honeymoon phase. 

    With that being said, I do think we have periods of time in our relationship that feel very honeymoon-like or lovey-dovey.  For example, when we went on our honeymoon, 6 months after marriage, that felt like a honeymoon phase for 1-2 weeks.  After we settled into the house we bought, there was definitely a period of time that felt honeymoon like.  During our 2nd wedding anniversary, we had a month where we did a lot of fun stuff and that felt honeymoon like.  Sometimes the holidays feel honeymoon like.  Basically anytime we have more free time together and do not have as much stress. I have really enjoyed this and while these are not technically a honeymoon phase, they do feel similar. 

    Post # 12
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    3067 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I’m not sure we every really had a honeymoon phase or that there was a major shift from honeymoon phase to real life.. our relationship has been low intensity right from the start. We got serious pretty quickly but all our steps forward in the relationship largely made sense and we didn’t have a whole lot of conflict or friction with any of those steps. We just decided pretty early on that we liked each other a lot and as we got to know each other better,  we became more and more comfortable with one another.

    I’d say the biggest adjustment was when we first moved in together. We had been spending full weekends plus 1-2 evenings a week together for several months so it wasn’t like we were suddenly spending a huge amount more time together, but it was little stuff and basically just getting comfortable sharing a home. I moved into what was his place already, so for me it was a bit harder to get comfortable. The first time I pooped while he was home was fucking liberating!

    Post # 14
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    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    Man, this SO varies from couple to couple.  Even in my 3 major relationships.  With my XH it took about 2 years after we got married for the honeymoon to end.  Of course, that’s when I realized he had been lying to me about a lot of stuff too, but I digress…

     

    With my late husband, the honeymoon basically ended when we got home from the honeymoon.  But he had a lot of mental health issues that came screaming to the surface.  But again, I digress…

     

    For my current husband, we didn’t really have a honeymoon phase, unless we’re building into it now (and I kind of think we are).  When we met we were both in weird places, not emotionally ready for anything serious, but we really liked each other.  We halfheartedly dated/were friends for almost a year before getting serious.  Then we got closer and closer, but still had a lot to work through.  We broke up several times before we figured out all of our communication issues.  It was rough for a while, but we kept coming back…until we finally figured it out.  It was almost like a click.  We got engaged and married pretty quickly after that, and now that we’re married it just keeps getting better and better.  We’re way sappy now, super happy even dealing with mundane household stuff.  So I guess we had the opposite of a honeymoon phase…I hope this lasts a while 🙂  We will be married 1 year January 1st.

    Post # 15
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    3007 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it depends. 

    I voted for the 6 months-1 year because I think most adults don’t take too much time to get past the honeymoon phase. 

    That being said, I think personalities have a lot to do with it. My husband and I are not romantic or touchy feely or anything like that. We honestly have acted pretty much the same during the whole relationship. I don’t remember ever seeing him in a different light or romantizing the idea of us or him. When we moved in together we still didn’t fight or have a major change in our relationship. And then we we got married, it was the same way. Not much changed. 

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