(Closed) Honeymoon Registries – are they tacky?

• CaraMia10
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

You should add a poll 🙂

I personally don’t think so. Especially if you’re a couple who have lived together for some time, you may have everything, or most, of what you need.

• Moose1209
• 8 years ago

You will get strong responses on this one : )  It’s a big divider.

I personally think they are inappropriate.  Where I come from we almost always do cash as wedding gifts but specifically asking for cash is not OK no matter how you do it.  And let’s face it, a honeymoon registry is the same thing as flat out saying you prefer cash.  They would absolutely not be accepted among my family and friends.

But there are many people who love them and believe that their guests would be totally up for the idea.

• angela2011bride
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2011

I don’t know.  I think it just depends on how your family and friends would respond.  We made one that is through Carnival Cruise Line and it’s for excursions and stuff.  And we haven’t gotten any negative responses.  But, it’s not cash, we can’t withdraw it.

• Belle2Be
• 8 years ago

Yes they’re tacky, but we’re probably doing one anyway. Can’t be perfect all the time 😀

• mwitter80
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: December 2010

Well I am doing one. Fiance and I are in our 30’s own a home and blah blah.  We registered for some stuff as well (crate and barrell) and then for the honeymoon. We were so surprised at the positive reaction it got us. We did use honeyfund.com which let’s you post what you’re trying to pay for, so some of our relatives are excited because they felt like they are buying us an experience while we are on the honeymoon. I think it’s better than not registering for anything at all.

• lisa105
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

@VVtobe:  I’m in the camp that think they’re tacky.  Its just not proper to ask people to fund a vacation you can’t afford. 

• hilsy85
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2010

I don’t have a problem with them at all. A couple we know had one and I was more than happy to contribute and give them some money to help them enjoy their honeymoon. Also, you shouldn’t assume that if they  have a honeymoon registry they CAN”T afford the honeymoon at all, period.  They might just think that they don’t need anything off a traditional registry.

• Amani
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2010

I don’t think they are tacky at all.  I usually give cash at weddings anyway, but it’s nice to be able to devote it to an amazing part of the honeymoon.

I guess it could be considered tacky if it’s the ONLY place you register – it could look like all you want is money.  But I’ve only seen honeymoon registries along with one or two traditional registries.  If people don’t want to give cash, the B&G are also registered at other places, so people can still give traditional gifts.

• CaraMia10
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

@lisa105: They’re not necessarily paying for the trip. People buy the couple certain extras such as champagne, snorkeling trip, massages, etc.

• angela2011bride
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2011

lol @lisa105 – our honeymoon is paid for already – 4 months out.  But we did it because people will be able to gift us experiences instead of just things

• lampshade127
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2018

I personally don’t find them to be tacky but I also see it more as being given “travel credit” not cash (in the sense that we didn’t put the money towards a TV, computer, furniture, etc). We used Honeyfund and every contribution went directly towards paying for the extras on our trip.

Our home was already established so we needed few kitchen/bedding basics (we still had small registries at BBB and Macy’s). We wanted to give our guests another option. It was very well received as about 1/3 of our guests contributed through Honeyfund. I do think that reactions could be different based on where you live and who your guests are.

Also: We were not the couple to plan an elaborate honeymoon that we couldn’t really afford then beg for monetary gifts. Our trip would have happened regardless of the contributions made.

• soontobemrsreeves
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2011

Its not tacky. My Fiance and I have a honeymoon registry. Whats the difference between telling someone you want a $300 coffee pot compared to $300 put towards a flight to France? There really isn’t much difference to me. With my group of family and friends it means they don’t have to worry about going shopping and deciding on what to get me. Simply bringing cash, or a AMEX giftcard makes it convenient and easy!

• lisa105
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

@soontobemrsreeves: Well, you’re really not supposed to be “telling” anyone what to get you.  Registry information should only ever be given out if asked for. 

Traditionally, wedding gifts were to help the new bridal couple set up housekeeping.  Now that a lot of couples live together and/or are older, they don’t want or need those type things BUT, rather than just saying they don’t need anything, they attempt to direct their gusts bo buy things for them they DO want and that’s where it can get murky and veer off into tacky or rude. 

• doctorbee28
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

I think they’re tacky…You’re asking people to pay for a vacation and I agree that I don’t think it’s appropriate.