Post # 1
I’ve been reading some other boards about honeymoon registries and I see that there are definitely some people that love it and others that think it’s tacky. I’m one of those that think it’s a great idea. I particularly like it because I’ve been living on my own (or with FI) for the last 8 years, there are not many household items we need (definitely a couple and some necessary upgrades going on the Macy’s registry).
My “honeymoon registry” is actually going to be set up through my travel agent, and my guest’s gift is going towards whatever we book and will offset our final payment. Their entire gift goes towards our trip (no fees)! Then my travel agent sends anyone that contributed a certificate indicating the amount which the guest can include in a card to me. Our travel agent info will be listed under our registry tab on the website and my mom & sister are going to be including her info along with my Macy’s registry info in the bridal shower invitations.
I know I have read many opinions against the honeymoon registry because it’s just like writing a check, but traditionally the shower is where you get gifts and not money. These days brides and grooms don’t need the traditional bridal shower gifts and it’s just a lot easier if the money they were going to write out in a check (that I would have to bring down to the bank, let it clear and then spend it) was applied directly to where it was going to go anyway! And while we are budgeting our honeymoon to what we can afford it’ll be nice to have a smaller final payment then we were expecting!
Post # 3
I’m glad it worked out for you in a way you’re comfortable with. Be aware, you still may have guests who aren’t onboard. Personally, I am against Honeymoon funds, but that’s a personal decision I’ve made. I would not contribute to it, but I hope you have luck with it!
Post # 4
@SagHarborBride: I’ve been talking with my travel agent about how to do this. We are totally against using the registry sites because the fees are so high so our travel agent offered to do this for us. We just aren’t sure exactly how to go about it. Could you give me details or PM me your wedding site so that I can see your wording? I’d really appreciate it as we are really stumped and our shower is in a month and a half.
Post # 5
@smrlovingrl: sent you a PM with the details
Post # 6
I’m really considering an HM registry, but I’m still exploring my options. So far, I liked some of the registry websites, because they also include the wedding webpage, which I really want. I didn’t know you could set an Honeymoon registry through a travel agent. How does that work? Does the agent arrange the guests’ contributions to go towards your Honeymoon payments?
Post # 7
@SagHarborBride: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this type of registry over a more traditional one. As long as you’re not dictating to your guests what they can gift you I don’t see a problem. I think putting this information on your website and providing it to those who ask is absolutely fine. Hopefully you’ll get to have a top-notch vacation.
My question is: what if you want to go on a $4000 trip, but people give you $6700? You have to use it towards your honeymoon??
Post # 8
@Innamorata: So in my bridal shower invitations my sister included a little sheet with her (travel agent) information (I also put it on my wedding website). When a guest wants to make a contributin directly towards the honeymoon, they call her up directly, let her know how much and she applies the payment directly – she allows for someone to mail her a check, drop off cash or she can take a cc # over the phone. She also prints out and mails the guest a certificate they can include in the card for us. We had to put deposits down with her to book everything, and final payment is due mid-August.
@NLbride: If the honeymoon gets paid off for by guests before the money is due from me and FH, then my travel agent will let us know so I can remove it from the website and if any guests call in the interim she’ll let them know it’s been fully funded already. I highly doubt my guests will be contributing the total cost of our Honeymoon, but I would love it if they did 🙂