(Closed) Honeymoon planning – eek! Help me not be annoyed!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@oracle:

You should not feel like a baby at all. I was very detailed when planning our honeymoon so I understand. You have this picture perfect setting that you want to create for you and your future husband. Now you feel obligated and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I think people mean well, but sometimes they should really check with the bride AND groom before doing things like this.

However, a solution would be to stay there and maybe plan that as a future trip or anniversary. I know it isn’t a solution, but maybe a possibilty.

Hope you can work it out.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

That is a very sweet gesture…but…who in the heck doesn’t want to plan their own honeymoon???  I would have been crushed if someone basically planned my honeymoon without me without my consent…sheesh.  It’s a sticky situation because that was so nice of your friends, and it sounds like your Fiance was in on it…it just would have been nice for them to ask first.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have a friend like this.  She is lovely and only has my best interests at heart, but she is VERY presumptuous.  For example, she ordered my Save the Dates…as in, she picked them out and sent them to me.  She is now sort of offended that we can’t afford to mail them out (they are magnets) and are just giving them to people as we see them.  We actually had email Save-The-Date Cards that I spent a lot of time making that are now useless because we can’t offend her by not using the magnets.  I love my friend, but when she does stuff like this I want to bang my head against a wall.  

Anyway, I completely understand how you feel.  You don’t want to be rude, but you kind of think that this should be your choice…and really, it should be.  Why they wouldn’t ask you, I have no idea.  If these are very good friends, you can just tell them the truth.  You really had your heart set on somewhere else and, while you have no words to describe how grateful you are for their generosity, you really wanted to book at this other place.  They should understand.

 

Post # 7
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I really hope that works for you.  

Was your FH in on this surprise or was this just your friends?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is a hard position to be in. I hope they are able to cancel. It would’ve been better if they gave you money towards your honeymoon. Good luck!

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