Post # 17
I think my (and many others) objections, is that you aren’t actually registering for scuba lessons. You are registering for cash, which you hope to put towards scuba lessons.
You don’t even get a voucher for scuba lessons. You just get cash (minus any fees I’ve paid, which many of them charge if you use credit cards, or paypal).
I also think that many people don’t realize this as gifters. They think that when you buy someone a couples massage, that one day a masseuse shows up at your door, you strip down and get a rub down. Not that what you really get is a cheque. So it seems a little dishonest. And I’ve never seen a bride advertise this to guests.
If I wanted to give someone cash, I would. There is no need to register for it. Everyone likes cash.
But I totally get why people like it. I like that you are getting someone something they really want. But I also hope that people don’t register for stuff they don’t want. And realistically, I am likely to give you cash anyway, which you can use for whatever you want, scuba lessons, or a to hire a fire juggling little person to sing you a song, while you hump on the sand.
Post # 18
SendUsOff.com rocks! My hunny and I used them. Awesome, responsive, no adds or junk on the website, super competitve with the other services out there.
Post # 19
I am heading to honeyfund right now. I could not find one without fees! Thanks for the tip.
Post # 20
- Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater
I did a honeyfund registry and a bed bath and beyond registry.We got every single thing we put on our honeyfund. It was way more popular than the BB&B one. People loved it!
Post # 21
At first I could totally see the argument against having a honeymoon registry and the thought irked me . . . but with an international wedding, it suddenly made practical sense to Fiance and me, because the cost of shipping gifts around the world (whether by us or by others) made the prospect traditional wedding gifts a very difficult one. Fiance and I have completely paid for our honeymoon, so the things we’re asking for are mostly “extras” in addition to some “practical things” that we would have paid for anyway. So people have a choice — they can buy us a traditional gift registry gift at the retailer in our country of residence, or they can get a honeymoon registry gift using their currency of choice (mostly convenient for our American guests), or they can show up at the wedding with a traditional gift (that we will have to figure out how to ship back to our country of residence at a high cost to us) or a check. So in the end, we decided to give our guests a choice and explained the reasoning behind it.
Post # 22
We are going to have one. Mainly because our honeymoon will be both a honeymoon and an attempt at getting pregnant at an IVF clinic In Europe which will cost a pretty penny. I am still debating about whether or not to put prenatal vitamins and the like on the registry (kidding). As far as those debating on whether or not its tacky, I guess what others say is right. Depends on you and your crowd I guess. But I kind of disagree with that. Ultimately it is your day and your honeymoon so I say do whatever you want. The last few weddings I have been to have had them and the couples have been wealthy and I still didn’t mind. I didnt see it as the couples being cheap, I just saw it as them asking for something they wanted as opposed to a blender. I also disagree with some of the comments upthread. Somebody mentioned that they didn’t want to pay for somebody’s vacation but the honeymoon is not merely a vacation, it is what should be a once in a lifetime event. Also others stated that the gifts don’t actually pay for the massages, trips, etc. and that the sites just cut you a check. Which is true, but I plan to stay with the whole spirit of the whole thing and actually plan to use the money as stated in our registry. If your family and friends see you as an open and honest person, than I cannot imagine anybody really having a problem with how the money is distributed. Now if 2 weeks after a wedding you all of a sudden buy a red sports car and forego the honeymoon, that would be something different. In the end, do what makes sense for you and what you want. For the most part, the main person who worries about such things is always you and everyone else normally goes along with it all because they love and respect you. Its actually pretty fun to be able to pick out certain trip components as a buyer too. Another good idea is to send thank you post cards and or pictures if possible. For example, a self portrait pic and card of the couple on the plane with a bloody mary in hand to the guest who contributed to the airfare.
Post # 24
We just used Wanderable and loved it! A lot has changed in the way that they do things from a few years ago from when they were just starting. They have a ton of experiences that you can actually register for, so you’re asking for an actual gift instead of cash, which my guests liked. The fees are acutally easy too– there is only the standard credit card fee and no additional fees when you use one of their experiences providers. If you dont use one of those and just ask for cash, then there is an service fee. But we went with the experiences and it was GREAT! U can also choose to absorb fees for your guests, which is also what we did. We looked at a lot of the competitors too and their fees were way lower than the other ones. Also honeyfund you have to pay for a layout… um no thanks. Wanderable’s layouts were beautiful and FREE and got to upload our own pictuers, so it was exactly what i wanted. I highly reccomend them if you decide to go with a honeymoon registry.