Post # 1
When do you guys think the honeymoon phase is officially over? How long do you think you have to be in a relationship before you’ve stopped looking at someone through love goggles and would know them well enough to understand what it would mean to spend the rest of your life with them?
Personal experiences and general thoughts welcome!
Post # 2
Follow up! Do you believe anything would affect this? Example, living together? If so please comment!
Post # 3
I think it depends on the couple and the circumstances. My husband and I didn’t have a real honeymoon phase at all. After previous relationship, I took great care to look at the character flaws of potential future partners and heavily stressed in conversation which flaws I see in myself. I’m still annoyed at the same things I was annoyed at 4 years ago but my admiration for his intelligence, kindness and communication skills hadn’t changed either.
Post # 4
When we moved in together the honeymoon period definitively ended lol. But years later we have both matured and compromised on so many issues and i feel our marriage is stronger.
Post # 5
Chemical that average is about 2 to 3 years, or atleast that’s the infoI got when I looked it up a few years back.
Personally, 4 years later, I still worship the ground FH walks on and he still thinks I’m the best person ever so I really don’t think it is going away for us. We have been though some pretty hard time together too so it isn’t like the world around us has been all sunshine and puppies.
Generally, I gauge it by our ability to tire of each other if we spend constant amounts of time together combined with the level of super inconvenient stuff we do for each other. I am waiting for the day where I just look at him like he’s insane for wanting 120 minute massages multiple times a week or when he stops buying me all the things. Though I have been forcing him to spot that anyway, for obvious reasons.
Post # 6
I honestly think it depends on the couple. My SO and I will shortly celebrate two years together, living together for most of that time, and I would still consider us to be in the honeymoon phase.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
My husband and I have been together for 8 years and we have been married for a little over 1 year. I feel that we are still in the honeymoon stage
Post # 8
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I can definitely see how the beginning of our relationship was a definite honeymoon phase! We didn’t have our first fight until 1 year into the relationship (when we moved in together). Then we definitely went through a period of conflict. Not major conflict but there were just no more blind excuses/love goggles. Through that we learned how to communicate with each other!
The reason I started the post is because I still love him dearly! So much that I have no idea if I’m still in the honeymoon phase or if this is just our fantastic life and love! The way we treat each other and love each other feels so unreal! Because of that I can’t figure out if it’s just because we just love each other so much or if we’re still in that “phase”.
We have only been together 2 years but have been living together and been through a lot together for 1 and I feel like that means we’re probably out of the “phase”.
I’m just curious about all of your experiences and thoughts! I love all of you saying you still worship the ground they walk on after so long! It makes me think this is just how much we love each other!
Post # 9
Boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and we still look at eachother like this.. weve lived together since 1 month in and we have 2 kids (mine from previous marriage).
I honestly cant see it changing anytime soon either. We are planning to be engaged within the next 6 months or so
Edit: We DO fight and have our moments — we are not freaks LOL
but i oggle him and he oggles me despite whatever issues have arised in the past
Post # 10
DH and I both came into our relationship determined to see ALL the problems. We addressed all isues head on early on. Because of this, we never did the “love goggles” thing. We saw each other pretty clearly from the beginning, and made sure that we loved the REAL person before making big commitments. We’ve been together 3 years and still worship each other.
Post # 11
We did not have a honeymoon phase after marriage. We probably had one when I relocated across the country to be with him for a couple months, but we were just a year into dating so it is hard to tell if it was truly a honeymoon phase.
With that being said, I do think we have periods of time in our relationship that feel very honeymoon-like or lovey-dovey. For example, when we went on our honeymoon, 6 months after marriage, that felt like a honeymoon phase for 1-2 weeks. After we settled into the house we bought, there was definitely a period of time that felt honeymoon like. During our 2nd wedding anniversary, we had a month where we did a lot of fun stuff and that felt honeymoon like. Sometimes the holidays feel honeymoon like. Basically anytime we have more free time together and do not have as much stress. I have really enjoyed this and while these are not technically a honeymoon phase, they do feel similar.
Post # 12
I’m not sure we every really had a honeymoon phase or that there was a major shift from honeymoon phase to real life.. our relationship has been low intensity right from the start. We got serious pretty quickly but all our steps forward in the relationship largely made sense and we didn’t have a whole lot of conflict or friction with any of those steps. We just decided pretty early on that we liked each other a lot and as we got to know each other better, we became more and more comfortable with one another.
I’d say the biggest adjustment was when we first moved in together. We had been spending full weekends plus 1-2 evenings a week together for several months so it wasn’t like we were suddenly spending a huge amount more time together, but it was little stuff and basically just getting comfortable sharing a home. I moved into what was his place already, so for me it was a bit harder to get comfortable. The first time I pooped while he was home was fucking liberating!
Post # 13
That’s so funny I know exactly what you mean!! That period where you start getting comfortable enough to not hide little “embarrassing” things like pooping when they’re in the house or accidentally (maybe on purpose for some people?) farting in front of each other. The more comfortable and free with ourselves we got the more in love we feel!
Post # 14
Man, this SO varies from couple to couple. Even in my 3 major relationships. With my XH it took about 2 years after we got married for the honeymoon to end. Of course, that’s when I realized he had been lying to me about a lot of stuff too, but I digress…
With my late husband, the honeymoon basically ended when we got home from the honeymoon. But he had a lot of mental health issues that came screaming to the surface. But again, I digress…
For my current husband, we didn’t really have a honeymoon phase, unless we’re building into it now (and I kind of think we are). When we met we were both in weird places, not emotionally ready for anything serious, but we really liked each other. We halfheartedly dated/were friends for almost a year before getting serious. Then we got closer and closer, but still had a lot to work through. We broke up several times before we figured out all of our communication issues. It was rough for a while, but we kept coming back…until we finally figured it out. It was almost like a click. We got engaged and married pretty quickly after that, and now that we’re married it just keeps getting better and better. We’re way sappy now, super happy even dealing with mundane household stuff. So I guess we had the opposite of a honeymoon phase…I hope this lasts a while 🙂 We will be married 1 year January 1st.
Post # 15
I think it depends.
I voted for the 6 months-1 year because I think most adults don’t take too much time to get past the honeymoon phase.
That being said, I think personalities have a lot to do with it. My husband and I are not romantic or touchy feely or anything like that. We honestly have acted pretty much the same during the whole relationship. I don’t remember ever seeing him in a different light or romantizing the idea of us or him. When we moved in together we still didn’t fight or have a major change in our relationship. And then we we got married, it was the same way. Not much changed.