Post # 16
I could say that I feel like we are still in our honeymoon phase because we are still pretty schmoopy towards one another, but there has been a definite shift. I would say the shift happened when we moved in together at 2.5 years. For the first 2.5 years of our relationship, we mainly only saw each other Friday-Sunday because we lived about an hour apart, so we tended to focus all of our energy on each other during that time. Now that we live together and spend tons of time together, it’s more spread out.
Post # 17
I think it depends how you define honeymoon phase.
if it’s total lack of conflict I’d say around a year? For the first year we never once got irritated or argued. We still don’t really fight, but do get prickly with each other when we’re in bad moods. If it’s defined by being embarrassingly gaga over your partner – butterflies, can’t keep your hands off of eachother, total adoration – then we’re still in it (3.5 years together, 1.5 of that married).
But I think there’s usually a shift when you start living life as a team. ie when you move in together, share bills, when your family obligations become their family obligations etc. Then it becomes more grounded in reality – even if you’re still nuts about each other.
Post # 18
I don’t believe we ever “had” a honeymoon phase, or we haven’t got out of it yet. Started dating in March, 2016 and got married this May. If anything, we say to each other all the time that it feels like we have been together, building this life, forever. It’s really odd, like the time before we got together is just kinda no a part of our thoughts.