Post # 1
I found the most amazing place for the first part of our honeymoon and was about to book it, but left my purse at home. I called Fiance to get the credit card number for me and he let me in on a secret. A few of my friends wanted to surprise me and booked a room for us for the first couple nights. It’s SUCH a sweet gesture, but now that I’ve found this other hotel – I only want to stay there. And, I can’t stay there after the other hotel, because of limited availability at the other location.
I emailed my friend to see if they could cancel (but I noticed on the email there is a 14 day cancellation policy) – so, I think I’m stuck at the place I don’t want to go to. I’m SO FRUSTRATED and feel like a big baby for not being more grateful….
Post # 3
You should not feel like a baby at all. I was very detailed when planning our honeymoon so I understand. You have this picture perfect setting that you want to create for you and your future husband. Now you feel obligated and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I think people mean well, but sometimes they should really check with the bride AND groom before doing things like this.
However, a solution would be to stay there and maybe plan that as a future trip or anniversary. I know it isn’t a solution, but maybe a possibilty.
Hope you can work it out.
Post # 4
That is a very sweet gesture…but…who in the heck doesn’t want to plan their own honeymoon??? I would have been crushed if someone basically planned my honeymoon without me without my consent…sheesh. It’s a sticky situation because that was so nice of your friends, and it sounds like your Fiance was in on it…it just would have been nice for them to ask first.
Post # 5
I have a friend like this. She is lovely and only has my best interests at heart, but she is VERY presumptuous. For example, she ordered my Save the Dates…as in, she picked them out and sent them to me. She is now sort of offended that we can’t afford to mail them out (they are magnets) and are just giving them to people as we see them. We actually had email Save-The-Date Cards that I spent a lot of time making that are now useless because we can’t offend her by not using the magnets. I love my friend, but when she does stuff like this I want to bang my head against a wall.
Anyway, I completely understand how you feel. You don’t want to be rude, but you kind of think that this should be your choice…and really, it should be. Why they wouldn’t ask you, I have no idea. If these are very good friends, you can just tell them the truth. You really had your heart set on somewhere else and, while you have no words to describe how grateful you are for their generosity, you really wanted to book at this other place. They should understand.
Post # 6
I emailed my friend and asked her to call and see if they would make an exception to the 14-day cancellation policy. I don’t feel right having her eat costs associated with the reservation. UGH.
Post # 7
I really hope that works for you.
Was your FH in on this surprise or was this just your friends?
Post # 8
That is a hard position to be in. I hope they are able to cancel. It would’ve been better if they gave you money towards your honeymoon. Good luck!
Post # 9
Well, it’s getting worse before it gets better. A few of my closest friends were doing this for me. The one who did all the research and planning is really upset about it and making it clear to me that she spent a lot of time and effort researching. I’m trying to be VERY grateful, yet expressed the fact that I would have liked to have known. The other friend is being SO cool about it and not passive aggressive in the least.
The upset friend said she told Fiance and they wanted it to be a surprise for me – I think they told him the idea and what they wanted to do (after learning what our plans were). They just made the reservation on Saturday… but Monday would have been 14 days. We’ll see.
I’m honestly feeling like SUCH a pain for getting annoyed about this.
@trugem: seriously – that would have been a much easier route!