Post # 47
I think they’re tacky. When I mentioned it to some friends and family that our TA suggested one they, too, thought it was tacky. Some even thought it was offensive. I agree with that. Registries are supposed to supply you with things to make your home together as a married couple. Not a honeymoon, or moment of fun.
We are older and getting married (35 and 36) and have basically everything we need so no…. we aren’t registering for anything.
Post # 48
a wedding I went to a few years ago had asked for money for things to do on their honeymoon in place of a wedding registery. They had things itemized out for what they were and how much they would cost and then her mom collected all money and crossed things off the list. I was happy to pay for surfing lessons for the couple for their honeymoon rather than gong shopping to buy them a present. just an idea, that you could do it in place of a regular registery.
Post # 49
I have always felt that the registery should be stuff that you need for your home and to ‘set up’. I wouldn’t do a honeymoon registery because I don’t feel that my guests should contribute to my vacation. (this is just my feelings though… )
Post # 50
Piping up since I hadn’t read this perspective in the other responses, but the reason why a honeymoon registry strikes me as a bit gauche to me is that it feels like a fundraiser, and if the fund goals aren’t met, the couple won’t have the romantic trip of their lives.
I know some have said that they are registering for the “extras” for their trip, but it somehow feels more pressing than that, because you know the couple’s already booked their trip, and if feels like they’re counting on guests to make the trip fun (aka not a waste of their money). Whereas if you don’t buy that toaster…they don’t have a toaster.
Yes, I realize that most folks would just go out and pay for the massage if someone didn’t sponsor it, but in my opinion, it puts the guests in the awkard position of feeling forced to sponsor a trip because it’s in part already been paid for.
Post # 51
I wouldn’t be offended if I went to a wedding with a honeymoon registry,but I know some of our guests would be, so we are not doing one.
Post # 52
We did one, it’s the only registry we have. We’ve been together 9 years, it’ll be almost 10 by the wedding and so far we’ve only had positive feedback. I was nervous that people would think it was tacky but we’ve had two people buy gifts off of it and both made a point to tell us how cool they thought it was and are so excited they could get us something we’d remember forever.
Post # 53
We did honeyfund and had specific honeymoon excursions that our guest could contribute to. One aunt loved that she bought us a nice dinner for a night. Another friend was jazzed to give us the gift of a boat rental for a day. We also added the option to purchase home improvement gift cards for folks who saw our registry after our honeymoon. People got the idea that we preferred cash for our wedding so they either contributed that to our honey fund or brought a card with cash on the wedding day.
I’m 35 years old and just got married for the first time this year- I’ve owned my own house since I was 25 so I have everything I need, as my husband did. My guest knew this, love us very much and gave us what we wanted.
When I see this: “I wouldn’t be offended if I went to a wedding with a honeymoon registry,but I know some of our guests would be, so we are not doing one.” This is YOUR wedding. Please don’t let what you think your guest may be “offended” by dictate what you will or want to do on your wedding day.
I do think, however that asking to find an entire honeymoon is a bit odd but I’ve never come across that. We as wedding guest ultimately want to give the bride and groom what they want and for them to ask for it should be considered empowerment- not tacky.