Post # 1
My fiance and I have everything we could possibly need and therefore I am not planning on registering anywhere. A travel agency in my city has a honeymoon registry, would it be inappropriate to sign up for that and to put that as where we registered on the shower invites? I know that there is much controversy about honeymoon showers on here, has anyone else had a honeymoon shower? what were people’s opinions of it?
Post # 3
Personally, I am of the opinion that the purpose of a shower is relatives to come together and get you the things you need to start your life as a married person. If you already have those things, there’s no point in having a shower.
I’m also pretty sure you’re never supposed to put registry information on or with an invitation.
You’re free to do what you like but I think these types of things will have relatives talking about your etiquette in a not-so-good way. If you can live with that, ultimately it’s up to you.
Post # 4
I think it’s common and acceptable to put where you’ve registered on the shower invitations. But I’m also a little confused about a shower with out registering for gifts. I think the attendees will also be confused. I think it’s a nice idea to come together for a celebration, but they’ll likely bring something and it’ll be crap unless you register, IMO.
Post # 5
I’m sure there are some products you own that could use an upgrade. Honeymoon registries tend to rub some people the wrong way. If you have doubts about it, I wouldn’t.
Post # 6
Registry info can go on shower invites (just not wedding). However, I think a Honeymoon registry shower is very inappropriate. Showers are showering the bride with physical gifts and typically gifts that are to help you build your new life with your H. If you only have a Honeymoon registry than it makes your shower seem like more like a Honeymoon fundraiser.
However, lots of couples live together or already have everything they needs, so themed showers are becoming more poplular. What you could do is have a Honeymoon themed shower where people get you things for your Honeymoon (and not just cash). Think gifts such as luggage, backpacks, luggage tags, books, towels, lingerie, travel guides.
Post # 7
I know that the honeymoon registry is quite common and I can’t quite put my finger on why, but I really prefer giving a tangible gift to one of cash…there’s something so impersonal and business like about all of it to me…and I avoid doing so when I can, since registries are suggestions, not obligations.
Post # 8
I don’t see a problem with that. I’m using RegistryLove (www.registrylove.com) and I absolutely love it because I have my honeymoon gifts and regular gifts all on one list, and it looks good too!
Post # 9
I went to a shower where the bride had a ‘house down payment’ shower, and it was super awkward. The bride opened each of the cards everyone gave her, but it took like 10 minutes because there was no actual gifts (just checks).
I think the previous poster had a good idea with a honeymoon/travel themed shower. Otherwise, I’d skip the shower altogether if you just want cash.
Post # 10
That is what I wanted to do, like people don’t have to give me money for my honeymoon, like I told my aunt I need new luggage, like I would be happy to receive things I could use on a honeymoon like lingerie etc
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s appropriate to have a honeymoon shower, if you’re just looking for money, rather than things to use on the honeymoon (like PP said, luggage, lingerie, etc). Personally, I would not attend and probably send a much smaller gift than I would have if I attended because I think it’s a bit money-hungry/gift-grabby to ask for people to just give you money at a shower, since it’s really not the purpose of the shower.
Post # 12
If you aren’t having traditional registry, don’t have a shower. Have a luncheon or a tea instead.
Post # 13
I think it’s tacky. a girl at work is having one. The point of a shower is to celebrate and start your life together. honeymoons are not something you need, so if you have everything you need than i agree that you shouldnt have a shower
Post # 14
I think honeymoon registries are fine for wedding where you aren’t opening gifts in front of everyone. But I think it would be awkward for a shower. So I vote no shower and keep the honeymoon registry for the wedding. Or do a traditional registry ( in addition to the honeymoon registry) and have a shower.